How to have a tea party with your fear and give it flowers?

Beloved Flower,

We were inspired by Ed and Deb Shapiro’s work around fear. This first quote drew us into exploring and helped us make the analogy as  having tea and giving flowers to our fear in our process of embracing it.

“Bless you for your fear for it is a sign of wisdom. Do not hold yourself in fear. Transform the energy to flexibility and you will be free from what you fear.”  — Yoko Ono from Ed and Deb Shapiro’s book, The Way Ahead

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Ed and Deb continue to say that “As long as you push away, deny or ignore fear, it will hold you captive and keep you emotionally frozen, unable to move forward. In that place, you become untrusting of love and spontaneity; you get angry or hide. But where fear contracts and closes the heart—resisting love—love expands and opens the heart, embracing fear.”

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We were motivated to learn more about to be with the fear. The Shapiro’s say,
“Allowing fear in and making friends with it is no small feat; fear is a powerful emotion that demands understanding and patience. But trying to block it will simply create further anxiety.

Fear comes—you breathe and let go. Fear comes—you see how the mind needs reassurance and tenderness. Fear comes—replace it with love. When you do this, you are inviting the fearful and anxious parts of yourself to get to know each other, even to sit down for a cup of tea together.”

 

We were re inspired and thought you might like to explore this.

 

The Team

 

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Feeling a little bitchy, she decided to bring about harmony using flowers. “I am not always smiley, I actually have quite an intense side. I want harmony with them”

Beloved Flower Lover,

Recently visited by a previously regular customer, we asked her why she had stopped, and why she had returned.

We opened up to her story.

She was very honest talking about how she had become very resistant to her own happiness since she had entered into an amazing job and relationship.She described how she had started to find she was resisting eating well and giving her flowers.

She went onto say that she forced herself and found herself resist herself even more. She was not bringing out the best from herself with all that aggressive force….But she did not know what to do. She found herself getting quite bitchy and just feeling quite unhappy despite all these amazing developments in her life.

She said there was a part of herself that she was now calling her ‘cool-bitch’ as she felt it was time to get to know her. This was the side of her that could follow through with the most intense focused power,without a hint of a smile and not care about the consequences to others. She went onto say that she realized that it was time to embrace and respect her.

She said something interesting began to happen. That the ‘cool bitch’ came out when she was facing a completely un-associated challenge  in life which she thought she could not accomplish or achieve .

She realized that she needed to learn about the issue that she felt she could not accomplish and actually talk about it, journal it, She realized that she could be a headmistress and rock the boss experience as well as be a total nerd. This was why she was buying flowers again. She was re exploring that special relationship again.

 

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Back to flowers!

She had decided to let go of the fear of the part of her that felt it was protecting her with the ‘cool-bitch’ persona because it felt that it had no other way of getting what it wanted. She realized that she still had a few more personal goals to achieve and that they could only happen if she had all her energy focused in harmony within herself. Getting to know that part of her that had been using sheer brute force to get things done and getting that part of her be friendly with other parts of herself was her focus now.

“My soft evolution embracing my strong revolution” she said as she winked at us!

“There is so much more to this. I will tell you more about my journey very soon”

 

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The team,

 

The London Flower Lover

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Still feeling blunt-Would you give yourself or others flowers if it helped you to solve problems or find creative solutions?

Beloved Flower Lover,

Still feeling a bit blunt we have been exploring the writings of Isiah Mcgee an amazing therapist in between our exploration of art, gardens and more specifically flowers.

The girls have been exploring different ways of making environmentally friendly designs because we are quite frankly fed up of using materials that ‘hurts the earth’ as well as ourselves.Yes we can use fancy words like corporate social responsibility, or the circular economy to justify ourselves to cynics, but quite frankly whether cynics are interested or not we are still looking at how we can walk our talk as much as we can.

That also leads us to think back to what some of the team are reading i.e. Isiah McGee. In a recent blog post of his, he talks about focus and creative problem solving. Mcgee says

“You underestimate your power but, for better or worse, Life does not. Because you do not understand the power of your power it is usually used haphazardly and in a sabotaging way because your essential focus is what life responds to – not your desire. The liberating difference between problem solving and creating solutions boils down to focus.

Creating your way out of limitation is about redirecting your focus rather than attempting to solve problems with the same mental “data-set” of past problem-solving attempts.

Remember this: Life responds by corresponding. The liberating difference between problem solving and creating solutions is about understanding that life reflects/responds to the essence of your focus. The emphasis here, on the “essence” of your focus, means your general or subconscious pervading focus rather than your conscious, momentary specific focus such as on a project or a concern.

In fact, it is your concerns that consume the essence of your focus power. We are conditioned to think that progress itself occurs by solving the problems that get in the way – or does not occur if ignoring them. What this propaganda of thinking elicits from Life is a problem-oriented state of living or expression.

Remember, life responds by corresponding. If essential focus is on fretting over problems or effort-ing to solve them life continues to provide more or intractable problems as a reflection of the problem-oriented focus.   Life responds by corresponding.” Isiah Mcgee

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He has left us thinking as we create our floral solutions!

