The least romantic gifts to give

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The London Flower Lover

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Flowers and the top 5 regrets of those dying

Beloved Flower Lover,

We had the opportunity to enjoy a very personal funeral last friday, and are still smiling. Our work done, we pondered on a life and came across a story about Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. “When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently,” she says, “common themes surfaced again and again.”

Here are the top five regrets of the dying, witnessed by Ware:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

We paused, exhaled deeply felt the rebirth of our smile and smiled even more brightly.

Take from this what you wish, we have.

Love, peace and joy

The Team

The London Flower Lover

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Regena Thomashauer (Mama Gena) reminds us why a woman giving herself a simple pleasure like flowers is a stand for the peace and joy of women and men worldwide

Beloved Flower Lover,

Just got the children back into the school routine, just got selves back into the work schedule. Still  popping over town every other day looking after elder parents and still reminded ourselves that, we as women, flower when we remind ourselves that pleasure, rather than stressing is our guiding force. The autumn is a time of withdrawing deeper into the feminine powers. Sometimes consciously, sometimes not at all.

Still aware of making less than men financially, still aware of the tendency to push hard rather than stepping into the sense of joy and peace as an engine. Still aware of looking at the bottom line at the expense of personally recognising that love, joy and peace can be a way of ‘womaning up’, rather than manning up via ‘work,work, work’ and striving,without pleasure.

Still aware.

We get quietly reminded that we have 8000 nerve endings only dedicated to pleasure. Yes women have that many nerve endings dedicated only to pleasure. That flood the body with a sense of joy, connection and empowerment. That shuts down the cortisol, the stress stuff flowing in the body.

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Then we get a reminder from a woman who has made it her business to pay attention to the valuing of the feminine. Not all weirdo. Just straight talk. Mama Gena, also known as Regena Thomashauer  has just released a very provocatively entitled book. And Marie Forleo interviews  her. Marie considers Regena Thomashauer’s bold and controversial book  as a  wake-up call for any woman ( and friends of women) who wants to reclaim her source of feminine power.

After we watched the video we were reminded not to ignore ourselves.

We know that after putting on our headphones as we listened to this interview we too were reminded that  the ability to cultivate personal pleasure in any way we like ( including using flowers). is a direct antidote to stress because worthy of being named as worthy.

We have time for ourselves. We have time for our own pleasure. We have time.

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Flowers for her who is so angry that a loving man did not come into her life when she could have had children and now he has appeared. Is this our mission to feel it, to heal it!

Beloved Flower Lover,

I have to forgive self for every choice in my life.

I have to be with this deepest grief.

This darkest space has opened up for healing.

This is not about an abortion, it’s not about that.

It’s not about adoption either.

It’s about just that dark, dark space of anger

being so conscientious

never been a nun either

now being with a wonderfully loving man .

reciprocal love

reciprocity

He said it: want us to have a child

She did not answer out loud

but did inside

I can’t.

Said it. At last.

It’s done!

 

Flowers seem to be a sort of embracing coach, who can soak up the cleansing tears. Flowers are a reminder of the beauty in all. That this situation is exactly as it should be.  This super power of beauty and peace comes up right about now,so this can be  cleaned up as it should.

Still can’t look him in the eye

Still can’t speak

The radical grief which is infinitely here is wide open to fully embrace self instead.We have been told from the beginning that

‘she would bring a child forward’

and

the greatest joy for a woman is to have a child

or

who wants a child at your age!

is that true? really?

This whole subject really needs so much more light.

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I accept divine love.

I accept divine love

I accept divine love.

Putting the pieces back together again, and considering the truism that,

‘Everything here is to serve and comes here to heal ‘.

We get real and today we name it. To Heal it.

Perfect time to love this  darkest womb place

Time to love

Today

 

 

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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Flowers for Saint Mother Teresa

Beloved Flower Lover,

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The London Flower Lover

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Flowers for ‘The Way of the Love Warrior’ in You!

