Avoid being killed by deadlines-Not turning writing a blog post about flowers into an adversary-instead go make good floral art and let the blog post flow!

Beloved Flower Lover,

The team have been really busy recently. Not surprising. You might have noticed that we have not always been posting fresh new images, even repeating some. Initially it was a strategy to fill in space whilst we felt guilty, but now deepened our appreciation of this experience of blogging at The London Flower Lover. It’s began to show us how to release issues of guilt about shoulds and musts.  So we have a few bits here to talk about which may ring true to you  too.

Fed up with forcing the team to do things we don’t want to do. Fed up with deadlines, with a gun against our heads.  We began to explore the difference between motivation and inspiration. Instead of doing battle with our selves, we decided to just enjoy what we got, like existing images and not putting a gun against our heads. Hence why some of the visual repeats that we actually love.


Orange Gerbera and Handbag with purple tulips Collage

Yes,  its a life saver, the ability to make art.  We had been triggered to prepare this post after listening to Michael Neil talking about make good art even on the bad days as its yours alone. Sounded good, but we are high performers and still felt a bit stressed.We decided to allow ourselves to be where we are and  still love to make good art even when  not posting brand new photos. The only thing we have is us, our story, our life as only we can and therefore work in only the way we can.

During this process of relaxing into it this so called ‘failing’ we realized that we were letting go of a sense of fighting, the sense of what things are supposed to be.  This experience of being super busy led us to the work of  Isiah Mcgee who wrote a blog post about not turning what you love into an adversary.  His blog post seemed to articulate what we had been going through. Parts of the post articulated the creative mind. The mind that creates floral designs for life. We felt today was the day to share. The process of letting go of the inner fight. Letting go of strong arming ourselves. Letting go of self intimidation. Releasing it and letting it become a flow of loving what we do, what ever we are doing- because we can indiscriminately love anything. watch a little child play with a box. Some  how we had learnt to be picky and choosy but this taught us to love what we are doing-what ever we are doing.

Mcgee articulated our sense of just enjoying where we were. That allowing for all the phases of blog positing, the super productive times and the less so . Life is big enough to allow for all of it, so why not enjoy the less productive times as well. His  post  articulated the  empowering insight  that talked about  rendering the “opponents” in your life – in whatever ways expressed – invalid.  Isiah points to the fact that resistance occurs when there is something to resist; when the opponent is released so too is the resistance and undue difficulty. So he suggests something different. We remained intrigued in this time.

Thoughts become things Gerbera flowers The London Flower Lover


Here is a snippet from his blog post,

The typical way we approach an issue or matter is to think or say, “I am working on it.” This intention on its surface seems innocent enough, however more frequently than not, the subconscious intent is that of “tackling”, “battling” or “fighting” something. In fact, we often use those very words when describing an issue or matter being addressed.

“I am ‘tackling’ my weight,” “I am ‘battling’ a cold, cancer, arthritis, back, shoulder, hip issues, etc.,” “I am fighting with divorce attorneys,” “I am always ‘dealing with’ difficult co-workers and office politics,” and on and on. This approach creates a phantom menace because of your unrecognized power. (Even thinking you are ‘powerless’ in certain circumstances is an unfortunate inverted use of your power!)

To be very clear – health, wealth, purpose, love thru releasing the adversary is not about becoming a doormat in the challenges before you. Quite the contrary! Mentally and emotionally releasing the opponent in matters is a cunning way of reclaiming and reinstating your power! “How so,” you ask?

Your Intrinsic Power

That question is answered by first understanding what it means to recognize and appreciate your intrinsic power. Most individuals – writ large, society in general – view power as an objective reality. We assign it to those that have money, influence, connections, quasi gender or race authority, etc. These indeed are ways that power is empirically recognized however those things are not the origin of power itself.

Let’s keep this simple. To understand the origins of power you must get quite basic with the nature of power itself. This can be understood through two dynamics. The first is through recognizing the power witnessed in Nature.  Why is nature compelled to do what it does? It is due to the innate Power of expression and intention.

