ssssshhhh……it’s a secret- Flowers taught her to swap the anxiety of selfies and looking in the mirror and to learn how to create her own inner happiness instead!

Beloved Flower Lover,

Anxiety rules the world for some of us as we live a world of selfies, having to achieve another goal, needing friends to like us and needing to achieve social status.

Although some us make the effort on the quiet to list out our achievements nightly in a gratitude log, to recognize that we have friends who respect us  for our uniqueness, and have someone who has our back, whether on a one to one, small group, community or the world.

Some of us don’t. Some of us don’t have any other that and that can turn anxiety into depression!

Nevertheless some us are learning that even without social media liking us . That even without close friends, or a list of unique achievements  that we can spout of at the drop of a hat, that we are still lovable, huggable, kissable and gorgeous . Yes, even if others on the outside do not recognize that we can learn to find genuine happiness from the original source of it. Ourselves.

The Chief Education Officer at the London Flower Lover recently advised a young lady who asked her about this very same issue  to put her phone down during examination  season and to instead distract herself with flowers.

 “take up the Floral Distraction Method” as she coined it

The London Flower Lover

Chief Education Officer

Distract herself with making small flower arrangements for herself alone has scientific backing to it. Floral Distraction Methods reduces cortisol , the stress hormone, which is triggered when you are not happy, when you perceive that you do not have friends, are not meeting goals, or have no social significance.

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Floral Distraction Method is as follows:

Get quiet and  make small floral arrangements for self, to give away very small arrangements and to make them as unique as possible.

Our Chief Education Officer stated that it was by working with flowers each day for a period of time – e.g. 45 days, that she could rewire her mind to expect to feel good again. To use nature and its beauty as a symbol of who she was and to notice the boost she was giving herself through the energy of combining floral colour and texture. That this would add more good feeling chemicals into her body and reduce the unhappiness chemical cortisol.She said, do the step just a little at a time, each day and notice how you mood begins to life.

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Curious- try it and let us know your findings.

 

The Team,

 

…..more secrets to come

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Tip of the day-How to revive wilted roses

Beloved Flower Lover,

Recently a client flowers asked what to do she put the roses into cold water and wilted. We explained that she needed to care for them in a special way and if she did, that the roses will revive. We thought you might like to know too so put together  few videos that explain it well.

 

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Best wishes,

 

The Team,

 

The London Flower Lover

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Giving unexpected flowers matters

Beloved Flower Lover,

We got reminded yet again by walking through town with a vase of red ,orange and pink roses, and repeatedly receiving open arms and lovely smiles from men and women alike how that flowers matter.

A surprise of flowers turns on a surge of good feelings. Hormones such as serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin are released. Yes that spurt is for a few days, but it matters because it makes us smile. And that smile creates happy hormones.One smile can create another and sends a message to yourself that happiness is real.

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The incentive of giving surprise flowers is your well being.

So ultimately why not

The team,

The London Flower Lover

 

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Yes its 6 months into the year and you may be asking yourself are you an agent of Social Media, distracted by others or on purpose- We invite you to use flowers to follow your own bread crumbs and reflect your purpose

Beloved flower Flower,

Six months in, where are you with your goals?

Were you committed to your agenda, or did you follow someone else’s agenda. With as much self compassion use flowers to spread and infect the world with more love, peace and joy.

We are rarely struck with clarity around our purpose. It rarely happens like being struck with clarity . It’s often elusive. It’s normal. Be reassured and relieved.Take heart. However there is a path to find it for yourself.We find it by following the bread crumbs. Look for the things that currently excited you. That energize you. That switch you on.

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That is what you need to do right now. Pick one of them and just follow it.

It could be bringing more flowers in your life.  It does not matter what it is. Just follow it through. Keep re engaging with it, until it peters out, builds momentum or morph into something else.

So no shaming about not reaching goals. Focus on what excites you. It will lead you to your thing.Forget looking at people we admire and we love to emulate. They did exactly what we are saying….

Follow your bread crumbs…..

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

 

 

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Be a Summer Solstice Agent of Love- and let flowers be your proxy!

Beloved Flower Lover,

The way you can become a Summer solstice love agent is to simply be happy yourself. It affects those around you, and affects those around you. Give flowers to yourself and others and notice what you notice. Why not?

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The Team,

 

The London Flower Lover,

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Be a Summer Solstice agent -make the emotional contagion of the love, peace and beauty you feel from flowers spread as you use that on social media instead!

