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Beloved Flower Lover,


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Genuine insights of poverty and food banks flower a range of feelings

Beloved Flower Lover,

Yes we are looking at poverty. Its a little series we have been inspired to look at. We are not suggesting that anyone feel guilt and stop joy in their own lives. That would never change anything. It’s a genuine issue that we all share and we trust that it will flower in the hearts  of all and generate real solutions.

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His povery truth flowers in his story

Beloved Flower Lover,

This Scottish man talks about the simple truth of poverty as told by Denis Curran of the East Kilbride charity, Loaves and Fishes, and told to the Scottish Parliament’s Welfare Reform Committee. The truth told simply is incredibly powerful.

 

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The Team,

 

The London Flower Lover

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Her story about ‘Poverty Truth’, flowered in our heart

Beloved Flower Lover,

We are happy to look at the contradictions in society. The  branding work of  Harvard Douglas Holt encourages us to do that. We consider that it is a privilege to work with flowers and that means hearing about peoples lives.

Something touched as last night. Someone very close to the team last night could not have dinner. She was working out whether to have dinner or to pay for her transport for next week. Listening to her talk to herself, we offered dinner. She jumped back not aware that she had been talking her business out loud! Not a biggie, but it raised questions about unseen poverty. We walked around the shops in Chelsea, looking at floral inspiration and later found a this video about poverty that helped us to think more. We are sharing because its on our minds.

The fear and shame can lead to feelings of desperation and attempts at suicide.  That’s when flowers come into the story again. We wonder about it all!

 

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The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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Are we a lonely society because we work too hard? Or is it that we are scared of the poverty trap we ask? These issues flower in our hearts

Beloved Flower Lover,

Melanie Poole talks about the band aid of holidays that are actually a band aid for the overworking culture we are in she claims. She says work has taken on a cycle of endless work and consumption is making us lonely, stressed and unhealthy. We’ve trapped ourselves in this cycle because of a belief that selling our labour is the only valid way to contribute. Melanie explains why you need to reject this belief – and how you do it.

She says that by taking just a tiny part of ourselves and making it the main focus of our attention has caused us much harm with public researcher pointing to Gen Y being regarding themselves as lonely and much less connected that previous generations.

 

 

People have fewer friends, and less likely to volunteer  or join hobbies and instead the Escape industries are growing.

Inspired by Melanie Poole’s video we went and looked at how many hours a day that we work. We were amazed.

The history of European working time laws 1784-2015

Some of the key events that have shaped the development of working time measures in Europe:

