Can you imagine Ageless living/ Ageless flowers?

Beloved Flower Lover,

 

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Why give flowers when there is corruption in the World?

Beloved Flower Lover,

To those who are new to us, we want to let you know that, what we are going to talk about today is a different way of relating to the world and ourselves with flowers.  We use research to provide a view about flowers which emerges when you look at them through another set of eyes. Research gives us a context, hidden behind the ‘giving and receiving of flowers’.

Ok, we look at what we all consider that makes a good and fulfilling life. We look at life knowing that there is a whole other dimension of life going on, which in some ways the beauty of flowers expresses for us all.

We look at the news and recognize that we all feel disgust when we see people behaving badly either in Parliament or on the streets. It’s interesting that the work of evolutionary psychologists tell us that our human aspiration for spiritual uplift actually began as an adaptation against bestiality. This is in line with spiritual teachings from all over the world. Aware of how disgusting our lives would be without morality, humans adapted a survival tool for self-improvement and transcending our animal nature to our higher nature. (We have two animal brains, the reptilian and mammalian brain and the higher brain cortex). It is the moral emotion known as elevation that activates the higher cortex.

Just as we feel disgust when witnessing others (or ourselves) moving down the moral purity scale, so do we feel a corresponding, uplifting emotion when we witness others behaving in virtuous, pure, or “divine” ways. Psychologist Jonathan Haidt, who began his career researching disgust, calls this elevation.

Emotions like awe and admiration elevate us. What we experience is an elevation within us, which is among the more divinely delicious gifts of the mirror neuron system in the brain, whose function is to “bring the outside inside.”  We have looked at research which states that just witnessing, character, virtue, beauty, and truth soothes our vagus nerve, which stimulates oxytocin production and triggers in us, the desire to be better people living better lives. This includes to ourselves and others.

Mmmm kind of delicious we feel, that this is the by product of applying beauty, and virtue to ourselves and others. It’s even sweeter to know that we can actually dissolve pain and suffering and create forgiveness and bring self back to the loving inside ourselves through exposing ourselves to things we admire and hold in awe, like beauty.  Yes, flowers are the beauty, and the body’s own science then does the rest.

As long as we do not know about the science we do not know what we are doing. We are changing that, by looking at the neuroscience of the brain.  And love talking about how this research and its links to beauty and flowers present a way to heal and rewire our brains for peace and happiness.

Imagine honestly looking at ourselves and genuinely seeing ourselves with compassion through the beauty for say a wonderful flower arrangement. Imagine seeing ourselves like the way, the “vagal superstar” like Barack Obama (as he is known in neuroscientific circles) is seen to others because he has inspired multitudes to believe in a greater vision, not of him but of themselves.

Imagine just noticing in your own life, where you have done just the same thing. In your family, at work, with your lover, within yourself. Imagine that looking at yourself so differently and envisioning yourself differently just by viewing yourself differently.

Elevation is not the same as happiness. Elevation is linked to moral beauty. Individuals with high vagus nerve activity (and thus more oxytocin) appear to be better at handling stress, building community, coping with bereavement, and breaking up conflict, according to psychologist Dacher Keltner. Ra Un Nefer Amen’s work talks about how you too can develop that talent in yourself because it is present in us all.

Elevation also differs from admiration for nonmoral excellence. When test subjects see awesome performances of death-defying feats — think of Phillipe Petit, the Frenchman, who tightrope-walked between the towers of the World Trade Center — they report feeling chills and tingles, whereas elevation is a calmer feeling. We feel lifted by displays of goodness, though public displays of mass elevation can annoy and irritate those resistant to it (as we saw among Obama detractors driven foolish by so much uplift). Heroism and aspiration make us aspire; witnessing courage can help make you brave; feeling hope in a world with obstacles, despair, recession, helps to make human life not only bearable but packed with potential. We say to ourselves, if they can do it, why can’t we?

