Self fulfilling prophecy and flowers

Beloved Flower Lover,

A Self Fulfilling Prophecy is a prediction that causes itself to come true due to the simple fact that the prediction was made. This happens because our beliefs influence our actions.

For example, if a woman thinks that her husband will leave her for another woman, she will act in ways that will directly or indirectly cause her belief to come true. She might get jealous easily and make a fuss about him being friends with other women. She might pick fights whenever she suspects that he is cheating on her, or she might go through his personal things to look for evidence of cheating. Eventually, her actions will put a strain on their marriage, and her husband just might leave her, causing her prediction to come true.

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Have you ever been asked to do a task, such as maybe you’re starting a new job, and you believed before you started that you wouldn’t be good at it? Maybe you thought to yourself, ‘I’m not going to be able to do this,’ only to try it out and realize that your fears were correct? This is known as a self-fulfilling prophecy.

A sociologist named Robert K. Merton created this term in 1948 to describe a false definition of the situation evoking a new behavior, which makes the originally false conception come true.

In other words, the prediction we make at the start of something affects our behavior in such a way that we make the prediction happen.

Self-Fulfilling Prophecy in Action

Going back to our earlier example, let’s say you’re starting a new job as a receptionist but have never done that type of work before. You may have a strong belief that you won’t be able to handle the responsibilities. As you begin your job, you can’t think clearly, you keep saying negative things to yourself about the work you’re doing, and you’re in a lousy mood, so the customers dislike you.

Three weeks later, you lose the job. In this case, your negative expectations at the beginning of the job have affected your behavior to the point that your prediction comes true. Once that happens, we believe that our prediction must have been correct, which only encourages our confidence in future predictions, thereby perpetuating a reign of error, as Merton put it. Self-fulfilling prophecies are not limited to affecting only ourselves; we can also make predictions about other people that create the same type of results.

So let’s think about flowers, love, friendships, work, your health, your finances.

Where might you need to be radical to think you have real hope, real energy, to solve real problems? Where might you want to use flowers as your signpost symbol to remind yourself that you are flowering into that very wonderful thing you  predicted?

 

Just a thought

 

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

p.s. what else do you predict for yourself today?

About Thelondonflowerlover

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