It’s Thursday, choose sunny yellow flowers and calm down

Beloved Flower Lover,

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“Daylight is my friend…colour is my lover….aaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh and today yellow is my vision”.

We were struck by her poetry and smiled as we listened clearly as her words unfolded from her being. We felt that the relaxing time for absorbing soothing words was here. We were past superficiality.

“I want some yellow flowers.”

“I am going to find a river or lake today and want to offer some flowers. I have made a choice about my life. I am the change I want to see in the world”.

She continued and we already felt better in anticipation…open to her flowery words.

“God needs me to fulfil my  greatest talents in order to come into the world.  It’s reciprocity. The never ending circle of life. God comes through people and our deeds. If I do not live up to my best how can God’s best be exposed. Fulfilling God’s need is the highest act of love, and only through my love for God can I  fulfill my love for others.  We all grow from sharing and loving. I choose to express my talents as the mechanism to express the Love of God in the world for the protection of the world”

She continued and we remained open to her sunny words.

” we have access to a peace that cannot be disturbed by anything in the world — it’s our nature—since we are one with all, since we have access to spiritual power, why then can we not love those who commit transgressions on us — especially when the act of loving is the generation of the most powerful force in the universe?   If we are one, then the good I do to you, I have done to myself — is this not the key to wealth and health?”

She was sending a calming message to our amygdala. We felt safe. We felt our anxiety clear and calm.

” I know Truth. It is the reciprocal relationship of things. I live by it and am therefore in harmony with the whole. My being is in order and I am a source of harmony to all. I want the yellow flowers to express that vibration of optimism in my life to others.

She smiled and we wondered.

We took a moment to allow ourselves the chance to relax a little more and asked how could we apply this practise to a situation we had had a challenge with?

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Let’s start with what we can do right now we felt.

Colour, colour colour.

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We felt calmed down enough, open enough to explore the practise of using colour psychology.  Inspired, we decided to explore using yellow in our imaginations and designs to experience good feelings.

Yellow colour   Rumena barva

Yellow is the colour of sun, light and optimism, which stimulates, activates and frees the mind from fear.

It stimulates alertness and promotes concentration, whilst symbolizing creativity and wisdom. Yellow promotes motor skills, and communication.

On the walls of hallways and kitchens yellow has a positive warming effect. Yellow has the greatest impact on the respiratory organs,  and helps in treatment of anxiety, increases blood pressure, accelerates the pulse and breathing rate and has positive effect on nervous system.

The most common shades of yellow are: cloudy yellow (calming, thinking), live yellow (agility, boldness,relaxation), olive yellow (gloomy mood) and citron yellow (alertness, vivacity, liveliness, perfection).  So the yellow flowers we suggest you may like to choose today are: Daffodills, carnations, chrysanthemums, gerbers, tulips and orchids.

Be a  colour scientist and choose any yellow flower really. Choose and notice a shift in your feelings.


The Team

The London Flower Lover

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Lani Leary tells us what the dying want

Beloved Flower Lover,

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Ready to die, having gone to pick out their joint plot, they asked two of their children to look after their fiances. They were ready to die.

It was Lani Leary who taught  them how to approach dying. It matters, it so matters how we die.

This post is a gift of love for us all.

The Team

The London Flower Lover

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Yellow Cheery Flowers for all women and men throughout the world who had to hit rock bottom before they got back up again.We believe in you!

Beloved Flower Lover,

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Do you need a tweak right now?

Well its’ been an incredibly busy last two weeks here in south London. Delivering fresh flowers from on-line orders we are find ourselves on the phone a lot. Yet so many people we have been talking to have been calling in and describing feelings of being lost, confused and depressed, Yes really.

Yes, they are welcoming the spring yet….well, they seem to need a tweak.

It reminded us of a few affirmation resources that we found. A video from a super powerful singer Ledisi, who is a fabulous singer who found that she did not fit in to the industry standard and through her rejection found her real purpose.  

What we adored about her short video here is how she says her music affirms women of all races, ages, generations to see themselves through the eyes of love.

She seems to be asking the question why is it so easy to feel genuine love after you felt rejected?




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Then we found more easy to appreciate videos that describe how you can train your brain to ask of yourself, why are you so lovable, huggable, kissable and adorable despite challenges, obstacles, and setbacks ?

