Zippty do dar flowers-getting ready to take the most important peace break of the year

Beloved flower Lover,

The weather in London has dropped into the cold zone. And the pressure to do so much for the holidays seems to want to get our attention.

So much to be glad for!

And whilst getting on with work, and ensuring a variety of jumpers and other woollies are easily at hand, we continue to get very glittery, finding time to give a little ‘zippty do dar’ dance amount life. What a year!

So much to be glad for!

December 21-24, the most Auspicious time of the year is approaching. The time to glady go into our innermost quiet and giggle, smile, and have fun as we love up on ourselves, no matter what others say or feel about us. We gladly love the beauty of who we are.

The most self honouring time of the year is here!

We are preparing our detox herbs packs, offering suggestions for the best ones to be taking during those four precious days. Keeping beautiful flowers around locks us back into what is natural about ourselves.

The circulation of inspiration and empowerment that is shared from this space, no matter how quietly done, redirects our attention to the most precious part of who we are-that is love. So as we say here,

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So much to be glad for!

The Team,

 

The London Flower Lover

Empowered and inspired!

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Tell us what flower expresses your sweetest love story

Beloved Flower Lover,

It’s a joy to share with you.

We played with the idea of using ‘love poems’  to express a love story that is highly treasured and never dies. Flowers guide us. We are drawn to flowers because we become more clear about the purpose of love in our lives. Somehow being in the presence of flowers, helps us name and follow that feeling of love in our hearts.

So we hoped you could help.

We have found just two love poems that inspired us today to feel the part of us that never dies and really wanted to know from you which flower might best express these most treasured feelings.

Here goes…

Poem 1

“In the Holy Relationship, it’s understood that we all have unhealed places,and that healing is the purpose of our being with another person. We don’t hide our weaknesses,but rather we understand that the relationship is a context for healing through mutual forgiveness.”

– Marianne Williamson

Poem 2

When inward tenderness
finds the secret hurt,
pain itself will crack the rock
and ah! let the Soul emerge

Rumi

OK. We thought you may be able to help.

If you are willing to put your hand on your heart and feel the precious reassuring feelings embedded in both poems, then go ahead and select your flower of choice.

It’s a joy to share with you from the heart.

Thank you for responding

The Team

The London Flower Lover

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Roses and her Stronger Heart. The Story

Beloved Flower Lover,

It’s raining right now in London. It’s cold.

We are wrapped up. Relaxed, we get on with the day. Cleaning, putting vases away, organising wires, putting props away and generally being useful. The mobile rang and a little voice cooed so softly “thank yoooooooooou”.  

“You are welcome”, was the reply.

A little later on in the day, the same voice reappeared but now as a little head poking out from around the door, beaming, “the  roses are so working. Thanks for the tip”

She ran off. The day went along and she returned after the school run. She walked in

” the roses and those heart chi kong exercises you suggested have made my heart stronger I think. I am not so distracted by him and I am just allowing myself to be happy about the things I am happy about already.

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She continued.

“OK, update”

We all perked up.

“I have had two old boyfriends returned into my heavenly orbit. No not that one, the other one.  And also I have not seen my ‘boyfriend’ for three whole weeks. He has been driving friends and family around every night after work to all sorts of places all around London.  And then he gives me  what he calls air play. Which amounts to two second phone calls. My heart was heavy. But you guys kept on insisting on me doing my chi kong and getting roses in.

“I was feeling tense, tired, ignored and dismissed but I have been listening to you and now I am feeling so much better. I still get a little distracted but felt better enough to go for a job in a local school. I did not even get an interview, but I feel ok. Also, I am only just getting paid for work that I did in the summer.  That money got spent ages ago and I have bills mounting up yet somehow I still feel great. I would have been crying before, but doing those chi kong heart exercises and making sure that my hall has flowers is making me remember I am a lot more than all of that. So I am  just calling to say thank you and that I am carrying on with the tip you gave to me.”

We carried on, cleaning vases, tidying up the space which had got over run with clutter. Putting away secateurs, ribbons, and wires. We listened…

“I was just about to go into feeling sorry for myself,  and begin to tell everyone the story that my life is so not working out. That I am in limbo, then I realised that I did not have to substitute anger, fear, or upset for happiness because I was not getting what I wanted.”

