Beloved Flower Lover,
I was so scared I would lose them
Sometimes the result is becoming hyper independence, or clingly.Either way, its the same issue. Teal Swan talks a lot about that here. About how to respect ourselves whilst learning how we are one. She talks about boundaries which are guidelines for how someone relates the self to the rest of the world. They are rules of conduct built out of a mix of beliefs, opinions, attitudes, past experiences and social learning. Personal boundaries operate in two directions, affecting both the incoming and outgoing interactions between people.
Teal talks about how ,personal boundaries help to define an individual by outlining likes and dislikes and what is right for them personally or wrong for them personally. Defining these things helps us to know how we will and wont allow ourselves to be treated by others.
The biggest issue isn’t that other people violate our boundaries, it’s that we violate our own boundaries. By letting someone violate our boundaries, we violate our own boundaries. This is self-betrayal. Your boundaries are defined by your feelings. Your feelings will always tell you whether a boundary of yours has been violated, no matter what kind of boundary it is. In this episode, Teal explains how boundaries are not a contradiction to oneness and teaches us how to develop healthy boundaries.
Ultimately, we use flowers to help us articulate that space within to relax enought to hear the answers to the points Ms Teal has so gently shared here.
We offer her thoughts to you as our gift today.
The London Flower Lover