Radical! Transformation! Awesome!

 

There is a connection between the contagion of elevation and our positive good feelings towards selfless people in our family, work, friendship, and worldly circles. Take Oprah Winfrey, who big hearted, generous and open handed who encourages others to be the same way. To test the theory of elevation, Haidt and an assistant gathered forty-two lactating women together in his lab at the University of Virginia. Half of the nursing mothers watched an episode of Oprah involving a rehabilitated gang member. The remaining group of nursing women spent their time watching an ordinary episode of Seinfeld. The elevation difference between these two groups was dramatic. The Oprah-watching mothers overpoweringly leaked milk into their pads (the sign of oxytocin lifting them up) and nursed their babies afterward. Hardly any of the Seinfeld watchers so much as wetted a pad. Elevation had made the Oprah mothers more generous and loving.

Wow, consider that!

If there is something generous, loving, caring, inside you that wants to be expressed do it. If you feel like buying him or her or the team flowers do it.  It is by being generous with them and ourselves that we encourage others to be more of who they are. Loving. Give yourself the permission to do that. Honour it and respond to that calling. If you want to send flowers to people you admire, your teacher your child, you minister, your friend, your husband, your wife, your mother, your dad, your cleaner do it. Why? It affects others around you who are watching. They benefit in ways you do not know. It ripples out and affects them positively.

Giving flowers can remind you that elevation is not a big deal. It’s simple reflecting something that wants expression. If for no other reason, the vagal activity shifts our attention to connection. When we behave reassuringly toward others in an I’ve-been-there-too-you’re-not-alone kind of way, it’s the vagus nerve doing the work.  Yet it is opened up by your attitude first. By inducing feelings of similarity between people, the vagus nerve calms down our fight-or-flight impulses. Soothes it, softens it, quieting it, when you have been having conflicts, you could explore what your heart wants you to give voice to.

We all have feelings of intimate connection spurred by the sight of other people’s moral goodness. This is the uplift — and the outpouring of love — that believers seek in churches and temples (and secularists seek in nature and art).  Just by giving flowers, sends messages out to so many. They get us to “turn off the I switch and turn on the We,” as Haidt puts it. “Powerful moments of elevation seem to push a mental reset button, erasing negative feelings and replacing them with feelings of hope, love, and optimism, and a sense of moral elevation,” he writes. The collective supersedes the self, at least while we’re feeling uplifted.

 

Give flowers when you consider how much in wonder and awe you feel in life. It’s a wide open invitation to express. Wonder and awe appear to serve a similar evolutionary function to elevation. The Greeks, who were taught by the Ancient Kamitian people in Egypt, applied a principle that stated that Zeus (Ausar) gave human beings two qualities necessary for survival: a sense of justice and a taste for reverence (or awe). Goosebumps (piloerection) are the body’s response to awe, apparently, a response to the sense of self-expanding beyond our physical limits to merge with the larger collective.

Awe is always prompted by contact with something greater than oneself. Two conditions must be met for awe to occur: first, we must perceive something vast (physically, conceptually, or spiritually vast, or oversized by fame); and, second, the vast thing cannot be accommodated to a person’s existing mental structures. Religion have been our traditional method for promoting such peak experiences, and for maximizing their ennobling powers. Atheist or believer, we all share the biological need for self-transcending emotions to counteract disgust.

