Beloved Flower Lover,
Everybody has something about themselves that they don’t like; something that causes them to feel shame, to feel insecure, or not “good enough.” But what next? We offer a few suggestions inspired by Kristin Neff’s self compassion approach.
1)Write a letter to yourself about this issue from a place of acceptance and compassion?
Sometimes we realise that we cannot run away from ourselves and have to find another way to experience ourselves. Self compassion is another way to experience yourself. Have a read of the following chapter. Self Compassion Chapter K Neff
2) So ever thought about getting in touch with the different, often conflicting parts of yourself (the criticizer, the criticized, and the compassionate observer), experiencing how each aspect feels in the present moment. Just observing them without commenting. This is often best done in quietness.
3) Then another step: By acknowledging your self-critical voice and re-framing its observations in a more friendly way, you will eventually form the blueprint for changing how you relate to yourself long-term.
4) Another approach is to consider how do you think things might change if you responded to yourself in the same way you typically respond to a close friend when he or she is suffering?
5) Keeping a daily journal in which you process the difficult events of your day through a lens of self-compassion can enhance both mental and physical well-being. This exercise will help make self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness part of your daily life.
Sometimes its not enough to know, its about actually doing it and more importantly knowing that small steps act as doing it. So well done for expressing your true self compassion because we can feel it going out into the world.
We invite you to enjoy flowers to express your love to yourself.
We love you!
The London Flower Lover
learn more from Kristin Neff Self Compassion Chapter K Neff