Beloved Flower Lover,
Sure, we know it’s that time to celebrate love, creativity and beauty. That it’s a time to just focus on right now and appreciate life now. So we consider a client’s question which she posed today.
She called in.
She was annoyed with him. He was planning to take his time with her. He wanted to be perfect for her and did not feel he could be right now. She wanted to be married now. She wanted to live like how she imagined her parents had. Both were upset with each other. Right now. They were in another story. No action. Just upset. None could find the appreciation of the fact that they had some much to be thankful now. She was planning to tell him to go.
What’s the next step?
Is there a disappointment ahead-based on an old story?
Is there a need to do something different?
Will it meet their standards?
Is it ok to do something and its not perfect?
High standards and low expectations
High expectations, and low standards
Different starting points and storylines
They had lots of thoughts. Scary, happy, nervous, disappointment.
- Will we be great at first, or do we just get to be great over time?
- do we turn everything into a referendum about how good we are? or do we assume we are ok-now?
- Are we willing to try and fail and then learn
- Is there a new seed idea which is required to re-steer the direction?
Underneath all of that. Underneath all of that desire to control a situation what next?
- What would you recommend to them.
- Is this the basis of creativity.Is this what this creativity cycle is about
Then we notice what’s around us. Being able to respond to those opportunities at this moment because we are not fixed, we are free o choose to enjoy our thoughts and feelings in any direction we wish to steer them.
Is that the celebration of creativity?
Is that it’s beauty. Is that what a union between people is about?
We can make up new stories about ourselves and others and in fact, we heard someone say,
“if we can control other people they would come with a remote control” annon.
What if it was ok to be surprised about life. That we do not need to know everything now.That was ok to wait in the stillness for those answers to come. What if it was ok that we could enjoy being innocent and curious.To sit in the quiet and to listen for the answers.
What if we made it ok to for us to be able to let things,by firstly listening in the quietness and then let what happens, happen rather than force it to happen the way we want it to be?
What might happen next?
Control or curiosity!
The London Flower Lover