Date Event
1784 Ten-hour day proposed at Manchester Quarter Sessions (England)
1802 First Factory Act (Health and Morals of Apprentices)
1815 Foundation in England of the ‘Ten Hours Movement’.
1818 Robert Owen presented a petition to the five leading European powers meeting at the congress of Aix-la-Chapelle. The document asked for the establishment of working hours restrictions throughout Europe in order to stop unfair competition. His submission was rejected as ‘lunatic’.
1819, 1825 British Factory Acts (not enforced)
1831, 1833 British Factory Act : Under 21s not allowed to work at night in cotton mills. Under 18s not allowed to work longer than 12 hours (9 hours on Saturday). Robert Owen begins to experiment with a co-operative system based on labour working time tokens.
1843 Ten-hour Day Act (normal working day)
1840 First strike for an eight-hour day – Wellington, New Zealand.
1841 French law limiting the hours worked by children in mines (not applied in practice).
1842 The first child labour law introduced in the USA. This regulated working hours in Massachusetts.
1844 British Factory Act: maximum working day of 12 hours for adults and 6.5 hours for children.
1847 Ten Hour Act
1850 British Factory Act: Limits for women and children introduced. Employment permissible between 6.00 am and 6.00 pm (later in winter) on weekdays and until 2.00 pm on Saturdays.
1868 US congress passed a law limiting daily working time to eight hours for federal employees.
1874 British Factory Act: Reduction of half an hour each day for textile workers.
1890 Berlin conference on working time. Resolutions on child labour, women and children in mining, and night work.
1897 ‘Eight-hour day’ strike by engineers
1899 Eight-hour day for all government workers – Puerto Rico.
1900 Foundation of the International Association for Labour.
1905 Berne Convention on night work for women
1911 Swiss federal code of obligations sets certain entitlements and safeguards for holidays and other time off work.
1913 Berne Convention (draft) on night work for children
1916 Eight Hours Act – New South Wales, Australia.
1917 New revolutionary government in Russia orders universal eight-hour day.
1919 Spain introduces national eight-hour day law.
1919 ILO established as part of Paris Peace Conference. First meeting in Washington USA. Convention 1 agreed a maximum 8 hour day and maximum weekly hours of 48. ILO eventually became part of The UN.
1921 ILO Convention 14: weekly rest breaks in industry
1930 ILO Convention 30: hours of work in commerce and offices
1935 ILO Convention 47: 40-hour week
1936 French laws introduced by labour minister Jean-Baptiste Lebas provided two-weeks paid vacation each year and a 40-hour week.
1938 US Fair Labor Standards Act introduces a standard workweek of 40 hours and pay at time and a half for overtime hours. The Act does not apply to all employees.
1948 ILO Convention 89: night work for women (revised Convention 4)
1949 Public holidays in Italy first listed in Law 260/1949.
1970 ILO Convention 132: holidays with pay (revised)
1975 EC Council Recommendation on the 40-hour maximum working week and 4 weeks paid holiday. (75/457/EEC)
1976 Finland introduces seamens’ working hours Act
1979 ILO Convention 153: hours of work and rest periods in road transport
1985 Common EC statutory limits for heavy goods vehicle and public service vehicle drivers
1993 (Nov 23rd) EC Directive on working time (93/104/EC). 48-hour week limitation (averaged), but with voluntary opt out by employees in some member states.
1994 (Jun 22nd) EC Directive on the protection of young people at work (94/33/EC). 40-hour week limitation on 16/17 year old adolescents who are not in full time education.
1996 ILO Convention 180: seafarers’ hours of work and the manning of ships.
1996 (Jun 3rd) EC Directive on parental leave requirements
1997 EC Directive on part-time work
1998 Revised EC Regulation on working and rest time (transport)
1999 EC Directive on seafarers’ hours of work
2000 EC Directive on working time in civil aviation
2000 Loi Aubry becomes mandatory in France. This sets a maximum normal working week of 35 hours in all companies employing over 20 people. The Aubry II that was passed in 2000 extended the 35-hour week to employees in small companies and to some managers (cadres).
2000 SIMAP ruling by the European Court of Justice. All hours spent in residence and on call must count as working time.
2001 BECTU ruling by the European Court of Justice. This confirmed as unlawful any qualifying period before a new employee could build up entitlements for statutory paid annual leave.
2002 EC directive on mobile road transport activities
2002 Extension of EC working time restrictions (offshore workers and doctors in training)
2003 New consolidated Working Time Directive (2003/88/EC).
2003 Jaeger ruling by the European Court of Justice. If an employee is required to be present at the workplace, or otherwise at the disposal of their employer for a period between two shifts then the rest period must be classified as working time.
2007 French National assembly passes bill that promotes overtime working.
2015 European Court of Justice Decision concerning the working time of mobile workers with no fixed workplace.

Trickle Down Economics

She got us to look at trickle-down economics a theory that says benefits for the wealthy trickle down to everyone else. These benefits are usually tax cuts on businesses, high-income earners, capital gains and dividends.

Trickle-down economics assumes investors, savers and company owners are the real drivers of growth. It assumes they’ll use any extra cash from tax cuts to expand businesses. Investors will buy more companies or stocks. It assumes that Banks will increase business lending. Owners will invest in their operations and hire workers. The theory says these workers will spend their wages, driving demand and economic growth.

Trickle-Down Economic Theory

Trickle-down economic theory is similar to supply-side economics. That theory states that all tax cuts, whether for businesses or workers, spur economic growth. Trickle-down theory is more specific. It says targeted tax cuts work better than general ones. It advocates cuts to corporations, capital gains and savings taxes. It doesn’t promote across-the-board tax cuts. Instead, the tax cuts go to the wealthy.

Both trickle-down and supply-side economists use the Laffer Curve to prove their theories. Arthur Laffer showed how tax cuts provide a powerful multiplication effect. Over time, they create enough growth to replace the government revenuelost from the cuts. That’s because the expanded, prosperous economy provides a larger tax base.

But Laffer warned that this effect works best when taxes are in the “Prohibitive Range.” This range goes from a 100 percent tax rate down to some hypothetical rate somewhere in the middle. If the tax rate falls below this range, then further cuts will only lower government revenue without stimulating economic growth.

