I accept my second spring of flowers, I accept me totally as I am -this is the true look of a mature bloom of a woman!

Beloved Flower Lover,

I accept me just as I am.

I love me, I care for me, I am happy.

I am in my second spring.

I have blosomed, flowered and am perpetually growing in beauty, joy, and happiness.

What I have learnt is this.

The problem is that most of us do not grasp the difference between what is true as opposed to truth. The world of our five senses is true. It is the “illusion” that ancients speak of. I did not for the longest time. I had to learn to give myself flowers. To balance out the negative that I had absorbed. I had to stop comparing myself and learn to appreciate myself. That is what I mean by giving myself flowers. I learnt this. What is true is shaped by our culture, ethnicity, race, nationality, gender, and so on. Because of this perspective, that which is true is ALWAYS half true.

Yes, you heard me.

That which is true to us is most likely not true for another with a different perspective.

Here is an exercise to demonstrate what I mean. Get a partner and face each other. Point and look to the right. Describe what you see. Both perspectives are true. Half true.

What I know is this, over the years I have seen how we can get very wrapped up in what is true and believe it is truth.

What my years have also taught me is this, truth on the other hand is eternal. It is beyond our five senses. That is why they are universal laws.

“So, for an example what you put out is what you get back is the prime universal law that operates the same on any level of existence.”

“What I have come to understand is that life reflects MY most intimate thoughts and beliefs. This universal law is Truth.”

“I have learnt that I am source energy experiencing itself. We are one. That is truth. If what is true runs my life then I end up feeling scared and anxious, uncertain. When I learnt to co-operate and operate in truth, then I felt the most empowered, less stressed, and more positive than I have ever felt. I learnt the difference between what is truth as opposed to succumbing to what is true.”

“I thank many teachers, including Reginald Martin who inspired the content of this post.”

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The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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Experiment: Give yourself flowers for one hundred days-see how your life transforms.

Beloved Flower Lover,

Awaken your inner hero by learn through opposites!

Your point is so what? What has that got to do with self-love, self-care, or just life? Why should I care to know this? What has this got to do with flowers. You are a flower blog aren’t you? Oh yes, about personal transformation. But still clarify your point please-why are we going here.

OK, here goes,

Well, if your life is to be about love, well guess then you will be put in an environment where you will be maligned for who you are). If your lesson is to learn to stand up for yourself, you will be put in an environment where you will be walked over by others. When you overcome the trials and gain the wisdom to where you are no longer affected by those situations then you advance consciously as a soul and person.

The tough times are meant to make you stand up and persevere. That is what we mean by learning through opposites. It is like being cast as a hero/in in your own movie. But the hero has to overcome to be the hero. Its classic. All stories have at least three, seven challenges, frustrations, setbacks.  So, are you going to take that challenge’ or fight back TO WIN? You can learn it in this life or get to do it all over again.

Think about your life from a total beginner’s mindset. Yes, a total beginner and a hero, they are often one and the same person. So, if you are a total beginner, share that. Embrace beginning a beginner. Share your process. Embrace your beginner’s mindset. Share, share, share.

Imagine giving yourself flowers for the next 100 days. Yes really! Well, we invite you to imagine this personal transformation journey using flowers. Using flowers to help your imagination to deepen your self-appreciation. You are moving from victimhood, or villain identity and stepping into your hero vibe.

  • Figure out what you have to say by giving yourself flowers, often. Giving yourself flowers often helps you to figure it out.
  • Give yourself space to connect up with what is going on with you.
  • Connect with what you really feel and think.  The beginner has to get over that quickly.
  • So, build the flower habit. It will help you to get to your real feelings of self-appreciation.

The butterfly effect creates a chain reaction, a seemingly small thing makes you ok, to give you the bigger steps to enjoy yourself love and self- care -appreciation. Use flowers, to help appreciating yourself. You will begin to deepen connecting up your own feelings about self-love, self-care and how flowers help you to articulate how you feel about your life.

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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The lack of a love life may be an illusion, start with what you have-even if you have to buy your own flowers-What do you think?