Beloved Flower Lover,

Some people are upset with social media and feeling a  upset about it. They point to the ‘nasty stuff’ that is being shared and how it fails to provide adequate solutions. That horrid stories are reshaping our minds as we transmit ‘nasty stuff’.

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We  invite you to think about getting turned on to another way of expressing the magic of sharing. We suggest you can rearrange your approach to social media by getting coherent first, then choosing a particular quality of love, peace, joy and beauty.  Imagine yourself infected with love, joy, peace and beauty.  Totally immersed in it. Select a flower of your choice and  only then share it with someone.

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There are lots of peer reviewed studies that refer to emotional contagion and we invite you to volunteer yourself to notice what you are transmitting with your energy. We are inviting you to volunteer yourself to notice what you are carrying, what you are spreading and what comes back to you. Yes this is your ability to shrink the alarm from ‘nasty social media energy’ and that’s the  medicine.

We welcome you to allow  flowers to re-shift and re-shape your social media. Create or create (destroy) it. That is our invitation to you.

From where we are we want to thank you for being a part of the invisible body of peace who hold the beautiful image of joy and happiness in our minds eye. Let us go and infect ourselves and others with love. Why not? ( we have per reviewed science to prove  that we can  emotionally infect each other, so why not spread well being)

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You might still be skeptical because of all the stress we see in the world. Yes,we have to do a lot of proactive stuff to pull ourselves away from the fact that our brain is designed to notice the bad. Why? Our brains were designed to notice the threat of a tiger, or lion. But now we don’t have those around we still have the brain wired for that, so we now focus on the danger of  being overweight, love life problems, ,problems with colleagues, problems with money, problems with health, what ever.

So its normal to notice the  ‘nasty’ threat.

However we are the ones who can practically shift our attention from the fear and take perspective on the stories we make up. We are not being chased by tigers, but to make sense of that, we need to relax and pay attention to calm and beauty.

Spending our energy on strengthened our kindness, to what is working in our lives. Then we make huge deposits and make a difference to our lives and others. This is the signal we then send out to others on our natural social media. That then is you being an agent of social change.

As an invisible group we invite you, us to choose to fill our minds with kind thoughts, noticing its beauty and to share with ourselves first and then to others.

 

What do you reckon? are you in? up for it? We just love you all so much.

The Team,

 

The London Flower Lover

 

 

 

 

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Summer Solstice peace-Putting ourselves in coherence with the natural cycles of nature is the crucial difference between making something happen or not-flowers are are proxy, our compass in the world!

Beloved Flower Lover,

First thing first.

Coming into coherence with the Summer solstice this week reminds us that it brings about a knowing that peace exists within ourselves first . It’s not something to go for. Its something to settle into as its always here. It was always there and we are nicer to ourselves and others as we spend more time paying attention to it.

We noticed that we were building more energy around beauty and peace and could feel that grow.  There is much research that supports this. What we notice is that  we improve in many ways.

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We are staggered that rather than being recruited by stressful situations and making more stress for ourselves and others, we find that by making coherence the focus, by shifting our focus on respecting and honoring the natural cycles that that peace shows up in our lives too. We becoming flooded with the bliss molecule. Reshaping the hardware of our brain, using the software of our thought. So we are literally  using flowers as our proxy. To shift our attention onto the beauty of flowers and sharing that happiness with others.

Just by coming into coherence with calm of the summer solstice,  can be triggered in different ways. Breathing, relaxing,  focusing on the nature of  flowers.

We are continually driving this signal through this blog post and our invisible connection. We are a coherent invisible body of peace, calm and beauty. Realistically bringing calm to ourselves first and sharing it with others during the Summer solstice is our love. Thank you for reshaping,shifting tension to coherent peace today. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

We love you and Happy Summer Solstice.

 

The Team,

 

The London Flower Lover

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How to have a tea party with your fear and give it flowers?

Beloved Flower,

We were inspired by Ed and Deb Shapiro’s work around fear. This first quote drew us into exploring and helped us make the analogy as  having tea and giving flowers to our fear in our process of embracing it.

“Bless you for your fear for it is a sign of wisdom. Do not hold yourself in fear. Transform the energy to flexibility and you will be free from what you fear.”  — Yoko Ono from Ed and Deb Shapiro’s book, The Way Ahead

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Ed and Deb continue to say that “As long as you push away, deny or ignore fear, it will hold you captive and keep you emotionally frozen, unable to move forward. In that place, you become untrusting of love and spontaneity; you get angry or hide. But where fear contracts and closes the heart—resisting love—love expands and opens the heart, embracing fear.”