Universal Income is an idea which is growing.Moving away from means testing and poverty and giving everyone a  modest set amount. Yes there is a lot of uncertainty in society so what about a universal income? well its being trialed in different countries around the world.

 

 

Is it a good idea?

We came across West Cheshire Poverty  Truth commission who had direct experience of poverty and what we can learn from it about trust and wisdom, going beyond sympathy.

The  West Cheshire Poverty Truth Commission starts with a question. What if the people who have directly faced poverty were involved in decisions about poverty? This question comes from the belief that… No lasting social change happens without the people who suffer under the status quo taking a lead in bringing about a change to that status quo. A principle that can be seen throughout the history of social change, from suffragettes to civil rights. And the status quo in parts of West Cheshire is one of inequality. The difference in educational achievement between one of the borough’s richest wards and one of its poorest is dramatic. We have one neighbourhood where more than half of children are being brought up in low income families, while in some other neighbourhoods the figure is under 2%. And male life expectancy is around 10 years more in West Cheshire’s richer wards compared to the poorer ones. But behind all these statistics are the lives of real people, and West Cheshire Poverty Truth Commission aims to give a face to the facts and provide the opportunity for those affected by poverty to tell their story. So, we gather a group of experts through experience who we call ‘Community Inspirers’ – people with direct experience of poverty in its many forms. Together this group of Inspirers spend time sharing their stories and experiences with each other and consider who in West Cheshire might have influence to bring change. Civic and business leaders are then invited to join the commission. The poverty truth commission is not about these civic and business leaders and their organisations providing the solutions, but about developing relationships of trust and empathy with Inspirers and seeing what happens when their combined resources, experience and wisdom as co-commissioners are brought together. The commission recognises that there are experts and wisdom on all sides and seeks to unlock this wisdom by really listening, going beyond communicating mere facts. Sympathy is not enough, we need to see the world through another’s eyes and reach a deep creative level where together individuals can connect to something larger than themselves and open up and commit to new future possibilities. Over time this leads to the emergence of issues and themes which, through a variety of ways, the Inspirers and civic and business leaders begin to explore and address together. Ultimately the poverty truth commission in about culture change. Changing communities, organisations and individual attitudes towards poverty and how to tackle it. And asking ‘How in West Cheshire do we deal with poverty where we all have a responsibility and a part to play?’

You decided.

Perhaps its a time for re-looking at both arguments again and come up with a plan for our societies that works for all.

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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Marry the everyday- Viola Davies has something to say- we say it with flowers

Beloved Flower Lover,

 

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How to love parts of the flower business we think of as unlovable

Beloved Flower Lover,

We were thinking about parts of the business that we force ourselves to do and it occurred to us. We did not love those parts of the business. In fact, they were inour minds unlovable. OMG!

How so?

We had been making up a story that they could not be loved, or not meant to be loved. So the question is how do we love the part so the business that we think are unlovable. Just by posing this question made forcing ourselves is irrelevant.  Why- well we can keep making anew our story.

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So how are we making this up in our minds in away that is different to the way we feel about other aspects of the business?- still exploring that one, since we are making it up in our minds.

We can just make up another story- a story we want to feel lovable about. Even just loving the mundane- making that lovable too.Tehuti Sky Blue Handbag Oracle,Flowers The London Flower Lover Collage

No one is forcing us to do that. We can turn a page. We don’t have to know what will turn up on the next page either. We don’t have to because we can turn over again. We could set up a 100 different ways of being in love with the different parts of the business, that we so call do not love. And  if we don’t like it, we can do it differently. That the beauty of the creative mind. It is not stuck, it flows.

If we don’t like the version of the story we made up, we are not stuck with it, we can go back to the drawing board and recreate love. Infinite possibilities, infinite ideas- love can take any shape, and the love for other parts of the business can take any shape.

Recreate love- its infinite!

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The Team,

The London Flower Lover

 

 

 

 

 

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Avoid being killed by deadlines-Not turning writing a blog post about flowers into an adversary-instead go make good floral art and let the blog post flow!

Beloved Flower Lover,

The team have been really busy recently. Not surprising. You might have noticed that we have not always been posting fresh new images, even repeating some. Initially it was a strategy to fill in space whilst we felt guilty, but now deepened our appreciation of this experience of blogging at The London Flower Lover. It’s began to show us how to release issues of guilt about shoulds and musts.  So we have a few bits here to talk about which may ring true to you  too.

