Her dad died, her kids were grown,her husband ignored her, she decided to find her own 5 reasons for using flowers to experience her own inner joy and peace

Beloved Flower Lover,

She stood looking out of the bedroom window staring at Calla Lillies. Her father had planted them and each year they just got bigger.She never ever thought to cut them and bring them into the house even though she would buy roses to put into vases.

Not the easiest month. No way. She had all the usual suspects going on, health, finances, romance,parenting, community issues. Her father had just died. Her mother had died three years prior.She had the family house now, yet she also had any and every issues you can imagine. She either had had it or was going through it now.

Yet she had been learning that she had inner abilities to make her life bloom. She  had been learning about her divine self image and knew she had to use her imagination for something else,other than worry. So she turned to flowers becaused she recognised that they made her smile. An alternative companion.

Yes a great recovery resource but she was switching and twitching.No one was home,her husband was always on the computer, smoking ciggies or drinking.The children were grown and practically out. She tried to  call a few friends after seing them on instagram, whatsapp and facebook but they were all busy. She tried to listen to her favourite radio shows, but got bored. She tried to clean the clutter in the kitchen. That stopped after one second! Instead she breathed,smiled, looked at her dad’s photo and felt  her energy rise. She realised she was terrified that she would become like him. Moany, no money and diabetic.

She had stirred herself and decided to find 5 reasons for meet her inner exploration of peace and her joy instead of her self condemnation, guilt,anger, sadness, fear, and worry.She decided it was time to face her morose despair. She had nothing to loose.

She got a pink sheet of paper and began to write 5 reasons to use flowers to experince peace and joy.

1.Flowers can make you smile beautifully

2.A beautiful smile can remind you of a joyful playful time

3. That smile is energy,  and energy is the potential to do something

4. A smile directs that energy towards a goal,an objectivive, a target, that potential to do something, the ability to accomplish something was in her smile.

5. That joyful,playful smile can dissolve any negative image that she had of herself a she touched her heart and imagined herself.


“it’s time” she said,”for a fun that is really joy, not dependent on externals”.She had been saddened by her husband saying he had no time for her that day.

“for peace, not based on avoiding challenges”, but knowing that she can dip into that picture of herself whenever she had a romantic challenge.She realised that she had to stop babying him,the children, even her friends and focus totally on her own self. On being brave enough to just feel her good reasons for living and really feel how beautiful she felt when he thought of all the reaon for being alive. She was free to do this.

She knew she was scared that she would close her heart like her father, who had great dreams, but once he got ill felt that life had done him a great disservice.

She went back to an idea she was mulling over in her heart. The idea for oneness. Or in other words, knowing that nothing was against her. Or instead she imagined how the challenge was for her, rather than against her.

She breathed touched her heart looking at those Calla Lillies and decided to bring them inside.”That could be the power of flowers-the lesson of an open hearted with more space for more love, not less”

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Her husband was still smoking ciggies and coughing in the mornings, her children out-possibly smoking pot, her friends on social media- gossiping, her parents were still both dead, but she had grown in confidence about the unknown.She was free to imagine herself as she really was.



The Team,

The London Flower Lover


calla lilly selection The London Flower Lover.





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Welcome to The London Flower Lover. We are florists who create floral collections to tell your real life story. With colour and texture, we take floristry into an entirely new direction based on the challenges and joys of your life. Offering what we call 'heart based floristry' we use style, fashion, and life situations and merge them with heart based lifestyle support. This inspiring blend creates so much more for those who love flowers. Using flowers in the traditional way of course, but always using flowers to open up a floralicious conversation about relationships of all kinds. We are a sort of work in progress of compassionately confirming how we are already on the inside, the love we want to see out in the world. That is mission of The London Flower Lover. So saying yes to recognising that is at the heart of this blog and using flowers to honour that inner world is how we use the beauty of giving and receiving flowers. This blog is your blog. It's as much about cultivating your heart, as it is about enjoying the physical beauty of flowers. It offers story, poems and video to reflect the life you actually live whilst showing beautifully inspiring collections of flower designs. Hand-tied bouquets, arrangements and more. All this with sought after tips from well established experts on how to keep a happy heart. This is what makes The London Flower Lover unique and magical. Yes, and that's how we make the difference that we do. When life looks, feels, or sounds challenging, we offer a sanctuary that you may dip into. A well of refreshment and strength that you may draw from. Sharing what others have found to be successful ways of being happy in the face of challenges, whilst letting flowers do the talking when we have no other way to interpret what is going on. Use flowers to help you re-discover, reveal and remember how you can still be despite challenges. Use flowers to celebrate and to embody the possibility of your heart felt desire, fulfilled. Use flowers in your life, to remind you of the beauty of your life. Use The London Flower Lover today. We invite you to stay curious in this floral universe as you explore the love in the heart. This is a floralicious world.
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2 Responses to Her dad died, her kids were grown,her husband ignored her, she decided to find her own 5 reasons for using flowers to experience her own inner joy and peace

  1. Reblogged this on IdealisticRebel's Daily View of Favorites and commented:
    Brilliant. Hugs, Barbara


    • Happy Day to you. We really appreciate how this touched you. The intense feeling touched us to. We really thought about how acknowledging old scars and using flowers to help us to take on ‘love energy’ and to permit us to fill up the gaps within. Thanks for sharing this with so many others-Yaaaah! We know that thoughts are things and we picture those readers, as well as ourselves wildly happy, smiling and warmly embracing as a result of relating to this piece and perhaps even realising that flowers can led us by the hand and remind us of who we really are. Loved!


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