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Let’s be blunt- would you take the risk and give yourself flowers?

Beloved Flower Lover,

“A person’s life unfolds as a reflection of the mental associations made with conditions experienced. These associations become the subconscious script informing and motivating our reactions to life.  Our mental associations can either promote or hinder the expression of authentic desires”. Isaiah Mcgee

We thought about Mcgee’s point and the process of gift giving to self.

We notice from our customers that some are very happy to give flowers to others, and they are quite different to those who choose to give flowers to themselves.

Being at the coal face of customer contact, we find that they see the world differently and approach discussions around self love quite differently. Some minimize either approach. Some embrace. Some don’t care, some care deeply. Some are looking for guidance and willing to follow. Some want to decide for themselves and will come to their own conclusions about how to use anything, including flowers to express love to themselves or others.

No one approach is better or worse than another. A lot of what we have noticed over the years is the extent to which someone is taking an inner journey. We do notice that what we do here is about keeping that discussion open . That’s what we value and value those who are curious enough to continue to explore how flowers can be used as a metaphor for both relationships.

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Flowers for self gifting and flowers for giving gifts to others has really proven to have opened up an amazing journey of discovery.

 

We wonder what you have discovered?

 

The team,

 

The London Flower Lover

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Take risks, Take risks, Take risks…that might even mean doing something like giving or recieving flowers

Beloved Flower Lover,

Some of the most courageous acts in life are about showing love. Sometimes that means showing someone else love in a warm affectionate way when you are not used to doing that.

Sometimes that means you  receiving  that warm affection from someone else.

Sometime love can come in a the cooler form of unconditional love,where you give seeking nothing in return.What ever form of love that this blog post is trigger for you, consider taking the risk today to experience even more of it and watch love flower in your life.

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Prince Harry looked so happy yesterday, as he married his ‘flower’ Meghan Markle

 

Beloved Flower Lover,

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What was in Meghan’s bouquet?

Beloved Flower Lover,

Well as with the various other royal wedding traditions, there is royal precedent for wedding flower arrangements. Meghan’s bouquet followed a centries old tradition. Every royal wedding bouquet dating back to Queen Victoria’s wedding in 1840 contains at least one spring of myrtle.

Know that she loves peonies, we came up with our own inspiration for Meghan

 

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Wedding Flowers!

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Well done Philippa Craddock for those pollinator friendly royal wedding flowers!

Beloved Flower Lover,

Royal florist Philippa Craddock’s  was preparing Pink roses and white blossoms  and more for the wedding. Harry and Meghan chose Craddock to create the floral design for their wedding, both for the ceremony at St. George’s Chapel and the reception at Windsor Castle.

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“I am excited and honoured to have been chosen by Prince Harry and Ms. Meghan Markle to design and create their wedding flowers,” Craddock said. “Working with them has been an absolute pleasure. The process has been highly collaborative, free-flowing, creative and fun.”

Craddock and her team will use flowers and plants that are naturally blooming in the wedding whenever possible, including branches of beech, birch and hornbeam. The arrangements will reportedly feature white garden roses, foxgloves, and peonies as well. After the wedding, the flowers will be shared with charitable organizations.

The plants and flowers are being provided by the Royal Parks. The Palace also shared photos from inside the Royal Parks Nursery to highlight the blooms that will be used on the big day.

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Markle and Prince Harry’s choice of wedding cake will also include a selection of fresh flowers. The lemon elderflower cake, which will be created by Claire Ptak of Violet Cakes, revealed the cake will be covered in “buttercream and decorated with fresh flowers.” Peonies will be among the arrangements at the royal wedding, Meghan revealed that the large blooms were among her favorite flowers.

 

 

The Team,

 

The London Flower Lover

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The Flower Mother-Doria Ragland

Beloved Flower Lover,

 

As soon as we found out that Meghan Markle’s mother calls her Flower we had to find out more about this amazing woman.

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This is what we found.

Markle has written about her mother and their bond several times. In a 2014 Tig post called “Love Letter,” the soon-to-be royal described her in this way: “Dreadlocks. Nose ring. Yoga instructor. Social worker. Free spirit. Lover of potato chips & lemon tarts. And if the DJ cues Al Green’s soul classic “Call Me,” just forget it. She will swivel her hips into the sweetest little dance you’ve ever seen, swaying her head and snapping her fingers to the beat like she’s been dancing since the womb. And you will smile. You won’t be able to help it. You will look at her and you will feel joy. I’m talking about my mom.”

Markle credits her parents’ influence with her philanthropic instincts. “Both my parents came from little, so they made a choice to give a lot,” Markle wrote on The Tig in 2016, “buying turkeys for homeless shelters at Thanksgiving, delivering meals to patients in hospice care, donating any spare change in their pocket to those asking for it, and performing quiet acts of grace—be it a hug, a smile, or a pat on the back to show ones in need that they would be alright.”

It was her upbringing that inspired her advocacy work.

Meghan and Harry-Congratulations on your nuptials!

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