And what is the basis of your fundamental “nature?” (Human identity is not called human nature by accident.) The innate power and intention of Life (nature) is your fundamental ‘nature’ too! As the import of this astounding, intrinsic reality is appreciated you reinstate – in your perception that is – “your power to fulfill

This sounds like a reason to go and make good art, what ever the situation as we have the power to fulfill and express. This stopped us in our flow and became an invitation to just be still for a while.

gerbera vase thelondonflowerlover

Isiah goes onto to say,

Speaking of perception – that brings me to the second dynamic in understanding the origin of your irrevocable power. This idea is a kind of chicken or egg, circular dynamic. The secondary medium your power uses, beyond your natural propulsion to express, is the thoughts that shape perception. Or the perception that shapes thoughts

We used to think that it was about working with flowers that we loved alone, but what about the things we don’t like. Well Isiah basically got us to fall back into love with all parts of the flower business. Dropping our preferences and instead getting into what we are doing.getting engaged with it rather than being tense as we run through the task.

Isiah reminds us that our basic premise of working with flowers  is to alter subconscious perception – which alter thoughts; and as thoughts are altered perception continues to shift into the alignments that heal, restore and reinstate (in perception) “your power to fulfill.” To just get into all aspects of it and dropping preferences for some parts of the business and just getting into it.

Orange Gerbera and bag purple tulips The london Flower LoverCollage

This was all nice, but then the sexy part from Mr Mcgee,-Trading Power for Right-ness.

 As he points out, there is an almost irresistible temptation to ‘be right’ in contentious matters (and any matter you find yourself wrestling with is contentious). In arguments with others – and even self – the zeal to be ‘right’ disperses your power rather than propels it forward in fulfillment.

Being ‘right’ does not necessarily fulfill, heal or accomplish (unless you are settling for the pseudo accomplishment of being right just for its own sake which is lateral movement not forward propulsion.) Realizing health, wealth, purpose and love thru releasing the adversary begins by no longer trading your power for right-ness. (This is not about moral rightness but ego-centered rightness.)

That said, here is where the radical application in releasing the adversary comes into play – at least as it relates to relationship challenge and then we will address other areas of expression. You begin saying to yourself – with meaning and intent – “I LOVE relationship!” (Say what, you say!????) Before your knee-jerk reaction to this approach I urge you to remember and understand the context of the approach.

You are not declaring your love for current relationship circumstances – or your thoughts about it – you are profoundly releasing the subconscious adversary towards the nature of relationship itself! This. Is. Radical. As you release the conditioned perspective of relationship through loving the possibility of relationship – you, in effect, are releasing the adversary that sabotages and inhibits the experience of relationship’s harmonious potential.

The science of this is recognizing that you actually cannot get away from using your power. As resentment and “me vs. you”, accrue in the psyche your “natural” power subconsciously empowers the relationship opponent! Your power – whether recognized or not – is akin to a magnifying glass. If resentment and opposition are harbored, your inherent natural power magnifies the expression (experience) of what is harbored.

By the same token, as you ‘love’ relationship (itself, not the current state of things) you release sustaining the relationship adversary unwittingly propelling itself in your experience as conflict. Don’t you want the power of your subconscious to magnify love rather than opposition? (Sounds like a no-brainer to me.)

(The more you realize – without self-blame or self-judgment – that resolution is an ‘inside job,’ the more you no longer cede your power to circumstance, conditions or an individual.)

A Radical Approach

As this radical “love” approach is employed in health you release the unconsciously powered adversary that blocks, impedes or sabotages your natural restorative agency. “I LOVE my hip(s).” “I LOVE my circulation.” “I LOVE my bones, muscle and tissue!” “I LOVE my breast/chest.” “I LOVE my testicles.” “I LOVE my shoulder(s).” “I LOVE my vagina,” etc.

