Flowers for Lovers asking should I stay or should I go? What would you advise them to do?

Beloved Flower Lover,

Sure, we know it’s that time to celebrate love, creativity and beauty. That it’s a time to just focus on right now and appreciate life now. So we consider a client’s question which she posed today.


She called in.

She was annoyed with him. He was planning to take his time with her. He wanted to be perfect for her and did not feel he could be right now. She wanted to be married now. She wanted to live like how she imagined her parents had. Both were upset with each other. Right now.  They were in another story. No action. Just upset. None could find the appreciation of the fact that they had some much to be thankful now. She was planning to tell him to go.

What’s the next step?

Is there a disappointment ahead-based on an old story?

Is there a need to do something different?

Will it meet their standards?

Is it ok to do something and its not perfect?



  1. High standards and low expectations

  2. High expectations, and low standards

  3. lower expectations

Different starting points and storylines


They had lots of thoughts. Scary, happy, nervous, disappointment.

  • Will we be great at first, or do we just get to be great over time?
  • do we turn everything into a referendum about how good we are? or do we assume we are ok-now?
  • Are we willing to try and fail and then learn
  • Is there a new seed idea which is required to re-steer the direction?
  • thelondonflowerlover

Underneath all of that. Underneath all of that desire to control a situation what next?

  • What would you recommend to them.
  • Is this the basis of creativity.Is this what this creativity cycle is about


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Then we notice what’s around us. Being able to  respond to those opportunities at this moment because we are not fixed, we are free o choose to enjoy our thoughts and feelings in any direction we wish to steer them.

Is that the celebration of creativity?

Is that it’s beauty. Is that what a union between people is about?

We can make up new stories about ourselves and others and in fact, we heard someone say,

“if we can control other people they would come with a remote control” annon.

What if it was ok to be surprised about life. That we do not need to  know  everything now.That was ok to wait in the stillness for those answers to come. What if it was ok that we could enjoy being innocent and  curious.To sit in the quiet and to listen for the answers.

What if we made it ok to for us to be able to let things,by firstly listening in the quietness and then let what happens, happen rather than force it to happen the way we want it to be?

What might happen next?

Control or curiosity!



The Team,


The London Flower Lover

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About Thelondonflowerlover

Welcome to The London Flower Lover. We are florists who create floral collections to tell your real life story. With colour and texture, we take floristry into an entirely new direction based on the challenges and joys of your life. Offering what we call 'heart based floristry' we use style, fashion, and life situations and merge them with heart based lifestyle support. This inspiring blend creates so much more for those who love flowers. Using flowers in the traditional way of course, but always using flowers to open up a floralicious conversation about relationships of all kinds. We are a sort of work in progress of compassionately confirming how we are already on the inside, the love we want to see out in the world. That is mission of The London Flower Lover. So saying yes to recognising that is at the heart of this blog and using flowers to honour that inner world is how we use the beauty of giving and receiving flowers. This blog is your blog. It's as much about cultivating your heart, as it is about enjoying the physical beauty of flowers. It offers story, poems and video to reflect the life you actually live whilst showing beautifully inspiring collections of flower designs. Hand-tied bouquets, arrangements and more. All this with sought after tips from well established experts on how to keep a happy heart. This is what makes The London Flower Lover unique and magical. Yes, and that's how we make the difference that we do. When life looks, feels, or sounds challenging, we offer a sanctuary that you may dip into. A well of refreshment and strength that you may draw from. Sharing what others have found to be successful ways of being happy in the face of challenges, whilst letting flowers do the talking when we have no other way to interpret what is going on. Use flowers to help you re-discover, reveal and remember how you can still be despite challenges. Use flowers to celebrate and to embody the possibility of your heart felt desire, fulfilled. Use flowers in your life, to remind you of the beauty of your life. Use The London Flower Lover today. We invite you to stay curious in this floral universe as you explore the love in the heart. This is a floralicious world.
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