What a switch!

We found all videos helpful and since belief is so important we opened up even more to receiving and enjoying your ability to really listen to the fun, love, happiness and peace that is in your hearts right now.

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So again, all of this was triggered by all the open, conversations that we have been having here in South London as people go about their daily lives.

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Where are we in this picture?

Well it’s the same really. We are affirming you with beauty, to hold you in a space of peace, joy and happiness and from that space of gratitude, we affirm who you are. Who we are.

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Thank you. It’s why we give and recieve flowers.

The Team

The London Flower Lover


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Valentine Flowers of Choice – The Red Rose or not the Red Rose?

Beloved Flower Lover,

Are red roses unimaginative?

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You decide.

For some, the red roses has become unoriginal and lacklustre.  Which might even feed into other ideas about a dull, boring romantic life.  It takes away the idea of an inspired celebration. We suggest working together to use other flowers to reflect your romantic. This can be a process for singletons as well as for those involved in a long term relationship.

The red rose is still very popular and supply outstrips demand making the price rise. It is not the best time of year for roses and many get held back in freezers and brought out for the big day.

What alternatives are there?

One of the flowers we love for Valentine’s is the Ranunculus. They are a relative of the humble buttercup. They look like small peonies, last around seven to ten days, and reach their crowning glory the day before they perish.  Poppies or a mass of tulips or even some scented Narcissus if your budget is limited. They can all create a sense of giving without limits and feeling joyful about your loved ones.

I’ve got money to spend but want something long-lasting. What should I buy?

We always recommend cut orchids. Why?  Phalaenopsis last two weeks and Cymbidium may last three or four weeks, which is actually sensational floral value.  Another exquisite flower at this time of year, which lasts for ten days easily, is Amaryllis. Imagine a bouquet of Pussy Willow with a few stems of Amaryllis – sublime.

How do I make my Valentine’s bouquet last?

All flowers benefit from a thoroughly clean vase; treat it like you’re going to drink out of it. You need to cut the stems off the flowers with a slanted cut to allow the maximum amount of water to rise up to the flower head. When you receive the bouquet and prepare it for your vase, remove all foliage that is going to be under the water line as that will cause bacteria and shorten the life of your flowers. It’s really important to use a sachet of flower food in the vase as this acts as a sugar and also an anti-bacterial agent. Always change the water and re-cut the stems every day to improve the life of your flowers.

Where would I find an eco-friendly bunch of flowers?

The only way of really knowing that you have an eco-friendly bunch of flowers is to grown them yourself! We have been told that growing flowers under glass in the UK is just as damaging to the environment as flying in some roses from Kenya, Ecuador or Columbia. Instead, you could choose some Narcissus or snowflakes from local growers.

My loved one is prone to sneezing. What should I buy?

The safest choice is tropical flowers: heart shaped Anthurium or orchids would be best.

What are the pitfalls of ordering flowers online and how do I avoid them?

We would recommend that you use an online florist that you know and trust. However if you want originality, imaginative, original ideas that you are never going to get an ingeniously artistic creative handmade, designed bunch from a factory.  It is so not the same as talking to people like us, or going to your local flower shop or stall. If you want a visionary, inspirational design reflecting your relationship, you may find that many of the well-known internet companies use the same companies to facilitate their internet orders and so the choice online maybe more limited than the customer initially perceives.  We would suggest talking to us. Or to your local florist who can reflect your vision.

What sort of flowers should I buy for a man?

We have come to know that, Blue Hyacinths are a favourite of Sir Terence Conran; Norman Foster likes all one type of flower in a primary colour. Apparently, Jon Snow loves some scent and likes garden flowers. We have noticed that men enjoy the thought and enjoy a range of colours. Possibly in a primary colours such as red, yellow and blue rather than pastels.

I don’t live near a florist. Will shop-bought do?

If you don’t have access to an independent flower shop, we recommend buying lots of one type of flower and colour from a supermarket and re-wrapping it in some same colour tissue and a bow to improve the presentation. Please trust you own inspired inventive instincts on style and freshness. And remember if your creativity suggests its ok to choose something other than red roses from a multiple supplier, then it is.

Remember, this is a season to express love.

Who do I give valentine flowers to?

Anyone who you want to send a message of appreciation. This includes yourself, girlfriends, and guy-friends, along with your intimate lover.

