Philautia is a type of love that is within oneself. … Self-love invites you to look at both your good and bad feelings with gratitude

Beloved Flower Lover,

Philautia is a type of love that is within oneself. … Self-love invites you to look at both your good and bad feelings with gratitude.

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Self love can get a bad name and people call it narcissism. In some cases it is. However self love may also be a necessary part of your agenda if you have no regard for yourself. And, it’s perhaps a useful point to consider,especially if you are looking at someone else to ‘save you’.

Romantic love can create an excessive imaginative pressure that our romantic culture places upon marriage as a way to save us.  Yet even though  another person can’t save us from ourselves this discussion may invite us to think about how loving may indeed be about  learning to be more forgiving of our own and others faults.

Erich Fromm says, “Love isn’t something we fall into, but something we learn to do”.

 

What do you you say?

The Team,

 

The London Flower Lover

 

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Yes, Yes, Yes, Valentine’s day is over, and it as a perfect time to invite you to make your own new story about love in your life. Write your own love story during this valentines season and choose the flowers that will accompany you

Beloved Flower Lover,

We are very open here about that fact that we talk and think about love, peace and joy all the time and valentines is a perfect time to re -invite ourselves to  re-consider our ideas about peace, love and joy in a world where we see external issues being discussed in the media.

A few days after valentines, yes, yet we think that what we are considering is still newsworthy because just by considering these classic life principles such as peace, love and joy. Principles that govern our lives whether we know it or not, may  to some groups just be an idea. To  them being able to operate from peace, love and joy may seem like a ‘new’ normal. a norm is ‘new’ and unfamiliar. So this is the way we are putting , love, peace and joy into the ether so it may in its own perpetual way automate the hearts of those open to stirring their beliefs about themselves and what is possible using peace, love and joy as a trigger and guide through the way ahead.

The following quotes and then think about how you see your own love story. Is it problematic? were you given that story from someone else and then find yourself living into it or is it something that you created and now own. Whilst you consider your deepest answer to that genuine question, here are the quotes which may help you open up to this even further.

We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.
—Albert Einstein

and that,

Those who do not have power over the story that dominates their lives, the power to retell it, rethink it, deconstruct it, joke about it and change it as times change, truly are powerless, because they cannot think new thoughts.
—Salman Rushdie

We have been reviewing some of the love themes, and ideas out there today such as Galentines- a  movement started to  empower single women. We have also been looking at the latin words for love such as

EROS-romantic love,

AGAPE-universal love,

PHILAUTIA- self love

and considered the  numerous stories that have  evolved to express these themes that have been shared from generation to generation. We here at the London flower lover see storytelling and narrative at the heart of what we do as it connects people beyond simple messaging, It helps them shape and reshape their identities. To know who they are, to know who we are and to appreciate the oneness of us all. Thus sitting down in a story and imagining ourselves address issues and solve them becomes a gift we share with the world.

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Reinsborough and Canning,2017, state that, 

“Narratives and stories frequently appear to be similar, and the terms are often used interchangeably. The content and scale of stories is as varied as human experience—from sacred tales that carry wisdom revered by billions, to ephemeral celebrity gossip, to what happened at the office today—but they are all discrete and bounded accounts of events with a clear beginning, middle, and end.  They help to give us a helpful definition of narrative is a coherent “system of stories.”15 Narratives are stories that are bigger: often more open-ended and less bounded in a linear sequence while containing lots of smaller interrelated stories that are emblematic of the larger narrative. Individual stories that fit within the logic of the symbolic system can easily be added to the narrative while others fade away over time, but the narrative persists.”

We don’t do instagram and don’t really do the social media thing but this is making us wonder perhaps its time to enter that world of storytelling and we could even begin by  creating a hashtag #createyournewlovestoryusingflowers.

What do you think?

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What ever happens next, it may not be for the massess, or it may catch on in a little bit of time.

Rewrite your own story!

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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Flowers for Chinese New Year-Happy Chinese New Year

Beloved Flower Lover,

Chinese New Year is a time for welcoming spring and what it brings along: planting and harvests, new beginnings and fresh starts.

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The London Flower Lover

 

Happy Chinese New Year,

 

The London Flower Lover

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The Winter is a time to rest and enjoy the earth as it dreams about re flowering-tell us what you are doing to rest, sleep and dream?

Beloved Flower Lover,

The Winter is the time to rest and dream, dream and dream. Not to do, but to rest and to dream about your dreams.

We know so much makes us focus on work, work, work, but when you leave work, focus on having lovely baths, and just sleeping. The point of Winter is to focus on the energy of  revitalization, not to take action but to rest, dream and sleep.

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The earth, the place of minerals, may be asking you to take more minerals right now. Even taking Vit B, which is linked to the earth. Feed your dreams. This is so exciting, just follow the energy of Winter. Support your kidneys and adrenals, and dream as you sleep long and often.

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The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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Flowers for patients-can you give bedside flowers as a gift anymore?

Beloved Flower Lover,

Recently we were asked to deliver flowers to a clients mother in a London hospital had to tell the client that hospitals have a policy against bedside flowers. What’s behind this policy, and is it reasonable?

We decided to research this and found an interesting response from the Harvard Medical School which says:

 The main worry is infection. Flowers harbor bacteria, and so does the water in a vase. But the presence of bacteria does not automatically translate into the risk of infection. Bacteria, after all, are everywhere; in fact, the human body is home to 10 times more bacterial cells than human cells. Most of these microbes are quite wimpy and pose little risk to healthy individuals. But some hospitalized patients are particularly vulnerable. That’s why fresh flowers are typically excluded from the rooms of patients with impaired immune systems. (Harvard Medical School 2012)

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This makes sense to us, and we hope that helps you to think about this.

 

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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