Tips for turning an adversary into a friend with floral power

Beloved flower Lover,

Sometimes we need to learn how to turn an enemy into a friend. Including if that enemy is ourselves.

We need to turn hostility into peace. Into harmony, into being able to work in union.

Sometimes we need to be reminded how to become friends with ourselves.

You know what it is like. We can make conscious decisions to do something, but somehow it does not happen. Another part of ‘us’ has another agenda. This is the part that we need to be friends with. The part of us that we need to be in harmony with. The part of us we need to inspire to work in harmony, rather than see it as our enemy  or as it’s victim.


Joseph Clough an expert in these things suggests the following.


First thing in the morning

  1. Connect with ourselves through some gentle breathing. Just noticing our breath.
  2. Get back into resourceful state by recalling a situation or person who openly appreciates us
  3. Then to pre teach the mind by hallucinating ourselves behaving in harmony with the part of us that is doing something else. Seeing it in agreement with your conscious direction and being openly willing to peacefully be friends with each other.
  4.  this is an essential stage  because the mind cannot figure out whats real or not, so its an essential aspect of the process of turning an enemy into a friend. The pre teaching process is in fact based on the fact that the body works in sync with the vivid picture or as Clough calls it, “hallucination” that we feed it with words and pictures in the inner movie we call our imagination.

Clough also suggests we do the following routine last thing at night:

So as you go to sleep at night ask

  1. What can I learn from the day?

And then to allow our dreams to do the rest.


Clough states that by connecting to ourselves like this, growing new ways of behaving in the pre learning phase and then taking time to learn from our results, means that we are all  always growing in the process of turning an enemy into a friend. And as we said, this includes being friendly to parts of our own selves that seem to  behave in opposition to what we have directed.


practise being friendly with ourselves, within ourselves, towards ourselves first.


Now is your time to totally thrive,


The Team,

The London Flower Lover,

p.s. perhaps give flowers during the pre teaching, pre learning phase and notice what happens.


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