There’s a story that we were drawn to about elevation. During World War II, the poet Anna Akhmatova read poetry over the radio waves of Leningrad — where food was so scarce that human flesh was being flogged in the streets – to make it ok to elevate her people  using the power of language and beauty. She stepped back one step and reminded herself and the starving masses that sacredness still existed in the world. In other traditions, they also use the beauty of art. It’s like the nurturing the feminine aspect of beauty is in fact the source of our care. That nourishing of the beauty inside present us all with a golden opportunity for spiritual advancement. As we encountered this story knowing that she read those poems about valor and love, and about the light they had nearly forgotten, extinguished in them through suffering that things fundamentally changed. Those who survived to remember this moment of courage, determination, and poetry spoke of it later in awestruck tones. This work with beauty, love and peace, during disturbing times, soothes us all. If she had approached it from a victim position, through fear, that she would have had to wait for things to change would have left her ravaged to. Instead, she shifted and allowed both herself and others to tap back into the truth to perfection. This had profound changes from the inside –out. She did not judge the situation by complaining, she simply focused on beauty, joy and happiness. This simple good deed of reading poetry became an awesome deed by providing a guide back to who we really are. Peace, happiness, joy and unity.

Thank you for allowing us to share with you the healing opportunity that giving beautiful flowers provides us and others. Thank you for following us as we continue with this work.

The Team

The London Flower lover

p.s. take advantage of the power of beautiful flowers

 

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Even As You Order Your Flowers, Never Believe Marriage Will Make You Happy

Beloved Flower Lover,

Myths about marriage are everywhere. We looked at one today

There is a  belief that being married will somehow complete us.

Just having that belief can put a lot of pressure on married life being the key to our happiness when it should only be looked at as an added bonus to our own already-established happiness. Nothing outside of us can make us happy, it has to come from within.

Marriage can become problematic when we get married and realise it hasn’t made us any happier in the long run and can often lead to marriages being a disappointment and eventually break up.

We have talked to many who say that

“Make sure you are truly happy and release the pressure put on marriage to bring happiness to you”.

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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How being annoyed with the play, fun and good life of other people, may help us to draw beautiful flowers into your life

Beloved flower Lover,

We were thinking about the Facebook phenomena, where people post happy smiley faces,a wonderful life with all their successes and achievements. Knowing that that is often fake we began to think about how sometimes we reject the play, flowers and beauty in our lives and how its useful to be aware that it might even irritate us if we see it in other people’s lives, even in a photo.

Is that familiar?

Is this a commitment to being one down,  seeing ourselves as an underdog, seeing ourselves as a victim, who will ‘never’ be able to have what we want to be?love, freedom,peace?

Making beauty, play, flowers bad and wrong as we work to raise our families. Raising our eyebrows at the thought of  making enjoyment, playfulness, flowers and beauty  apart of our lives whilst we are responsible for our families.

Is it possible to consider this.

 

“I am a workhorse and I am lazy”

“Responsible and irresponsible.”

I am all of this and it’s ok

 

Find lazy in ourselves as well as beauty, as we look at the lives of others and ourselves, may help us to begin to clarify our real purpose and where true self love comes from. When there is no wrong way to live our lives when we come from a place of peace about our worthiness and the future we want to live into.

Not a big believer in just manifesting, we have to bring in some clear action. We have to meet the desire with action, so all parts of us, the workhorse and the lazy one become as one.

Maybe just a quick examination of beliefs. To journal, to write down on paper the beliefs we currently have about money and work. Then go one by one and finding a counter example to that belief. Then create a new empowering belief which we can use in place. You are allowed to rethink about yourself as worthy!

We are all one!

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Stand up for yourself as you allow yourself to stand up for the yumminess of life for us all.

Perhaps, just do nothing for a little bit and reminding yourself that you are worthy just as you are, even if you have not got it all together-(so called)!

 

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

p.s. perhaps we can expand the capacity to have and recieve all parts of ourselves without beating ourselves up……stand up for what you deserve to recieve

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Getting children ready for the new term, and still had to have flowers around!

Beloved Flower Lover,

How many of you are sorting out school uniforms, getting the ironing done and entertaining the young ones all at once!

How many of you are still looking after yourself with flowers, perfume and more!

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Allow yourself to dignify the task with the beauty of you!

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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Flower Secret: Become initiated into beauty over the next seven days.

Beloved Flower Lover,

Initiate yourself with beauty.