Yes, I looked at those roses. They seemed to follow me around the room.

“Then I remembered Byron Katie’s four questions from her book Loving What Is, and tried them out on myself again. And again, and again. Aren’t we funny creatures.”

she went on a little more

“Thank you for being an oasis,  my cheerleaders and for helping me to put together a set of thinking that got me to appreciate that.So, yes, I am not lacking anything. I am happy the way things are. If I cant be happy now, when will I choose to be happy. I f I  cant be peaceful with this situation which one would I choose to be. I love myself and I love my roses. They remind me of me. Thank you.

With the speech now finished. She beamed and as she turned her back , we looked at each other and chuckled, happy that someone felt listened to today.

The Team

The London Flower Lover

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Match your energy to the beauty of a flower you love. Then notice what you notice about your day

Beloved Flower Lover,

Experiment for a five minutes, an hour, a day, a week, a month, or longer, matching your energy to the beauty of a flower you adore, love, regard as a symbol of peace.

Then notice what happens

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The London Flower Lover

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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

Beloved Flower Lover,

“An eye is meant to see things.

The soul is here for its own joy.”

   ~ Rumi

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Flowers for overachieving women workers and entrepreneurs – overworked, overburdened,overstressed-what next?

Beloved Flower Lover,

Over-achieving women workers and entrepreneurs, this post has been inspired by you.But first, do you recognise yourself? Look at the following poll and see.

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She wasn’t born with a silver spoon. She worked hard to earn scholarships to be able to attend university. Her parents didn’t buy her a car.  She bought her own. Her parents couldn’t help her with a deposit. Instead she had helped her siblings with their mortgage.  With time, she cultivated an array of  skills to compete at work. But she only explored fulfilling ‘girly’ things when no one was not looking. She was a little curious about her friends who talked about freedom, from the inside out.

However, somewhere along the way, she over-did the overachieving. Her mind was racing and she didn’t even realize it, and she was fighting through life… just to prove that she was worth something- and she did not even know it, let alone admit to it.

 

It got all to much. When  her long-term marriage headed straight for divorce, after they both had a business together. She had a flash that she would end up, peri- menopausal, jaded, divorced, broke, raising children as a single mother and agressively shouting at people as she dreamt about having done things VERY differently when she was younger. And in secret  she wondered, what did the female arts offer her……. She choose a different path at this darkest hour.

Flowers offered her a very private personal compass to remind her that she could just relax….

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This story was inspired after listening to story-teller, teacher and youth leadership champion, Larry,who  has a really interesting way of encouraging over achieving women, face themselves

Will you allow yourself to relax? even a little?

What can you do to swap stress for relaxation and peace?

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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  • if you make yourself too busy to invest in yourself, the best asset you have then don’t use flowers to relax into your feminine strength
  • if you just want to make a living, rather than a thriving,then don’t use flowers to relax into your feminine strength
  • if your vocabulary starts with, “I can’t afford…”then don’t use flowers to relax into your feminine strength
  • if  you value keeping up with the Jones’ more than fulfillment and philanthropy,then don’t use flowers to relax into your feminine strength
  • if you use your children or life partner as an excuse to not cultivate your feminine powers, then don’t use flowers to relax into your feminine strength
  • if you listen to your fears more than to your dreams,then don’t use flowers to relax into your feminine strength
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Lillies and Cats Research- How to avoid your cat’s death from some flowers

Beloved Flower Lover,

It’s worth keeping in mind that some flowers can hurt the pets we love. Lilies & Cats are intoxicated by Lilies. Over recent years lily poisoning have become one of the most common poisoning of cats in the UK.

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We have been looking over key floral research and since we have had a cat join our home studio we felt it necessary to remind you of the research.

Over the year it used to be permethrin flea products that cause most poisoning of Cats.
Acute renal failure has been known to arise in cats after eating or ingesting various members of the lilium genus since 1989 (Brady & Janovitz, 2000). In 2004 three Lilium species were documented to have produced toxicosis in cats.

