Day 15: 21-Day Self Care Bootcamp Using Flowers

Beloved Flower Lover,

Welcome to day 15 of the 21-Day Self Care Bootcamp using Flowers.

Self care is not about ‘congratulations’ when we do all the ‘nice things’ that we have had planned for ourselves.  Self care is about loving yourself with compassion when you make mistakes too.

What if you are able to love up on yourself when you did not achieve all your goals.

How does that sit with you?

Well we were thinking about the concept of being ‘in between a rock and a hard place’. Where what ever you do, or however you relate to someone, they will not ‘win’ in your eyes.

We sometimes do that to ourselves too. And admonishing ourselves until we get things right can be a bit much….we mean it, how many more beatings from our ‘inner child’ must we receive before we decide it’s enough. Well this became really clear on today’s May 4th Bank Holiday Monday in the UK.

“Bank holiday sucked”,

she said this to herself after looking at Facebook and seeing what everyone else did.

Another woman called and said how she felt fed up because her siblings were out shopping in town with their children and she was at home with her children as her husband was out working. Again!

How old are you? How old are you?

….the conversation went back and forward. Then one of the women eventually said it…

…the other one stood with her mouth open, agast….



The comparison game……..a la laaaaa, are you feeling better or worst than others?

Well one thing we know is that Self Care is not about ignoring feelings of regret, rejection or disappointment. Say for example, someone you sent a text back does not text back because of all the reasons that’s involved in their life… get the picture. And you don’t have to give the politically correct answer. Sit with it…. Well, what if you did not need that text returned to allow yourself to love up on yourself?

Let’s breathe that….maybe re-create ourselves….mmmmmmm……take your time now. No shaming of yourself just because you feel vulnerable. In fact, is this the time to give yourself your own permission to love up on yourself?

It’s o.k. Part of your inner power comes from loving up others, now your inner power in this season of re-dressing the balance, means giving ourselves a ‘crown of self compassion’. Make a decision to love up on yourself first. If you feel like there is some hostility around you if you begin to love up on yourself. Make your decision to love up on yourself. Either way you are safe.

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Then after that inner journey, if you want, reach out after that …

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So what do you feel success is? The house, the car, the family, the job, the business, health and so on.

Well it has many dimensions. What happens if you have none of that? So how about reinterpreting things, rather than it being negative, you could see the gift of the situation. Notice the gift of what has happened to you and that appreciation expanding. This itself brings you feelings off success. If you choose to  find genuine value in what happened , then that shifts the energy. A hugely important step.

….success is right now.

Allow yourself to sit with images, sense of taste, views that create a sense of security, a sense of belonging, a sense of beauty.

……by the way she was in her home sorting out her clutter and clearing her room, and preparing her children to complete their homework.

We look for success because we think it will bring us happiness… yet so many teachers show us that success is a way of life…it’s in your judgement…your feelings…Yes, yes,  yes, we love it when things work out, our dates work out,  our children behave, we have more money than bills in our account. We love all that, but we also are teaching ourselves to love up on ourselves even if it does not happen.

…the difference between a flower and weed is in the judgement.

Sandra Anne Taylor


This 21-Day Self Care Bootcamp focuses on the source of the love, coming from within us, whatever. The 21-Day Bootcamp is about  practising permission giving to ourselves. To love up on ourselves. Whatever…. To sing to ourselves, to laugh with ourselves. Whatever. To honour ourselves….just because. Our intention towards ourselves matters.

female self love with flowers

 “If, of thy mortal goods, thou art bereft,
And from thy slender store two loaves
alone to thee are left,
Sell one & from the dole,
Buy Hyacinths to feed the soul”
– Muslihuddin Sadi,
13th Century Persian Poet

“If I had but two loaves of bread
I would sell one of them
& buy White Hyacinths to feed my soul.”
– Elbert Hubbard

The Team,

The London Flower Lover

p.s. The birthing of the 21-day Self-Care Programme was jointly inspired by conversations with Core Success, Mentoring and Training for Women: Manchester


About Thelondonflowerlover

Welcome to The London Flower Lover. We are florists who create floral collections to tell your real life story. With colour and texture, we take floristry into an entirely new direction based on the challenges and joys of your life. Offering what we call 'heart based floristry' we use style, fashion, and life situations and merge them with heart based lifestyle support. This inspiring blend creates so much more for those who love flowers. Using flowers in the traditional way of course, but always using flowers to open up a floralicious conversation about relationships of all kinds. We are a sort of work in progress of compassionately confirming how we are already on the inside, the love we want to see out in the world. That is mission of The London Flower Lover. So saying yes to recognising that is at the heart of this blog and using flowers to honour that inner world is how we use the beauty of giving and receiving flowers. This blog is your blog. It's as much about cultivating your heart, as it is about enjoying the physical beauty of flowers. It offers story, poems and video to reflect the life you actually live whilst showing beautifully inspiring collections of flower designs. Hand-tied bouquets, arrangements and more. All this with sought after tips from well established experts on how to keep a happy heart. This is what makes The London Flower Lover unique and magical. Yes, and that's how we make the difference that we do. When life looks, feels, or sounds challenging, we offer a sanctuary that you may dip into. A well of refreshment and strength that you may draw from. Sharing what others have found to be successful ways of being happy in the face of challenges, whilst letting flowers do the talking when we have no other way to interpret what is going on. Use flowers to help you re-discover, reveal and remember how you can still be despite challenges. Use flowers to celebrate and to embody the possibility of your heart felt desire, fulfilled. Use flowers in your life, to remind you of the beauty of your life. Use The London Flower Lover today. We invite you to stay curious in this floral universe as you explore the love in the heart. This is a floralicious world.
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3 Responses to Day 15: 21-Day Self Care Bootcamp Using Flowers

  1. This post is inspiring and I particularly love those two verses at the end – wow!


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