Beloved Flower Lovers,
As you might know we are in the wedding and self love business. We post pictures about flowers and how they relate to our everyday lives. We are of use to our community because we offer flower arrangements that people can use to convey feelings of genuine love and kindness.
Seems so simple. So effective. We find that just by giving and receiving flowers people’s stress levels reduce. For both giver and receiver. So these simple acts of loving kindness act like a subtle health insurance on the whole heart.
The flowers are really a part of an emotional coaching kit and connection building activity that results in creating safer spaces for the free flow of love and the airing out of bad feelings between people. Great value for money we feel for whole hearted wellbeing. Anyway, after hearing about the book ‘Wabi Sabi’ love by Arielle Ford, we found her comments about the research by John Gottman about staying out of divorce and being in love breathtaking. We found his research provided lots of little tips that linked with so much other research we have found about kindness, the heart and sharing beauty from nature.
On reflection, love is not exclusive to romantic relationships as Robert Holden’s book on ‘Loveability’ reminds us. In fact we are deeply aware of not getting lost in the false notions of romantic love as being our only source of love. Love is in all our relationships. Smiling we feel richly warmed by Harville Hendricks reminder that we can heal each other into wholeness through our intimate romantic relationships. Or as Iylanya Vazant says, “feel the peace from broken pieces”.
Any way, as you look at this short clip you may like to note down the ratio of loving kind acts that you may need to put into action to compensate for just one negative behaviour in your relationship.
So it seems that our emotional bank accounts needs a 5 to 1 ratio top up. An investment that plants seeds which pay back and pay forward in our lives. And it starts with us. Our own love for self.
Five positive acts for one negative seems to be the plan. Now of course we are going to suggest that maybe flowers might be involved with expressing just one of those loving acts of kindness. Sorry we are really laughing at ourselves here, such a blatant plug. Anyway let’s get back to the education. What else does this prompt you to give as a loving act of kindness?
Peace and joy from the laughing team!
The London Flower Lover
p.s. what follows is a lot more great research on marriage which may give good ideas for giving and receiving flowers.
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