Fed up with forcing the team to do things we don’t want to do. Fed up with deadlines, with a gun against our heads.  We began to explore the difference between motivation and inspiration. Instead of doing battle with our selves, we decided to just enjoy what we got, like existing images and not putting a gun against our heads. Hence why some of the visual repeats that we actually love.

 

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Yes,  its a life saver, the ability to make art.  We had been triggered to prepare this post after listening to Michael Neil talking about make good art even on the bad days as its yours alone. Sounded good, but we are high performers and still felt a bit stressed.We decided to allow ourselves to be where we are and  still love to make good art even when  not posting brand new photos. The only thing we have is us, our story, our life as only we can and therefore work in only the way we can.

During this process of relaxing into it this so called ‘failing’ we realized that we were letting go of a sense of fighting, the sense of what things are supposed to be.  This experience of being super busy led us to the work of  Isiah Mcgee who wrote a blog post about not turning what you love into an adversary.  His blog post seemed to articulate what we had been going through. Parts of the post articulated the creative mind. The mind that creates floral designs for life. We felt today was the day to share. The process of letting go of the inner fight. Letting go of strong arming ourselves. Letting go of self intimidation. Releasing it and letting it become a flow of loving what we do, what ever we are doing- because we can indiscriminately love anything. watch a little child play with a box. Some  how we had learnt to be picky and choosy but this taught us to love what we are doing-what ever we are doing.

Mcgee articulated our sense of just enjoying where we were. That allowing for all the phases of blog positing, the super productive times and the less so . Life is big enough to allow for all of it, so why not enjoy the less productive times as well. His  post  articulated the  empowering insight  that talked about  rendering the “opponents” in your life – in whatever ways expressed – invalid.  Isiah points to the fact that resistance occurs when there is something to resist; when the opponent is released so too is the resistance and undue difficulty. So he suggests something different. We remained intrigued in this time.

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Here is a snippet from his blog post,

The typical way we approach an issue or matter is to think or say, “I am working on it.” This intention on its surface seems innocent enough, however more frequently than not, the subconscious intent is that of “tackling”, “battling” or “fighting” something. In fact, we often use those very words when describing an issue or matter being addressed.

“I am ‘tackling’ my weight,” “I am ‘battling’ a cold, cancer, arthritis, back, shoulder, hip issues, etc.,” “I am fighting with divorce attorneys,” “I am always ‘dealing with’ difficult co-workers and office politics,” and on and on. This approach creates a phantom menace because of your unrecognized power. (Even thinking you are ‘powerless’ in certain circumstances is an unfortunate inverted use of your power!)

To be very clear – health, wealth, purpose, love thru releasing the adversary is not about becoming a doormat in the challenges before you. Quite the contrary! Mentally and emotionally releasing the opponent in matters is a cunning way of reclaiming and reinstating your power! “How so,” you ask?

Your Intrinsic Power

That question is answered by first understanding what it means to recognize and appreciate your intrinsic power. Most individuals – writ large, society in general – view power as an objective reality. We assign it to those that have money, influence, connections, quasi gender or race authority, etc. These indeed are ways that power is empirically recognized however those things are not the origin of power itself.

Let’s keep this simple. To understand the origins of power you must get quite basic with the nature of power itself. This can be understood through two dynamics. The first is through recognizing the power witnessed in Nature.  Why is nature compelled to do what it does? It is due to the innate Power of expression and intention.

And what is the basis of your fundamental “nature?” (Human identity is not called human nature by accident.) The innate power and intention of Life (nature) is your fundamental ‘nature’ too! As the import of this astounding, intrinsic reality is appreciated you reinstate – in your perception that is – “your power to fulfill

This sounds like a reason to go and make good art, what ever the situation as we have the power to fulfill and express. This stopped us in our flow and became an invitation to just be still for a while.

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Isiah goes onto to say,

Speaking of perception – that brings me to the second dynamic in understanding the origin of your irrevocable power. This idea is a kind of chicken or egg, circular dynamic. The secondary medium your power uses, beyond your natural propulsion to express, is the thoughts that shape perception. Or the perception that shapes thoughts

We used to think that it was about working with flowers that we loved alone, but what about the things we don’t like. Well Isiah basically got us to fall back into love with all parts of the flower business. Dropping our preferences and instead getting into what we are doing.getting engaged with it rather than being tense as we run through the task.