Do not allow this to devolve into affirmation rhetoric – which is what occurs from presupposing that the power is in the words intoned. Nothing could be further from the truth! Which is why surface approaches (the misunderstanding of intent) become exercises in novelty rather than a means of transformation.

As this adversary-release approach is employed from respecting that YOU are the power empowering the words, then words are not reduced to meaningless rhetoric or a mood-oriented belief system. “I LOVE my skin!”

It is important to note from your radical recognition and use of your power, that you are not trying to “make” something happen – just as you do not “make” a plant planted in a garden grow. You are simply, yet profoundly, respecting the power of (your) nature. This is not about effort-ing it is about respecting.

You can employ your reinstated power – in fact it is best to – while engaging present remedies, processes, and treatments. “I LOVE my skin” while applying treatments to it. “I Love my hips” while engaged in physical therapy. I LOVE my (kidney, breast, lung, groin, etc.) while undergoing chemo or using other treatments. I LOVE relationship – regardless of the state of things. “I LOVE my healthy mind” while taking medication for depression.

As you employ the adversary-release approach you allow greater efficacy of any treatment, process or participation occurring because there is no unconscious opponent undermining the process. The result is more effective treatment impact or perhaps less invasive or innovative practices are revealed. Perhaps there becomes no need for the methods and treatments that essentially were battling the unconscious opponent anyway.

Use this approach in financial matters. “I LOVE money!” (“And money LOVES me.”) Have the courage to release all the cultural and societal, rhetoric and belief systems surrounding money so that you can freely employ the adversary-release approach in releasing the subconscious opponent to money forged by the experience of it. (Money is no different from breathing – a means to an end.)

The Novelty Store

An end note regarding novelty and the ego. This is most relevant in the application of health, wealth, purpose, love thru releasing the adversary. Most “new” things (an approach, a treatment, an exercise workout, an idea, etc.) will initially be enthusiastically embrace as the mind processes incoming data through the novelty – the newness – of it.

Once novelty wanes – which is natural because the brain takes in untold amounts of incoming data daily so it must relegate or toss out relatively “old” data (such as this empowering information) to absorb incoming daily data.

The ego by its nature has little use for “old” data – this is why workout programs, new habits, and new practices initially embraced with gusto will be dropped or the resolve dissipates. The ego has moved on to newer data. (We unfortunately blame ourselves for lack of ‘will power’ – when it is really this natural phenomenon at play – but that is another post.)

Just being aware of this brain phenomenon empowers you to not be its victim! Apply this useful technique to program into the brain the “habit” of adversary-release: Put a weekly reminder – right now – in your calendar to READ this post ONCE PER WEEK (download it, print it – whatever means makes it convenient for access).

The brilliance of this technique is that, by nature, your brain absorbs something “new” – something different in the post will become relevant – from each reading. This will constantly re-introduce novelty to the brain/ego permitting the consistency of absorption to become reprogrammed process! (That [advice] will be five cents please.)

(I am not interested in your temporary empowerment, inspiration or motivation from liberating information; I am interested in your true capacity to transform your life. This happens through true reprogramming).

Celebrate your health, wealth, purpose, love thru releasing the adversary to its natural expressions!

Not creating fake musts and should’ s, not making ‘deadlines’ to motivate self,  shifting away from holding a gun to our heads.Yes we are ambitious florists, we love the work, however  its not about working on the verge of a panic attack from making everything  essential.  Instead its about loving the part of ourselves that is all about shoulds and musts as part of that love that  ebbs and flows as life.

Shift around our lives Orange Gerbera and wood flowers The London Flower Lover

Making friends with real of self imposed deadlines is one way of turning an adversary into a friend….that’s what not posting a blog post for a while with fresh visuals taught us. Not to fight with our own creative ebb and flow. To fall in love with how we work is the basis of love!

Wonder what you think?


The Team,

The London Flower Lover

About Thelondonflowerlover

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