Beloved Flower Lover,

You must learn to love yourself first before you can expect others to love you fully and completely. That’s a key message that we share with you in numerous ways, to guide you on you love journey. Yet sometimes that can feel unattainable and we know that some of you might even be numb to feeling that self love.

We find that especially for those who have been ‘looking’ for love who might be finding it a bit too much to consider self love at first. It might feel like a scarce commodity. That there is none around. In fact it might even sound like an impossibility. Something that is so unfamiliar that we might as well be asking you to jump into the unknown. Some of us are intimidated by it and we get it. So we understand why some of you may not even put love on your radar.

Yet we invite you to begin to take this journey by welcoming your own ideas of what makes you happy. To select a flower or two that makes you feel uplifted. Then we gradually invite you to take another small step, another and another until you really broaden your mind and can see that you can make that jump. That leap into your own self love that feels so easy, that makes sense to you, that is a love you enjoy. This is why we offer you new ideas to use, we present big ideas from Thought leaders to help broaden your mind. Some ideas might seem foreign, odd or even an illusion, yet they are offered as an invitation only.

Love is a feeling. A feeling where you take action. The difficult steps on the way are worth valuing. They are indeed the real gold. Those problems are indeed where you are going to learn the most. How to make lemonade out of lemons and more importantly how to not taking it personally.

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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I am not waiting to give myself flowers!

Beloved Flower Lover,

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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Have you become a dry woman, frustrated with COVID, irritated with the world, going forward maybe you might consider re- charging your feminine battery through pleasure- flowers may be part of that pleasure boost

Beloved Flower Lover,

How are you today and being expected to just say, I am fine seeming ridiculous to many of us right now.

Mama Gena of the School of Womanly Arts reminds us that.

“As women, we are not unfamiliar with feeling alone, unsupported, at odds with ourselves and the world – these things are not new.  In fact, women are used to a certain level of shutdown. Living inside a patriarchal world culture that denies our feminine gifts, turns us inside out, upside down, and against one another” …  She goes onto remind us that.

“Add to that police brutality, the daily persistence of racism, ageism, ableism, homophobia, xenophobia – and suddenly, the idea of telling someone how you are, becomes almost preposterous. becomes almost preposterous. So preposterous, in fact, that we reach for a stock answer as a form of self-protection. I’m good. Fine. Ok. Alright. Let’s just leave it at that.”

At the London Flower Lover, we loved what Mama Gena is talking about.  She basically says that “, there’s no such thing as being fine, and stock answers will never suffice.”

With that in mind we are asking you right now

How are you…really?

If the answer is anything less than “great”, then know that we hear you.  We are with you. We see you.

With all that’s been going on the inner and the outer world we have decided to go s back to the basics. Just as Mama Gena suggests.  Back to the body. Back to our innate feminine wisdom. Back to pleasure.

(Whether we feel like it, or not!

For us, that means relentless self-care – on a daily. You will not believe the difference this makes. 

Mama Gena says it how we love it ” We want more for you than this current exhausting cycle you’re stuck in. We want more for you than resignation, disapproval, disconnection, despair. More for you than “fine”, or “just ok”.

We want you to start every day feeling resourceful, happy to deal with the bird in the hand, comfortable to take an affordable loss, happy to make a crazy quilt of connections, whilst you make lemonade from lemons and remembering that we are the pilot. We are all powerful, beautiful, radiant beings, and yes, that means you. We want you to start with accepting that you are far from ok, right now. Many light years away from ok.  We want you to also find gratitude, find a way to find the illusion of limitation but only in your own time.  As Mama Gena says, “Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s deeply necessary. It’s the act of creating sacred space for every phase, face, and facet of your womanhood”.

It’s meeting yourself exactly where you are and loving yourself exactly as you are. That’s what we mean by the illusion of limitation, it’s what you make of what you have knowing that its your perception of what you have which makes all the difference. If you say you are enough, then that is it. It’s replacing disapproval with appreciation, every single day. Not just because we can, but because more than our situation.

We invite you to enjoy flowers. To place the beauty around you to guide you to think about how you appreciate yourself. To build up the charge in your own inner bank. We invite you to charge up your inner bank through doses of floral appreciation.

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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