Isiah reminds us that our basic premise of working with flowers  is to alter subconscious perception – which alter thoughts; and as thoughts are altered perception continues to shift into the alignments that heal, restore and reinstate (in perception) “your power to fulfill.” To just get into all aspects of it and dropping preferences for some parts of the business and just getting into it.

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This was all nice, but then the sexy part from Mr Mcgee,-Trading Power for Right-ness.

 As he points out, there is an almost irresistible temptation to ‘be right’ in contentious matters (and any matter you find yourself wrestling with is contentious). In arguments with others – and even self – the zeal to be ‘right’ disperses your power rather than propels it forward in fulfillment.

Being ‘right’ does not necessarily fulfill, heal or accomplish (unless you are settling for the pseudo accomplishment of being right just for its own sake which is lateral movement not forward propulsion.) Realizing health, wealth, purpose and love thru releasing the adversary begins by no longer trading your power for right-ness. (This is not about moral rightness but ego-centered rightness.)

That said, here is where the radical application in releasing the adversary comes into play – at least as it relates to relationship challenge and then we will address other areas of expression. You begin saying to yourself – with meaning and intent – “I LOVE relationship!” (Say what, you say!????) Before your knee-jerk reaction to this approach I urge you to remember and understand the context of the approach.

You are not declaring your love for current relationship circumstances – or your thoughts about it – you are profoundly releasing the subconscious adversary towards the nature of relationship itself! This. Is. Radical. As you release the conditioned perspective of relationship through loving the possibility of relationship – you, in effect, are releasing the adversary that sabotages and inhibits the experience of relationship’s harmonious potential.

The science of this is recognizing that you actually cannot get away from using your power. As resentment and “me vs. you”, accrue in the psyche your “natural” power subconsciously empowers the relationship opponent! Your power – whether recognized or not – is akin to a magnifying glass. If resentment and opposition are harbored, your inherent natural power magnifies the expression (experience) of what is harbored.

By the same token, as you ‘love’ relationship (itself, not the current state of things) you release sustaining the relationship adversary unwittingly propelling itself in your experience as conflict. Don’t you want the power of your subconscious to magnify love rather than opposition? (Sounds like a no-brainer to me.)

(The more you realize – without self-blame or self-judgment – that resolution is an ‘inside job,’ the more you no longer cede your power to circumstance, conditions or an individual.)

A Radical Approach

As this radical “love” approach is employed in health you release the unconsciously powered adversary that blocks, impedes or sabotages your natural restorative agency. “I LOVE my hip(s).” “I LOVE my circulation.” “I LOVE my bones, muscle and tissue!” “I LOVE my breast/chest.” “I LOVE my testicles.” “I LOVE my shoulder(s).” “I LOVE my vagina,” etc.

Do not allow this to devolve into affirmation rhetoric – which is what occurs from presupposing that the power is in the words intoned. Nothing could be further from the truth! Which is why surface approaches (the misunderstanding of intent) become exercises in novelty rather than a means of transformation.

As this adversary-release approach is employed from respecting that YOU are the power empowering the words, then words are not reduced to meaningless rhetoric or a mood-oriented belief system. “I LOVE my skin!”

It is important to note from your radical recognition and use of your power, that you are not trying to “make” something happen – just as you do not “make” a plant planted in a garden grow. You are simply, yet profoundly, respecting the power of (your) nature. This is not about effort-ing it is about respecting.

You can employ your reinstated power – in fact it is best to – while engaging present remedies, processes, and treatments. “I LOVE my skin” while applying treatments to it. “I Love my hips” while engaged in physical therapy. I LOVE my (kidney, breast, lung, groin, etc.) while undergoing chemo or using other treatments. I LOVE relationship – regardless of the state of things. “I LOVE my healthy mind” while taking medication for depression.

As you employ the adversary-release approach you allow greater efficacy of any treatment, process or participation occurring because there is no unconscious opponent undermining the process. The result is more effective treatment impact or perhaps less invasive or innovative practices are revealed. Perhaps there becomes no need for the methods and treatments that essentially were battling the unconscious opponent anyway.

