Flowers for midwifing her conscious breakup

Beloved flower Lover,

She called in, her voice was tight, she was coming apart in tears.

“I have had enough, he forgot my birthday, he could not be bothered to take me home, he watches TV all day, he is always drinking, his place is a mess, he keeps accusing me of things I have not done, this is not good enough, it’s over, it’s over, it’s over….”

….her story was what her story was… that time…..was she feeding these feelings? was she fueling a story that she was a victim? was she dismissing the love connection that was natural to herself and instead depending on expression of love through him alone? was she breaking up in a way that she thought that she might get support from us to collude with? or feed into hating her partner. Soul mate to soul hate? was she free to create love again? was she a failure in her own eyes? what was the purpose of that relationship? was she really about love? we knew there was always two sides to a story so we kept quiet.

We dignified them both. Neither of them were losers in our eyes.

We did not join in as she talked about breaking apart as well as feeling the waves of agony and pain. We pondered deeply. Breaking up and starting relationships have a correlation. They have such a link.

Time and time again as florists we see the aftermath of the decision that a person has made within themselves about breaking up a relationships. We noticed that the decisions you make as you break up affects how you feel about yourself as you enter the next relationship. So we just listened. No blame or shame for either of the people in this passionate relationship. No blame or shame.

All we did know was that we were not going to rush this conversation and instead invite her through our own stillness to reflect on her ideas about breaking up. Even considering what our society projects onto relationship breakups.

She was about to call again to confirm a time to collect her flowers. So we decided to prepare ourselves with beautiful reflections so we were in the very best place possible to hold that space for love. To look at how love, intimacy and beauty are linked and actually welcome us to go deeper into that place of geninue love.


Now we contemplated what we learnt, we were ready to share love. Knowing that we could heal our own feelings about breakups could heal her at the most tender time of her life.

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We better go and get that bouquet ready now before she comes in.  Yes, it’s time to learn how to apply what we have learnt.


The Team


The London Flower Lover


About Thelondonflowerlover

Welcome to The London Flower Lover. We are florists who create floral collections to tell your real life story. With colour and texture, we take floristry into an entirely new direction based on the challenges and joys of your life. Offering what we call 'heart based floristry' we use style, fashion, and life situations and merge them with heart based lifestyle support. This inspiring blend creates so much more for those who love flowers. Using flowers in the traditional way of course, but always using flowers to open up a floralicious conversation about relationships of all kinds. We are a sort of work in progress of compassionately confirming how we are already on the inside, the love we want to see out in the world. That is mission of The London Flower Lover. So saying yes to recognising that is at the heart of this blog and using flowers to honour that inner world is how we use the beauty of giving and receiving flowers. This blog is your blog. It's as much about cultivating your heart, as it is about enjoying the physical beauty of flowers. It offers story, poems and video to reflect the life you actually live whilst showing beautifully inspiring collections of flower designs. Hand-tied bouquets, arrangements and more. All this with sought after tips from well established experts on how to keep a happy heart. This is what makes The London Flower Lover unique and magical. Yes, and that's how we make the difference that we do. When life looks, feels, or sounds challenging, we offer a sanctuary that you may dip into. A well of refreshment and strength that you may draw from. Sharing what others have found to be successful ways of being happy in the face of challenges, whilst letting flowers do the talking when we have no other way to interpret what is going on. Use flowers to help you re-discover, reveal and remember how you can still be despite challenges. Use flowers to celebrate and to embody the possibility of your heart felt desire, fulfilled. Use flowers in your life, to remind you of the beauty of your life. Use The London Flower Lover today. We invite you to stay curious in this floral universe as you explore the love in the heart. This is a floralicious world.
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One Response to Flowers for midwifing her conscious breakup

  1. Pingback: Friends, room-mates or legendary lovers? Which one are you? You could use flowers to celebrate a geninue turnaround in your relationship today! | The London Flower Lover

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