Is self love possible if you stress it? or do you need to enjoy the love you already have…like the way you love a pretty flower? You decide

Beloved Flower Lover,

We love flowers and always encourage people to play with them as a way to express self love. However some people tend to feel or think we have to discipline ourselves to follow through on matters to exact a greater degree of progress with our aims and goals. Yet this very idea of discipline often creates resistance to follow through because the need for discipline usually emerges from feelings of guilt or judgment about a matter.


What we have noticed is missing from this well-meaning intention (the act of discipline) is the context that can promote the resolve and commitment to follow through on matters of relevance.

What is this that promotes and encourages the power to follow through on things?

It is Self-Love.



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Have you noticed that if  completing tasks, goals and aims is engendered by guilt, repercussion, and judgment what we find  is that we are really in resistance to the toxic perceptions and feelings of guilt, fear and judgment now associated with the matter.

It’s human nature to avoid unpleasantness. For sure!

Yes, we want to let  go of the guilt, fear or sense of futility regarding certain things. So the first order of business  to dissolving the resistance (also known as procrastination) is to replace toxic feelings about a matter with self-love. That’s what we encourage here. And that’s how we suggest you use flowers. Give to yourself. To others, but know why you are doing this.

It’s all about energy!

Imagine that your feelings of productivity and progress came from self-love rather than thinking badly about yourself. In other words, begin regarding the task before you as an act of loving the self.

Mmmmm….both a challenge and an invitation – a challenge to wake up to who you really are and an invitation to experience joy and learn peace along the way.

Imagine that you are demonstrating and expressing love to and for self when engaging in the act of fulfilling an intention.

Imagine to feel well about self – the feeling all meaningful endeavors elicit – is an act of loving self.

Practice switching to this. Become pre occupied with this. Putting this positive self love flowing from you.

So how about avoiding desiring to accomplish a goal solely because “you’ll be better for it” and focus more on seeing the task before you as an opportunity to express the love you have for yourself and the expression of well-being.

Gosh this sounds kinda sexy!

It’s a daily process. It’s a pre occupation.

The more you perceive your actions in anything as an act of self-love the greater the tendency to create positive associations about the thing being addressed.

The London Flower Lover

The London Flower Lover

Even if the task is one of typical frustration and boredom  – see the feelings of accomplishment as self love. Yeah even those ‘yuk’ situations.

‘less of a relief and more a feeling of self-contentment.

The reason one feels relief after completing certain tasks is because one is actually relieved that the imposed source of guilt and judgment is alleviated – proving that those toxic associations are not good for productivity and progress in the first place.

Self-love is not an emotional sentiment; it is an energy that promotes confidence, security and courage.

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As you see the many tasks before you as opportunities to demonstrate or cultivate self-love you create a powerful force that empowers greater powers within for accomplishing and succeeding. You just get pre occupied with joy.

You say to yourself,

“I am engaging and completing this because it feels good to my being to accomplish a desire of my heart.” That…. is self-love.


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This  attitude begins to neutralize feelings of ‘yuk’ .  And as love for self is boosted you begin to “love” accomplishing things and procrastination as a way of life becomes a thing of the past. Yippeeeeeeeeeeeee. We would love to find out how it works for you….


The Team,


The London Flower Lover

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About Thelondonflowerlover

Welcome to The London Flower Lover. We are florists who create floral collections to tell your real life story. With colour and texture, we take floristry into an entirely new direction based on the challenges and joys of your life. Offering what we call 'heart based floristry' we use style, fashion, and life situations and merge them with heart based lifestyle support. This inspiring blend creates so much more for those who love flowers. Using flowers in the traditional way of course, but always using flowers to open up a floralicious conversation about relationships of all kinds. We are a sort of work in progress of compassionately confirming how we are already on the inside, the love we want to see out in the world. That is mission of The London Flower Lover. So saying yes to recognising that is at the heart of this blog and using flowers to honour that inner world is how we use the beauty of giving and receiving flowers. This blog is your blog. It's as much about cultivating your heart, as it is about enjoying the physical beauty of flowers. It offers story, poems and video to reflect the life you actually live whilst showing beautifully inspiring collections of flower designs. Hand-tied bouquets, arrangements and more. All this with sought after tips from well established experts on how to keep a happy heart. This is what makes The London Flower Lover unique and magical. Yes, and that's how we make the difference that we do. When life looks, feels, or sounds challenging, we offer a sanctuary that you may dip into. A well of refreshment and strength that you may draw from. Sharing what others have found to be successful ways of being happy in the face of challenges, whilst letting flowers do the talking when we have no other way to interpret what is going on. Use flowers to help you re-discover, reveal and remember how you can still be despite challenges. Use flowers to celebrate and to embody the possibility of your heart felt desire, fulfilled. Use flowers in your life, to remind you of the beauty of your life. Use The London Flower Lover today. We invite you to stay curious in this floral universe as you explore the love in the heart. This is a floralicious world.
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