Use this approach in financial matters. “I LOVE money!” (“And money LOVES me.”) Have the courage to release all the cultural and societal, rhetoric and belief systems surrounding money so that you can freely employ the adversary-release approach in releasing the subconscious opponent to money forged by the experience of it. (Money is no different from breathing – a means to an end.)

The Novelty Store

An end note regarding novelty and the ego. This is most relevant in the application of health, wealth, purpose, love thru releasing the adversary. Most “new” things (an approach, a treatment, an exercise workout, an idea, etc.) will initially be enthusiastically embrace as the mind processes incoming data through the novelty – the newness – of it.

Once novelty wanes – which is natural because the brain takes in untold amounts of incoming data daily so it must relegate or toss out relatively “old” data (such as this empowering information) to absorb incoming daily data.

The ego by its nature has little use for “old” data – this is why workout programs, new habits, and new practices initially embraced with gusto will be dropped or the resolve dissipates. The ego has moved on to newer data. (We unfortunately blame ourselves for lack of ‘will power’ – when it is really this natural phenomenon at play – but that is another post.)

Just being aware of this brain phenomenon empowers you to not be its victim! Apply this useful technique to program into the brain the “habit” of adversary-release: Put a weekly reminder – right now – in your calendar to READ this post ONCE PER WEEK (download it, print it – whatever means makes it convenient for access).

The brilliance of this technique is that, by nature, your brain absorbs something “new” – something different in the post will become relevant – from each reading. This will constantly re-introduce novelty to the brain/ego permitting the consistency of absorption to become reprogrammed process! (That [advice] will be five cents please.)

(I am not interested in your temporary empowerment, inspiration or motivation from liberating information; I am interested in your true capacity to transform your life. This happens through true reprogramming).

Celebrate your health, wealth, purpose, love thru releasing the adversary to its natural expressions!

Not creating fake musts and should’ s, not making ‘deadlines’ to motivate self,  shifting away from holding a gun to our heads.Yes we are ambitious florists, we love the work, however  its not about working on the verge of a panic attack from making everything  essential.  Instead its about loving the part of ourselves that is all about shoulds and musts as part of that love that  ebbs and flows as life.

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Making friends with real of self imposed deadlines is one way of turning an adversary into a friend….that’s what not posting a blog post for a while with fresh visuals taught us. Not to fight with our own creative ebb and flow. To fall in love with how we work is the basis of love!

Wonder what you think?

 

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

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Flowers for World Gratitude Day: September 21st 2017

Beloved Flower Lover,

Its’ time to say thank you. The only thing we have to do right now is to get into  giving thanks  and we do it again on World Gratitude Day.

Its a time to reclaim our selves and relax into the process of gratitude. We have all the time in the world to get into it. We are fascinated with what we are gratitude for. It allows us to tap back into our natural way of being. We don’t have to practice it. We don’t need to turn it into a discipline. We are not worried about fixed time and the bla bla of that. We have all the time we need.

Professor Robert Emmons of the University of California suggests we only need five mins of it to enjoy great benefits. http://www.ucdmc.ucdavis.edu/medicalcenter/features/2015-2016/11/20151125_gratitude.html.

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His research found the following:

  • Keeping a gratitude diary for two weeks produced sustained reductions in perceived stress (28 percent) and depression (16 percent) in health-care practitioners.
  • Gratitude is related to 23 percent lower levels of stress hormones (cortisol).
  • Practicing gratitude led to a 7-percent reduction in biomarkers of inflammation in patients with congestive heart failure.
  • Two gratitude activities (counting blessings and gratitude letter writing) reduced the risk of depression in at-risk patients by 41 percent over a six month period.
  • Dietary fat intake is reduced by as much as 25 percent when people are keeping a gratitude journal.
  • A daily gratitude practice can decelerate the effects of neurodegeneration (as measured by a 9 percent increase in verbal fluency) that occurs with increasing age.
  • Grateful people have 16 percent lower diastolic blood pressure and 10 percent lower systolic blood pressure compared to those less grateful.
  • Grateful patients with Stage B asymptomatic heart failure were 16 percent less depressed, 20 percent less fatigued and 18 percent more likely to believe they could control the symptoms of their illness compared to those less grateful.
  • Older adults administered the neuropeptide oxytocin showed a 12 percent increase in gratitude compared to those given a placebo
  • Writing a letter of gratitude reduced feelings of hopelessness in 88 percent of suicidal inpatients and increased levels of optimism in 94 percent of them.
  • Grateful people (including people grateful to God) have between 9-13 percent lower levels of Hemoglobin A1c, a key marker of glucose control that plays a significant role in the diagnosis of diabetes.
  • Gratitude is related to a 10 percent improvement in sleep quality in patients with chronic pain, 76 percent of whom had insomnia, and 19 percent lower depression levels.

