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Over-achieving women workers and entrepreneurs, this post has been inspired by you.But first, do you recognise yourself? Look at the following poll and see.
She wasn’t born with a silver spoon. She worked hard to earn scholarships to be able to attend university. Her parents didn’t buy her a car. She bought her own. Her parents couldn’t help her with a deposit. Instead she had helped her siblings with their mortgage. With time, she cultivated an array of skills to compete at work. But she only explored fulfilling ‘girly’ things when no one was not looking. She was a little curious about her friends who talked about freedom, from the inside out.
However, somewhere along the way, she over-did the overachieving. Her mind was racing and she didn’t even realize it, and she was fighting through life… just to prove that she was worth something- and she did not even know it, let alone admit to it.
It got all to much. When her long-term marriage headed straight for divorce, after they both had a business together. She had a flash that she would end up, peri- menopausal, jaded, divorced, broke, raising children as a single mother and agressively shouting at people as she dreamt about having done things VERY differently when she was younger. And in secret she wondered, what did the female arts offer her……. She choose a different path at this darkest hour.
Flowers offered her a very private personal compass to remind her that she could just relax….
This story was inspired after listening to story-teller, teacher and youth leadership champion, Larry,who has a really interesting way of encouraging over achieving women, face themselves
Will you allow yourself to relax? even a little?
What can you do to swap stress for relaxation and peace?
The London Flower Lover
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if you make yourself too busy to invest in yourself, the best asset you have then don’t use flowers to relax into your feminine strength
if you just want to make a living, rather than a thriving,then don’t use flowers to relax into your feminine strength
if your vocabulary starts with, “I can’t afford…”then don’t use flowers to relax into your feminine strength
if you value keeping up with the Jones’ more than fulfillment and philanthropy,then don’t use flowers to relax into your feminine strength
if you use your children or life partner as an excuse to not cultivate your feminine powers, then don’t use flowers to relax into your feminine strength
if you listen to your fears more than to your dreams,then don’t use flowers to relax into your feminine strength
He used to call her fatty boom boom as a child. She turned it around and called her self Phatty boom boom. Gave herself her most favourite flowers and wrote, I love you on a piece of paper abd then put it underneath the vase. Today she re -charged the storytelling.
A team member just had a shock. She had prepared and sent flowers to a client and received a complaint. She sorted it out. But then she went into shock and had a melt down after she over heard someone else laugh about her mistake.
The next day she came in red eyes from crying all night. So we all took some time out. Sent them home for rest and then the next day we had some one ‘2’ one’s. It turned out that the criticism had tapped into a reservoir of past criticism and it got too much for her.
Wow. We all related to that.
Afterwards we all sat back and said how valuable it was for her to talk about wanting to hide due to embarrassment. Another accrued emotion from childhood.
Time to let all accrued emotion go and flow away. So we all decided to put our hands on our hearts and breathe as we imagined letting go of the old images of past criticism and embarrassment. Deeply breathing. And feeling the self love come up as our hands remained on our hearts.
Increasing appreciation for being ourselves. Person’s with geninue perfection. Not the fake Hollywood perfection that says don’t cry. But the type that knows we are perfect no matter what and we can learn from the actions we have wrongly done by relecting on the way we came to absorb these criticisms about ourselves and by so doing, grow and transform beautifully.
Thats the letting it go.
Our team is so beautiful. So happy. So self loved up.
So much feedback has come to us and we feel honoured that we have been able to connect with you this way. We feel so lucky to recieve emails from you and we thank you for staying in the conversation, because ultimately it has been a conversation about acknowledging our true nature which is ‘heaven on earth’.
We have been drafting, re-drafting and pondering about what to say to you next. This conversation can be so slippery because sometimes it seems weird, yet others seem to recognise this so we continue.
And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music: Nietzsche
After this quote came to mind we considered questions like,
Why was this 21-day Self-Care Bootcamp important now?
What did it bring up for you?
What part of your heart relationships did it stir the most or not at all?
Instead of us writing immediately, we spent more time with flowers and listening to our inner thoughts. Listening to the tone and intention of our inner thinking around the feelings of self care and it’s opposites. Listening to friends and clients we noticed so much effort was put into ‘mastering’ and ‘improving’ self. Often ‘mastering’ and ‘improving’ a self who we don’t even know yet. Giving and receiving flowers, to just enjoy each others company is really the point of what we do. Because we are florists who want you to get the most out of your emotional relationships, we decided to ask you what you want next from this 21-day self care bootcamp using flowers.
The London Flower Lover
Flowers are not the middleman to you self care, they are only a guide, a sort of pointer to help you appreciate the inner direction your emotions are really pointing you to.
Yes there is an element of mystery to this, but we have learnt to use flower to help you to figure out the map.
