We love self compassion and flowers- Kristin Neff teaches us how Self compassion which is different to self esteem can change your life

Beloved Flower Lover,

Everybody has something about themselves that they don’t like; something that causes them to feel shame, to feel insecure, or not “good enough.”   But what next? We offer a few suggestions inspired by Kristin Neff’s self compassion approach.

1)Write a letter to yourself about this issue from a place of acceptance and compassion?

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Sometimes we realise that we cannot run away from ourselves and have to find another way to experience ourselves. Self compassion is another way to experience yourself. Have a read of the following chapter. Self Compassion Chapter K Neff 

2) So ever thought about getting in touch with the different, often conflicting parts of yourself (the criticizer, the criticized, and the compassionate observer), experiencing how each aspect feels in the present moment. Just observing them without commenting. This is often best done in quietness.

3) Then another step: By acknowledging your self-critical voice and re-framing its observations in a more friendly way, you will eventually form the blueprint for changing how you relate to yourself long-term.

4) Another approach is to consider how do you think things might change if you responded to yourself in the same way you typically respond to a close friend when he or she is suffering?

5) Keeping a daily journal in which you process the difficult events of your day through a lens of self-compassion can enhance both mental and physical well-being. This exercise will help make self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness part of your daily life.

Sometimes its not enough to know, its about actually doing  it and more importantly knowing that small steps act as doing it. So well done for expressing your true self compassion because we can feel it  going out into the world.

We invite you to enjoy flowers to express your love to yourself.

We love you!

The team,


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Welcome to The London Flower Lover. We are florists who create floral collections to tell your real life story. With colour and texture, we take floristry into an entirely new direction based on the challenges and joys of your life. Offering what we call 'heart based floristry' we use style, fashion, and life situations and merge them with heart based lifestyle support. This inspiring blend creates so much more for those who love flowers. Using flowers in the traditional way of course, but always using flowers to open up a floralicious conversation about relationships of all kinds. We are a sort of work in progress of compassionately confirming how we are already on the inside, the love we want to see out in the world. That is mission of The London Flower Lover. So saying yes to recognising that is at the heart of this blog and using flowers to honour that inner world is how we use the beauty of giving and receiving flowers. This blog is your blog. It's as much about cultivating your heart, as it is about enjoying the physical beauty of flowers. It offers story, poems and video to reflect the life you actually live whilst showing beautifully inspiring collections of flower designs. Hand-tied bouquets, arrangements and more. All this with sought after tips from well established experts on how to keep a happy heart. This is what makes The London Flower Lover unique and magical. Yes, and that's how we make the difference that we do. When life looks, feels, or sounds challenging, we offer a sanctuary that you may dip into. A well of refreshment and strength that you may draw from. Sharing what others have found to be successful ways of being happy in the face of challenges, whilst letting flowers do the talking when we have no other way to interpret what is going on. Use flowers to help you re-discover, reveal and remember how you can still be despite challenges. Use flowers to celebrate and to embody the possibility of your heart felt desire, fulfilled. Use flowers in your life, to remind you of the beauty of your life. Use The London Flower Lover today. We invite you to stay curious in this floral universe as you explore the love in the heart. This is a floralicious world.
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