You can let go off the idea of specialness, which suggest that your intimate relationship is your only source of love. Play big and take the opportunity to share love with all those you love.Your self included!

The Team

The London Flower Lover

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Self fulfilling prophecy and flowers

Beloved Flower Lover,

A Self Fulfilling Prophecy is a prediction that causes itself to come true due to the simple fact that the prediction was made. This happens because our beliefs influence our actions.

For example, if a woman thinks that her husband will leave her for another woman, she will act in ways that will directly or indirectly cause her belief to come true. She might get jealous easily and make a fuss about him being friends with other women. She might pick fights whenever she suspects that he is cheating on her, or she might go through his personal things to look for evidence of cheating. Eventually, her actions will put a strain on their marriage, and her husband just might leave her, causing her prediction to come true.

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Have you ever been asked to do a task, such as maybe you’re starting a new job, and you believed before you started that you wouldn’t be good at it? Maybe you thought to yourself, ‘I’m not going to be able to do this,’ only to try it out and realize that your fears were correct? This is known as a self-fulfilling prophecy.

A sociologist named Robert K. Merton created this term in 1948 to describe a false definition of the situation evoking a new behavior, which makes the originally false conception come true.

In other words, the prediction we make at the start of something affects our behavior in such a way that we make the prediction happen.

Self-Fulfilling Prophecy in Action

Going back to our earlier example, let’s say you’re starting a new job as a receptionist but have never done that type of work before. You may have a strong belief that you won’t be able to handle the responsibilities. As you begin your job, you can’t think clearly, you keep saying negative things to yourself about the work you’re doing, and you’re in a lousy mood, so the customers dislike you.

Three weeks later, you lose the job. In this case, your negative expectations at the beginning of the job have affected your behavior to the point that your prediction comes true. Once that happens, we believe that our prediction must have been correct, which only encourages our confidence in future predictions, thereby perpetuating a reign of error, as Merton put it. Self-fulfilling prophecies are not limited to affecting only ourselves; we can also make predictions about other people that create the same type of results.

So let’s think about flowers, love, friendships, work, your health, your finances.

Where might you need to be radical to think you have real hope, real energy, to solve real problems? Where might you want to use flowers as your signpost symbol to remind yourself that you are flowering into that very wonderful thing you  predicted?


Just a thought


The Team,

The London Flower Lover

p.s. what else do you predict for yourself today?

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Dreading the first day back at work and decided to use the love for flowers to clean up our energy before we walk into 2018’s office

Beloved Flower Lover,

Dragging our feet about the first day back at work tomorrow. Talking to others in the team about the ton of encouraging messages flooded into our various emails for 2018 and wondering, now what?

We thought about all the lies in our head ( you know the shame or guilt about work success) and how loud they were becoming in our heads . e.g. The harder we tried in some areas of our business , the harder things became. We felt shame and guilt because we are the London Flower Lovers, are meant to be upbeat. The truth was sometimes  we were not even putting flowers around in our personal space. Finally something snapped. We enjoyed the winter solstice and we decided we needed to run the show.

We had decided to ditch all the ideas which came from fear or desperation  and made peace with the current experience of the flower business. and let go of attachment of making more of the business and instead focused on extreme service- like we used to do. The question was slowly being answered about how do we honour ourselves as we approach going to work tomorrow.

Well we love to make ‘our’ customers to feel good. And we notice that when push comes to shove, we lean into encouraging clients into feeling good more than anything. We love making people to feel good. We notice that when we do the self guilt or self shame thing, that we end up disconnecting from the very people we want to serve. And that feeling good becomes forgotten  and we just crumple. So what next?

So of course showing up with the right energy is the right thing for us to gently focus on because at the heart of it, we are not high pressure gals.

So what next?

Beating ourselves up!


Not fun,

Feed up of not being turned on……no way.

Our mindset about the bewildering array of techniques out there- was it was just all too much!

So we decided to chuck away our leads. Stop going to intense networking events . To let go of high maintenance clients,  (you know the ones, who were only focused on  the short term  and cheapness ). And then we  decided to make a list of all the things we used to shame and guilt ourselves. And after writing it out. BREATHE IT OUT on the EXHALE and BURN the LIST.

We decided to stop hustling…..we were fed up.