Now, if you have no flowers to surround yourself with, that’s fine. If you do, then that to is fine. If you give flowers to express your love that’s fine. If not, that’s fine. Yes this floristry work acknowledges your emotional stage. No enemy. It’s just about opening up to heart.
We offer this video from the dearly departed ‘thought leader’, Debbie Ford, to help to integrate the shadow. To bring love to all which within us is opposite to love, peace and joy. For us, this Self Care Bootcamp is a journey, and using flowers is really about settling into the ‘feelings’ that we want to have right here and now. Whilst acknowledging that it could be ok with the thoughts we don’t want.
We feel bad and we think that we or someone else has to do something about it. Either by getting flowers or something else. Anyway…we are glad to help us all to be stronger around navigating the emotional map that the giving and receiving of flowers reflects. To be aware of the link between the formless and the practical. Hence why we have used ‘thought leaders’ to assist you to check into your own heart, which is in itself your natural compass. So essentially we are all about who and what we are as people and we use flowers to help us to play with our creativity.
Without exception our hearts can create so much more as we open up to a self care agenda. That includes if we feel like we are ‘stupid’ for using flowers. As long as we open back up to our creative childlike potential we have bloomed.
The London Flower Lover
p.p. s. The birthing of the 21-day Self-Care Programme was jointly inspired by conversations with Core Success, Mentoring and Training for Women: Manchester
In our minds, a flower mandala is a way to communicate with self using nature. There is a scared geometry in flowers. The ordinary flower like a daisy is exquisite a flower as the orchid.
Petals unfold and draw your eyes inwards to the center.
We see how, we are naturally drawn inward to appreciate the power inwardly residing.
We have noticed that when you are drawn inward through your heart center, you begin to blossom. You are further empowered and you feel the soothing sense of peace. In reality you are feeling your divine nature. Peace.
Unfold into your own space.
This is the invitation of the flower mandala.
This work is wonderful with children, especially those who need to learn to build bridges rather than walls with their world. The invitation is there to build our personal connection with source by looking inside and creating flower mandala’s that emerges.
The sweet nectar in a flower is sometimes forgotten or misunderstood as we go about our lives. Yet it can be a simple topic, that as we pay attention to it, can change our lives deeply. The relationship between bees, flowers and those of us who choose to help them is the focus on today’s post .
Let’s take this really slowly now.
Some dismiss flowers because of myths around their value and importance. Yet for bees, many flowers are essential for them to be able to do what they were designed to do. Pollinate and cross pollinate.
Their pollination activity is at the heart of the plants food producing activity. It’s at the heart of us enjoying food as well as being sustained and healed by them. Food is at the heart of our daily life. And flowers are at the heart of that activity. But why now is this coming up as an agenda item? Because hey, it can’t be a near death experience? surely?
Well they seem to be decreasing in number in certain parts of the world and we need them. Oh gosh do we so so so need them on our globe. RHS research states that one third of the food on our plates would disappear if the sorts of flowers that need pollination from bees disappeared. Their is a fine line between letting the impacts of their destruction to just continue and just level itself out naturally or to leaving it up to someone else to be responsible for our planet. Well living fully,knowing the rebalancing of this decrease can be altered simply by deciding to plant more flowers has tiggered us to open up our foucs and flow because the high conseuqences of this situion has caught our concentration.
So over the last few bank holidays in the UK, we have began to grow bee loving lavender and Buddleia into our garden and thought of you.
It might be a risk to you to actually plant flowers. Why? socially you might be a bit shy to get into the garden. The risk trigger of getting into the garden might not be novel enough. Boring, not interesting. You might notice you feel great after you face this challenge and achieve. Yes to see it from a new and inspiring point of view, makes remaining open to being a loving presence to yourself and others as exhilarating. Perhaps!
Well some of the lists we have offered in this blog might break it down into a new and inspiring way. We thought you might enjoy a list of plants you can grow in your own garden season by season. Yes it might be new to you. That’ s exciting.Overcome that fear as you prepare to plant. You may need to adapt these lists according to the region of the world that you are in, as you use them to inspire your own planting plans for yourself and others.
We think that really says it all. It may be your own novel, new, and very different act of love today as you consider, planting knowing that we are a world family. Simply saying yes to the act of planting bee loving plants helps you, your family, your community, your country, your nation, your neighbors , your globe. And your beloved next generations.
…………Now that sounds deliciously yummy!
The London Flower Lover
Bonus list of plants that bees love that you can plant in your gardens.
Put your hand on your heart and ask yourself two questions.
How happy am I doing what I am doing?
How happy am I with the person that I am with?
Then make the corrections.
You already know the answer to these questions. Each question and its answer if far from being trivial. Yes put your hand on your own heart and answer those two questions. Then act. It might require an attitude change as much as a physical change. Nothing is missing from you, whatever you do make activating the love which is already in your heart your priority and notice your life transform.
