Beloved Flower Lover,
What if what ever I did today had more hugs,touch,kisses and flowers and it was always reciprocated,what would I, you,we do? How would I, you, we feel?
The same, better, different, worst?
In her book, The How of Happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky describes a study in which students were assigned to two groups.
One group was the control; one group was assigned to give or receive at least five hugs each day for a month — a front-to-front, non-sexual hug, with both arms of both participants involved, and with the aim of hugging as many different people as possible. The huggers were happier.
Another study showed that women who got hugs several times a day from their husbands had lower blood pressure than those who didn’t get hugged as often.
Interesting fact: to be most effective at optimizing the flow of the chemicals oxytocin and serotonin — which boost mood and promote bonding — hold a hug for at least six seconds.
Along with hugging, playful and affectionate touching makes you feel closer to the people important to you. And touch is important even with strangers — studies show that subliminal touching (touching so subtle that it’s not consciously perceived) dramatically increases a person’s sense of well-being and positive feelings toward you, the toucher. For example, research shows that when restaurant servers touch their customers, they increase their tips by more than 3 percent.
Expressing affection (in whatever way you express it) makes a big difference in relationships. For instance, people are 47% more likely to feel close to family members who frequently express affection than to those who rarely do so.
But there’s another reason to express affection. One of my most important Personal Commandments in the team is to Act the way we want to feel. We think we act because of the way we feel, but often, we feel because of the way we act. By acting in a loving way, we prompt loving feelings in ourselves. It’s much harder to be angry or annoyed with someone when you’re kissing or hugging or touching.
Be careful, however, to keep those physical expressions of affection appropriate. The non-sexual nature of full-frontal, two-armed hug might be misinterpreted, if you’re not careful.
Giving and receiving flowers changes people’s lives and is all about boosting this every magic. So what if what ever I, you,we did today had more hugs,touch,kisses and flowers and it was always reciprocated,what would I,you,we do?
Go hug, go touch, go give flowers!
The London Flower Lover