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So where we stand, we are grateful to have you as our dear friends reading this material. We are grateful for a platform from WordPress that enables us to being able to share ways to enhance wellbeing using flowers. We are grateful for flowers and all their impacts.

We invite you to go through today and give thanks for something you appreciating in your life and send your gratitude . You might even like to use flowers to send a message of gratitude to someone or place some in your home or office environment to remind yourself of all that you are thankful for.

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

p.s. If you want let us know how this process attracts more things to be thankful for.

 

The Team,

 

The London Flower Lover

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What does Christine Northrup say about Happiness and why we love Flowers and Kintsugi, the process of loving broken things?

Beloved Flower Lover,

Looking through wilted lavender vintage roses and listening to the radio, we re-discovered Dr Christine Northrup, the medical doctor who is a pioneer for women’s happiness and just smiled at our selves with deep gentle soft eyes.

antique rose bouquet count on what counts

We wondered, if you actually focused on the language of happiness and the choice to feel happiness despite the inadequate circumstances. But before wondered about you, we thought, do what Byron Katie says, pay attention to your own business and that was a question which was so needed. This lead to another conversation, because we were not OK with living with habits of scaring ourselves to death and using martyr language that was not great.  So,suppose you would like to explore some more pleasure in life what might you do?

We did several things after that in our team and thought about our habits.  Some of the ladies in the team  went and found flowers that they loved. Over and over again, they were not the flowers that were  so called perfect ones. They were the ones with change, some wilting, some decaying. We opened up our minds and accepted their perfection. Then one woman in to the team pointed to a vase which she loved but which had become broken. She had put tape onto it and continued to use it,even in some of our photo shoots. In Japan, instead of tossing the vase, some craftsmen practice the 500-year-old art of kintsugi, or “golden joinery,” which is a method of restoring a broken piece with a lacquer that is mixed with gold, silver, or platinum.

We feel we have been on that golden joinery, linking flowers as a practice to the joy of life. The process of growing and change. Rather than being embarrassed with the sticky tape, to instead notice “it’s very important that we understand the spiritual backgrounds or the history behind… the material.” This is interwoven with the philosophy of wabi-sabi, which means “to find beauties in broken things or old things,” .

gift of autumn flowers

We have been reading the work of . Dr Mario Martinez and Dr Douglas Holt. Martinez , invites us to find out who are our cultural editors and cultural co editors. He invites us to consider this question.

Who taught me/you/us to think to be what you/we want to change?

As you reflect on the answer consider, are they really in the best position to edit your life?

Holt, invites us to ask awkward questions of a brand. Does it stand up for the contradictions in society? In fact does it speak with the voice of the contradictions of a society ? Does it help us to find a story to reflect the meaning of our lives? Does it help us to redefine, re edit our life? e.g. to give birth to inner receptor sites of self love.

We felt super vulnerable talking about this in the team as we noticed parts of ourselves that still needed the attention.  Instead we felt the fear gone as we each noticed in our own way putting our hands on our hearts and loving ourselves.

We think about that, especially as ever since this blog started, we talked about how we have been blogging about flowers and the putting real contradictory,sometimes unspoken issues that women and men face when dealing with self love are experiencing. The inflamed topics  in  a society where, we habitually celebrate the birthright of men and women to experience love.  That it. Our radicalness for our brand is to state openly that we completely love and accept all the love, support and beauty around us.  That you can never be to sad to help the sad, to unhappy to help the unhappy, to poor to help the poor.

Instead giving that love support and beauty to ourselves and others in a gentle way is what we do. It’s a gentle work that we do as we put our hands on those flowers which may be wilting or fading and love up on them.

gift of autumn flowers

As we conclude today’s thoughts we appreciate the words of  Joseph Campbell  quote even more. “that give up the life you planned to welcome the life waiting for you.”

Filling up with joy and pleasure, we ask for even more joy and pleasure to overflow as we give thanks for all that has passed, that is to come as we stand today in  the today of appreciation of life.

 

The Team,

 

The London Flower Lover

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