We know what we do. We give and receive flowers, ensure that we have consistent protein throughout the day, dropped the sugar, wheat and caffeine……(yes we have began a gluten- free cake journey)… and noticed how life has become even more delicious!
She had worked at all sorts of jobs in the past. She had two babies in the last six years and compared that to work.
Today she felt sure that she was now ready to return to a career outside of the home. She really did enjoy home life, mothering, domestic life, yet felt her husband would prefer her working outside the home, so she made it her goal. She looked at women who work outside the home, as very glamorous and was not sure about what she was now offering.
She was suspicious about how ‘parents’ went about finding work outside the home and was looking at how could she get herself together. How did they do it?
She was in the house all day and was impatient because she wanted to see him more. She felt it would be better at home if more money came into the house and he would change his mind…about what?
Why was she feeling so threatened?
Why the enmity, the rancor?
After a day of much tears and not being able to get any affection from her husband who was locked into ‘his’ very busy corporate job. She decided to stop their big battle of the wills and breathe.
Her imagination was over stating the importance of the issues to the point that her peace was in pieces. She imagined skinny women smiling at him all day as they filed invoices. She felt forced to change. She was open to removing the blind fold of her old ways and was prepared to use the job searching as her ‘metaphor’.
“The power struggle stops here”.”I put down my side of the tug ‘o’ war,no more poison darts”, she murmured before she went to bed and kissed his hand gently.
Bright the next morning she explained to her, how she was fed up of the CV lottery. She felt uninspired by the mathematical probability of getting a job. A topic at the front of her mind especially as she was currently delivering one to one home tutoring to local GCSE Maths students about how to complete a probability tree.
Although she could see she was emotionally exaggerating about the odds of her being noticed in the London job, describing it as being ‘like her winning the lottery’. But it felt like it to her, especially when she was being told that her CV was wrong by the local job centre. The picture was too big, too overwhelming too gloomy. No joy!
She wanted to find another way of approaching what was be-deviling her heart and keeping her feeling bereft of her man.
She was sitting in her front room which she had recently given a deep spring clean and looked at the beautiful vase of flowers. She stared at them. And before you knew it she was taking out the kids water colours, paper and painting. This triggered an idea of how she could help to see herself as beautiful and wanted as the flowers she saw.
Get creative she said. She got busy.
She called each friend she knew who she felt was open for creativity and met with them.
At each meeting she brought them a bunch of flowers and said “this is a thank you for helping me find my ideal job, get my ideal body and celebrating everything that is right with me”…their faces lit up.
Responses from “oh yes”, to “so glad to help” to “let’s start right now, thank you”
One of the friends a wonderful manly man instructed immediately.
“The first thing you do is to write down a list of your passions. Her eyebrows raised as he pointed to the pen and expected her to write.
“Relish them. Become intrigued by them. Find out how they turn you on. A full body sort of turn on. So you feel juicy. Very juicy. Only then go and interview five people in London about that job and bring them ‘thank you flowers’ like the way you have done with me.”
She wrote down his dictation in full.
“Then go into your kitchen and cook up an inspiring meal just for you each day. It must have colour, smell and totally feel breathtaking to you . Feel your inner Nigella darling sweet heart”
“When we talk again I only want to talk about the juiciest, most succulent meal you have made. That is all.” He hugged and kissed her and left.
….spreading the love…the juice, the sauciest energies and was out of the house most days now…Her mobile phone was ringing lot’s, she was creating.
One of the phone calls was from one of girlfriend who called her up each morning…to listen to her ten self love statements. “ok, tell me the ten today …
Another call was from a friend who asked her to dress in her most figure hugging exercise clothes and be ready for some belly dancing. She had a blast!
She was really sharing her juicy energy and so many of her friends were being real with her. And enjoying it!
She finally was allowed to interview the people who she admired and gave them the flowers. She finally did it. And although she did not get a job, she learnt lot’s.
She was different now anyway and smiling a lot.
Calm and smiley she got a phone call from one of the ‘passion interviewees’ who basically invited her to work part time for a month ‘without pay’ with the possibility of a job opportunity.
She took it.
Giving the flowers circulated a sweet currency of joy that had so much more juice.
She was at peace. Not from the many outcomes she had achieved but because she realised that peace was her nature. She was smiling at home. It was natural. That the affection challenge was never her enemy. It was a gift that opened her up intimately to her true self.
She had tapped into herself.And as she got over herself, she looked at herself and realised that ‘nothing was ever ever against her’. More reasons to smile at her herself and husband.
She smiled as she felt she learnt to speak her own language…flowers,peace and joy
The London Flower Lover
p.s. after 3 weeks of all of this, hubby kept calling from his office, even texting to book a date with his wife, alone!