The three species were: – Lilium longiflorum (Longi Lily), Lilium tigrium (Tiger Lily) and the Asiatic hybrids, however other lilies are listed by the National Animal Poison Control Centre in the USA.
These include:
Lilium longiflorum(Longi Lily)
Lilium tigrium(Tiger Lily)
Lilium speciosum rubrum( Rubrum Lily)
Lilium umbellatum
Lilium orientalis ( Oriental Lily)
Hemerocallis (Day Lilies)

Cats are very fussy eaters but they do have a tendency to ingest parts of the lily from leaves, flowers and most of all the pollen. The kidney is the principle organ that is targeted by the toxin with the cat dying of acute renal failure 3-6 days after the exposure.  Clinical signs include depression, dehydration, increased urine, thirst, vomiting and anorexia.

Mortality from exposure is between 50 and 100% if treatment is not commenced before the onset of the clinical signs. Emergency treatment should be sought urgently, a vet should induce vomiting to empty the stomach and stop further toxin being absorbed, along with the administration of active charcoal to bind the toxins in the gut. Major intravenous fluid therapy will further help remove the toxins.

Cats coming into contact with the pollen should be shaved to remove the pollen from the coat hairs before they can groom themselves.

Advice for cat owners:-
Lilies are potentially lethal to cats if ingested.
All parts of lilies are thought to be toxic to cats.
The pollen bearing stamen should be removed from the flower, to stop cats contaminating their coats with the pollen and then ingesting during grooming.
Lilies should be placed where cats are NOT able to come into contact with them.

If cats have come into contact or eaten material from a lily emergency veterinary treatment should be sought immediately, if no treatment is sort 50-100% of cases prove fatal.

When transporting to the vets the cat should be prevented from grooming or the fur shaved to stop any further ingestion of the pollen.

Source: – Society of Floristry, Glen Cousquer BSc(hons) BVM&S Cert Zoo Med MRCVS

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The Team,

The London Flower Lover,

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David Kessler demystifies death, dying and grieving with love

Beloved Flower Lover
David Kessler, one of the most well-known experts on death and grief, helps explain and demystify what happens in our final days. His book Visions, Trips, and Crowded Rooms and helps us understand what’s really happening during the dying process.

We invite you to explore.

Bless you

The London Flower Lover

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London Florists find research about how to stay out of divorce and in love

Beloved Flower Lovers,

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As you might know we are in the wedding and self love business. We post pictures about flowers and how they relate to our everyday lives. We are of use to our community because we offer flower arrangements that people can use to convey feelings of genuine love and kindness.

Seems so simple. So effective. We find that just by giving and receiving flowers people’s stress levels reduce. For both giver and receiver.  So these simple acts of loving kindness act like a subtle health insurance on the whole heart.

The flowers are really a part of an emotional coaching kit and connection building activity that results in creating safer spaces for the free flow of love and the airing out of bad feelings between people. Great value for money we feel for whole hearted wellbeing.  Anyway, after hearing about the book ‘Wabi Sabi’ love by Arielle Ford, we found her comments about the research by John Gottman about staying out of divorce and being in love breathtaking. We found his research provided lots of little tips that linked with so much other research we have found about kindness, the heart and sharing beauty from nature.

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On reflection, love is not exclusive to romantic relationships as Robert Holden’s book on ‘Loveability’ reminds us. In fact we are deeply aware of not getting lost in the false notions of romantic love as being our only source of love. Love is in all our relationships. Smiling we feel richly warmed by Harville Hendricks reminder that we can heal each other into wholeness through our intimate romantic relationships. Or as Iylanya Vazant says, “feel the peace from broken pieces”.

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Any way, as you look at this short clip you may like to note down the ratio of loving kind acts that you may need to put into action to compensate for just one negative behaviour in your relationship.

So it seems that our emotional bank accounts needs a 5 to 1 ratio top up. An investment that plants seeds which pay back and pay forward in our lives. And it starts with us. Our own love for self.

Five positive acts for one negative seems to be the plan. Now of course we are going to suggest that maybe flowers might be involved with expressing just one of those loving acts of kindness. Sorry we are really laughing at ourselves here, such a blatant plug. Anyway let’s get back to the education. What else does this prompt you to give as a loving act of kindness?

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Peace and joy from the laughing team!

The Team

The London Flower Lover

p.s. what follows is a lot more great research on marriage which may give good ideas for giving and receiving flowers.

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Power, Money, flowers the intimate conversation begins

Beloved Flower Lover,

TheLondonFlowerLover The conversation, how can i love you more

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