Beloved Flower Lover,
Have you noticed how you feel when you see someone else receive flowers- ask yourself how can you Let flowers help open up your heart so you can release loneliness and experience love? Part 2
A healthy self-esteem will empower you to connect to your higher love life self in a way that makes you more intuitive, creative, and independent in your love life. You will be more flexible and willing to admit mistakes and correct them.
The reason for that is simple. A person with low self-esteem already does not have a high opinion of themselves, so being wrong in their love life is a confirmation that something is not right or good about them.
So, they become inflexible and resistant to admit and correct perceived mistakes. A person with a healthy self-esteem will not see a setback in their love life as a failure. It will enable them to search for the lesson that will give them love wisdom.
Those with a poor self-esteem in their love life will look for areas that others can order their lives. They fear being free and independent because the unknown offers a chance for failure rather than an opportunity for advancement.
They seek safety in that which is undemanding. They want the familiar rather than anything that would cause uncertainty.
Walking your love life will put you in spaces and mindsets that are uncertain. The test is to remain calm in knowing that all will be well.
Poor self-esteem shows up in our love life as control freaks, the rigidity of beliefs, and fear of the unfamiliar in our love life. Poor self-esteem would rather conform to prescribed standards and will be defensive when their worldview is challenged.
Understanding how a healthy self-esteem manifests is vitally important to developing loving relationships and trusting your own subjective experience.
This is really hard for most coming out of a tell me what to do mindset. You have been told what to think, how to think, and how to be based on a prescribed concept. Everything has to fit into a certain box for you to belong to the in-crowd. If you steer away from those ideas, you are judged harshly, and even your love life may be at stake. Therefore, you get used to checking with some authority, before you decide on when, and to whom to open up your own heart. Loving yourself first is not even on the agenda. Yet in fact it is the best time to begin to think about forming a self-love connection, without embarrassment. This is the basis to love someone else.
Once you understand the love box, you do not even have to check with anyone or think about it. You comply, and all decisions and responsibility for those decisions are made for you.
Your caregivers gave you those beliefs and now it maybe the time to revisit those self-love beliefs. forgive yourself and others and begin the discovery of who you really are.
Start to link giving yourself flowers as a symbol of you taking care of that important part of yourself. Start to recognise your intention each time you buy them for yourself that you are in fact expressing self-appreciation and acceptance for who you are today. This is self-love.
Visualise and imagine you giving yourself flowers and feeling that surge of a constant flow of self-appreciation, and the energy of self-acceptance, fizzing all around you as you bubble within with self-appreciation. Those flowers are a wonderful renewing reminder of that feeling.
The London Flower Lover