Beloved Flower Lover,

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Nancy Levin talks about ‘Boosting your inner worth to boost your net worth, we invite you to notice that using the beauty of flowers

Beloved Flower Lover,

Reclaim your assertiveness and self worth using flowers is a core theme in this blog. We felt Nancy Levin is in alignment with this message. We are sharing.

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Congratulations! Rock bottom might be a great place to start telling you the truth. It’s like having a dear friend who is giving you flowers who you thought was your biggest enemy !

Beloved Flower Lover,

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A dear friend of the team called into today, not for flowers, but for a weep. Her sister in Australia was dying from cancer after it had been removed previously. And she did not know what to do. We got the call. So we sat with her. She wept.

No lecture, no sermon, just sat as she whispered and cried before getting ready for work. When she left, we all sent quiet feelings to her and considered our own truth.

Her heart was beating, her adrenalin was flowing, she was uncertain, as she was growing. Perhaps, she was scared she was going to die emotionally as she watched her sister die physically.

We were not expecting this at all. She began talking about how her brother had committed suicide and how she had felt suicidal… overwhelmed. She was open to change and transition.

We are all faced with situations that are so major that we cannot help but at least look at our false and limiting beliefs. Some of our personal truths are in alignment with Maat’s truth. However, there are some of our individual truths that we believe in so deeply, that even in the face of a higher level of understanding, we refuse to let them go. As Ms. Vanzant says, ‘ look at your pathology’.

The London Flower Lover maat sunflower Collage

One member of the team talked about a time when she was about to throw in the towel but kept on getting signs not to. So instead, she began to look at throwing away the limiting belief which was “I can’t” and step fully into the truth that I could in fact make it through those experiences and beautifully so.

She talked about the vibration and energy of love she was cultivating, and the responsibility she had around that.

“What are truths?”, we wondered.

The thought we pondered on after she left was just that.

….just working through the day and remaining open to that conversation opened us up much more deeply.

“Are our truths leading us to a more expanded, joyful and peaceful existence, or are they leading us to a place where we lack awareness of the divine qualities that are so natural to us all?”

We talked about how life teaches us that everything has a place in our lives. That this feminine quality of the divine also teaches that we are to say thank you to our perceived enemies because even they have contributed to our experience in some way.

gift of autumn flowers

The truth and keeping the big picture in mind are sure fire paths to operating from unconditional love. Truth helps us to move past emotions and helps us to see the greater lesson.

The Truth which is in our heart chakra energy can be expressed with words, with flowers, with a deed. It is important to balance the heart chakra often, especially if you store your hurt, stress and pain there. But your ability to love everyone no matter whom they are, is a gift of connecting with knowing who we really are. So what unconditional love is?  This is the highest form of love because it gives, expecting nothing in return and not feeling that anything is wrong with anything or anyone. Unconditional love exists all the time.

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So what is crucial in moving into this way of existing is to opening and expanding to a place where being receptive to the unconditional love of the divine is always there. Unconditional love is nothing that we acquire or give away. It is always within us, and it allows us all to rebalance ourselves in times of major challenges. Learn how to nourish yourself. That’s what this is about. What we do for others, is in fact what we do for ourselves, because we all come from one place. And it’s our oneness that makes this sort of love the source of protection for the world.

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…… and as a final thought, who could you give flowers to today….and remember you are in that mix too. What does love look like to you? What does it feel like? Share it with others.  Share.

The Team

 

The London Flower Lover

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The London Flower Lover at http://www.peckhamplatform.com/whats-on/events/open16-public-opening

Beloved Flower Lover,

We have been invited to share one image of our work at a very small exhibiton space in Peckham. Our Creative Director is sharing her work- at last. So if you can see you there: http://www.peckhamplatform.com/whats-on/events/open16-public-opening

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The London Flower Lover

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Flowers for a wonderful time: Courage plus wisdom creates Optimism-despite the external challenge: Decide for yourself if this is true

Beloved Flower Lover,

“God needs you in order to come into the world. Fulfilling God’s need is the highest act of love, and only through your love for God can you fulfill your love for others. Become the Love of God in the world for the protection of the world.”

Ra Un Nefer Amen

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The London Flower Lover,

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