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We were motivated to learn more about to be with the fear. The Shapiro’s say,
“Allowing fear in and making friends with it is no small feat; fear is a powerful emotion that demands understanding and patience. But trying to block it will simply create further anxiety.

Fear comes—you breathe and let go. Fear comes—you see how the mind needs reassurance and tenderness. Fear comes—replace it with love. When you do this, you are inviting the fearful and anxious parts of yourself to get to know each other, even to sit down for a cup of tea together.”

 

We were re inspired and thought you might like to explore this.

 

The Team

 

The London Flower Lover

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Feeling a little bitchy, she decided to bring about harmony using flowers. “I am not always smiley, I actually have quite an intense side. I want harmony with them”

Beloved Flower Lover,

Recently visited by a previously regular customer, we asked her why she had stopped, and why she had returned.

We opened up to her story.

She was very honest talking about how she had become very resistant to her own happiness since she had entered into an amazing job and relationship.She described how she had started to find she was resisting eating well and giving her flowers.

She went onto say that she forced herself and found herself resist herself even more. She was not bringing out the best from herself with all that aggressive force….But she did not know what to do. She found herself getting quite bitchy and just feeling quite unhappy despite all these amazing developments in her life.

She said there was a part of herself that she was now calling her ‘cool-bitch’ as she felt it was time to get to know her. This was the side of her that could follow through with the most intense focused power,without a hint of a smile and not care about the consequences to others. She went onto say that she realized that it was time to embrace and respect her.

She said something interesting began to happen. That the ‘cool bitch’ came out when she was facing a completely un-associated challenge  in life which she thought she could not accomplish or achieve .

She realized that she needed to learn about the issue that she felt she could not accomplish and actually talk about it, journal it, She realized that she could be a headmistress and rock the boss experience as well as be a total nerd. This was why she was buying flowers again. She was re exploring that special relationship again.

 

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Back to flowers!

She had decided to let go of the fear of the part of her that felt it was protecting her with the ‘cool-bitch’ persona because it felt that it had no other way of getting what it wanted. She realized that she still had a few more personal goals to achieve and that they could only happen if she had all her energy focused in harmony within herself. Getting to know that part of her that had been using sheer brute force to get things done and getting that part of her be friendly with other parts of herself was her focus now.

“My soft evolution embracing my strong revolution” she said as she winked at us!

“There is so much more to this. I will tell you more about my journey very soon”

 

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The team,

 

The London Flower Lover

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Still feeling blunt-Would you give yourself or others flowers if it helped you to solve problems or find creative solutions?

Beloved Flower Lover,

Still feeling a bit blunt we have been exploring the writings of Isiah Mcgee an amazing therapist in between our exploration of art, gardens and more specifically flowers.

The girls have been exploring different ways of making environmentally friendly designs because we are quite frankly fed up of using materials that ‘hurts the earth’ as well as ourselves.Yes we can use fancy words like corporate social responsibility, or the circular economy to justify ourselves to cynics, but quite frankly whether cynics are interested or not we are still looking at how we can walk our talk as much as we can.

That also leads us to think back to what some of the team are reading i.e. Isiah McGee. In a recent blog post of his, he talks about focus and creative problem solving. Mcgee says

“You underestimate your power but, for better or worse, Life does not. Because you do not understand the power of your power it is usually used haphazardly and in a sabotaging way because your essential focus is what life responds to – not your desire. The liberating difference between problem solving and creating solutions boils down to focus.

Creating your way out of limitation is about redirecting your focus rather than attempting to solve problems with the same mental “data-set” of past problem-solving attempts.

Remember this: Life responds by corresponding. The liberating difference between problem solving and creating solutions is about understanding that life reflects/responds to the essence of your focus. The emphasis here, on the “essence” of your focus, means your general or subconscious pervading focus rather than your conscious, momentary specific focus such as on a project or a concern.

In fact, it is your concerns that consume the essence of your focus power. We are conditioned to think that progress itself occurs by solving the problems that get in the way – or does not occur if ignoring them. What this propaganda of thinking elicits from Life is a problem-oriented state of living or expression.

Remember, life responds by corresponding. If essential focus is on fretting over problems or effort-ing to solve them life continues to provide more or intractable problems as a reflection of the problem-oriented focus.   Life responds by corresponding.” Isiah Mcgee

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He has left us thinking as we create our floral solutions!

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