Then after listening to lots of good ideas we personally opted on Jeanna Gabellin’s approach on clearing up ones energy. We opened ourselves to the beauty of our flowers again.

She talks  a lot about taking a low stress approach to life. To allow a dream  of joy. To guide selves using the fuel of joy, rather than  forcing yourself into things you do not want to do.  To avoid the  push yourself through your comfort zone stuff, to let that mentality go completely……mmmmm sounds delicious.

We took her main ideas on. They are:

  1. Focusing on what the client wants? rather than focusing on getting the client. focusing on servicing them only. There powerful ally to get them to achieve
  2. Do what we want, rather than what we feel forced to do. In other words focus on joy and love.
  3. Act like all clients are coming. Act like everything is right. To let go of all the pressure each day. Just being relaxed. This will inspire the good feeling. When you don’t need the client, you step into the feeling of abundance. In the energy of abundance. …. Jeanna we love this!

Feeling better already, seeds of ideas started to flow into our minds with a smile. So the next step before we go into tomorrow is to write up our answers to the next five questions.

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  1. How do we want to feel about ourselves as we interact with clients?
  2. What do we want to bring forth for our clients?( values, skills)
  3. What do we have to release? ( any shameful/guilty secret insecurities, like “oh gosh we need to make x amount of money by now”, or “it’s taken this long”, ” its too expensive to live here” , or “we should be better at this by now”, etc)
  4. Why do our services rock?- write that down
  5. What’s the best, most fantastical possible outcome?

Feeling good already, this is the energy we carry into tomorrow. The energy we carry before we make any phone call or even touch a flower.


We are ready to move through the next day, next week, next quarter, next year!

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This is about the process!


Hope you found something useful in this.



The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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Be gentle,soft and have no expectations as you approach successful change, become like the softest petal ever

Beloved Flower Lover,

Amazing opportunities on the horizon. Could she now achieve what she wanted. Gleeful….she was met by her elders who told  her to calm down as she approached change.

She was told not be forceful…to  soften, to be kind to herself  and others and to not try to force others to change if they did not agree with her.  And for those who want advice from her, to be gentler, quieter,  kinder , softer.

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Dealing with her elders helped remind her that she did not have to go at it like it was out of her control. Patience, pace, and peace. Calm down,soften up, slow down.That’s what will make the difference today.


The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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Not feeling Christmassy today- why not? Feedback from those who attended the Winter Solstice Flower Workshop say they feel brilliant today

Beloved Flower Lover,

Just felt the need to share. Been talking to two sets of people today already.

It’s Christmas day and some people in London say they don’t feel Christmassy. They don’t feel like they have anything to look forward to. They have  holiday but have no energy. Their energy is low and miserable. They say it’s just for children and that no one is looking after them. They feel bound up in what ever they are doing. Underneath a rock and just getting by.Tired of the over consumerism of the holiday and unwilling to spend money they do not have.

No energy on Christmas day. Keeping it real they say!

We spoke to another group. All  the people we worked with on our Winter Solstice workshop feel thrilled, excited and looking forward to the next year. They have reported a shift in attitude, a shift in beliefs as they engaged totally in the flower workshop process. They have generated a bright energy.

Comparing these two sorts of people,  the light bulb went on.

Oh gosh, it’s so true, spending time during the Winter Solstice to focus on forgiveness, giving thanks for the previous year, and stepping into the pleasure of their dreams realized. They report that they are  now operating on another level. The winter solstice flower workshop the londonflowerlover1Generating their own light energy and clarity about how to enjoy life. Mmmmmm a number of insights going on there. Curious about this?


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The return of the light has return-The sun of man has been reborn, let’s enjoy flowers!

Beloved Flower Love,

A fresh start is now here.

Have you ever noticed how many religions have lots of holidays at this time of year. Well its all to do with the shortest day of the year and then the celebration of the return of the light. Yes, The return of longer days. The return of the sun!

The sun of man has been reborn.

In the depth of winter, We celebrate the return of your light. What ever inspires the sunlight within you- we celebrate!

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The team,

The London Flower Lover

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Thank you!

Beloved Flower Lover,

We appreciate you. You are on our gratitude list.

Thank you.


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  1. the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.
    “she expressed her gratitude to the committee for their support”
    synonyms: gratefulness, thankfulness, thanksappreciationrecognitionacknowledgem
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