Notice the expressions of beauty between people

Notice your own expression of beauty, towards yourself, towards your world, towards all that is greater than you

Notice beauty, perhaps in nature

Notice it now and make that your initiation today.

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Guess what, if you are having problems, things not working, failing terribly, we invite you to say thank goodness for this situation, as it would have kept you further away from your divine inheritance.

Perhaps let’s make the next seven days all about your own inquiry as you reset yourself, and notice your divine inheritance. Perhaps for the next 7 days, see what you have already been given. You do not need to want no more. No more self condemnation for not being amazing. Go enjoy beauty.

The Team,

 

The London Flower Lover

 

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Flower Secret for the day: Happiness is the key to success, not the other way round

Beloved Flower Lover,

Some days we just wake up and realise that the old tricks cannot work anymore. The old ways of getting happy are over. They are done, over,complete. This feeling gets stronger as we think about returning back to school in the upcoming autumn. It’s really hot, bright and sunny again today in London, and we realise that we are going into  a period of undoing and change. This beautiful summers day will be replaced with the autumn very very soon.

As we think about that,and reconsider the flower selection we will be working with, the realisation that happiness is not about chasing, or the hard work. It is in fact a gift that is already there and it in fact invites you to be open,receptive and to have space to welcome the success that is there.

Space, is like a womb, so instead, rest, become prepared to let go of all the ideas of being capable, positive and confident. Maybe there is something better for you.Another level of joy that is waiting for you. A new level for you. So maybe its time to let go of clinging to the past as if it was the best you could ever have.

Perhaps honour the past, and now acknowledge that where I am is where I commit to happiness now.

There is a myth out there that says that once you are successful that you will become happy.

We invite you to turn it on its head and focus on happiness instead as that opens you up to come up with different ways to be successful.

Imagine if you were just 10% happier, how would you be with yourself? with others?

Perhaps surrender to this, do not try to get your head around it or figure it out. Let the thinking go. Don’t try so hard, do less, avoid spreading yourself too thin. Pace yourself knowing you don’t have to try so hard.The old tricks cannot work anymore. The old ways of getting happy are over.Done, over, complete. Maybe prepare to give up the search for happiness instead and just sit in the perfection of today.

As we create the relationship with ‘now’ we then can enjoy the happiness of now. So we invite you to take an initiation into beauty, expressions of beauty and to perhaps thank life for making this so obvious today. Maybe show gratitude for this secret and enjoy how life is already loving you and that you internal happiness is always there.

 

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

P.s. tell us a way that you could let life love you a little more today?

p.p.s. invite yourself to enjoy the happiness that is already inside of yourself as you look at flowers and enjoy their beauty.

p.p.p.s life does not have to be perfect for you to be happy. Life is created perfect today

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Flowers and Money

Beloved Flower Lover,

What’s your money story?

If you feel brilliant with money and buying flowers then this material is not for you. However if you want to enjoy more intimacy around money and the pleasure of flowers then you might find that this post is really an invitation for a new self expression. An opportunity for course correcting, which is kinda what we do here. A sort of pattern interrupt. A sort of interuption of a way of being.

So let’s think a little more.

When you go and buy your flowers, or for someone else, what do you say to yourself?

Can you admit to yourself that you do not know about things like retirement,investments, tax?

Are you more committed to being seen in a certain light than actually being clear about your real net worth?

what ever the answers, we want you to take yourself to a safe space first. Grow the self love, the self worthiness and then flower as you would like.

A lot of these questions have been inspired by Nancy levin’s book ‘Worthy. We find her to be a great coach and so wanted to share her with you as we to take the opportunity to rewrite the real love story about ourselves, money and flowers.

 

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Flowers for Angelina Jordan

Beloved Flower Lover,

Summertime, flowers and the heavenly talent called Angelina Jordan.

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Congratulations Team GB

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At our last count we had 66 medals from the Rio Games. Can there be more?

We are so excited!

Congratulations Team GB,

 

The London Flower

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