Flowers and tips about death, grieving and healing your heart

Beloved Flower Lover,

These two weeks we have been involved with funerals and helping those men and women who are supporting those others come to terms with the passing of a loved one. During this time we have watched people love beyond the form and been so inspired.

We do not want to re-traumatise anyone and so offer you tips of comfort on your journey because if nothing changes, nothing changes.

There are so many emotions involved and we found David Kessler’s work to be really supportive at this time. He really offers insight and comfort for us all to consider as we continue to live.

Chinese experts know that the lungs hold grief until they are released. Any loss is held there. All loses including the loss that the world does not recognise are important to honour. So these chi kung exercises in the video here, may be used to help you to release old grief from the lungs. 

my life after my death wreath The London Flower Lover

The greatest tribute and legacy your life can reflect is being peaceful about your life whatever happens, so we offer some of the work from Byron Katie to help you even more.

In this video a man  who is angry at his sister for her ongoing grief at her daughter’s death learns love. It has been eight years, he says, and it’s time for her to get over it. When he questions his assumptions, he discovers a reality that he hadn’t imagined, and his attitude changes. Please click onto the video. It’s well worth it.

http://youtu.be/WiJsXcyN_u4

In peace

The Team

The London Flower Lover

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8 Responses to Flowers and tips about death, grieving and healing your heart

  1. Clanmother says:

    Another excellent post! Thank you!

    • Thank you. we really have seen a lot at the start of this year. These tips are just here to help us all to have something to focus on during a time of change.

      Whatever we discover that we find can help, we offer.

      Thank you always for popping by.

      Pain ,stress and disease is a conversation with and within our hearts. We have a technology, in our hearts to be able to lead us back to peace. We have to science of love in our hearts. Yes we use flowers as our way of bridging that gap from where we are to what we are.

      Each one of us has the blueprint of peace, joy oness and more.

      Again thanks for popping by. and commenting.

  2. I really appreciated this post. As a therapist it is great to be able to offer more support because of the insight offered here by David Kesseler – thank you very much.

    • Feel better now is what we focus on. And this post reminds us of that. We are softened by your reply.We love the work of David Kessler.

      The thing that death brings up sometimes is possibly a fear that maybe we may never experience what we experienced with that person again. Happiness, joy, love whatever. Sometimes death brings up thoughts like, “What if that was my best chance to experience joy, happiness, love through that person?” It feels so finite. They are gone! Well now we begin the journey.We love the way David puts that on the agenda so sweetly.

      Just a temporary place of fear, loss, absence, or rejection that has a place inside of ourselves, a shadow place where we need our love. he helps us to take the emotional journey. he has done it first.Going into this place where we are invited to summon up a picture, a feel, a sense of being loved with these feelings.

      Healing by holding us a lot from a place of no fear. Of believing in wellbeing. tha’s a lot of help for us all.

      We are not just saying this just from a positive thinking place, but from a place of being prepared for an even greater experience of love. Of renewed love. A higher register of love. And when we bring awareness, tenderness, and other sensations of love into our relationship with that fear, we change ourselves. We are practising emotional access to more love.

      It’s a beautiful quality.

      It’s from a higher place from within us. So in the face of a challenge, we can continue choose to feel the relatedness to others even if they are not in the form we once had.

      Like we said before, not every one can admit things today. To over standing that our fear that death brings up can spiral us into an inner place, where we see how it is the best chance for love. It’s a place of choice. Permission, allowing. To self. What direction would we choose to allow ourselves to turn towards? Possibly with flowers in hand.

      Flowers, flowers, flowers, and more helps us to switch on that inner way of summoning up love from within. Giving and receiving them, touching our hearts and taking a deep breath when we feel into that person or situation that has passed into another form. Those flowers we give or receive can inspire us to experience our inner love and expressing it. Calling those things which do not exist before into being. Calling love forward as if it (love, peace, joy, happiness, forgiveness) is really here now. So softened by the emotional journey of love, we give thanks about being able to explore the infinite creative ability of our hearts. Thank you for popping by.

  3. Beloved, you too bring peace and respite with your words, your pictures and the flowers that inspire both. Just looking at flowers, as you well know, brings greater tranquility. I think your choice of tulips in this instance is pure brilliance, because it seems to me that bulb plants are a perfect representation of healing and renewal, appearing dead or deeply asleep in their bulb form but containing the necessary ingredients to produce new and glorious beauty later in bloom, as the memory and example of lost loves can do when we nurture them. Peace and joy to you, too!
    xo
    Kathryn

    • Wow, Kathryn you have said it sooooooooooooo perfectly. We are so glad that you have joined us in this journey. This post is about loving a new normal.

      It’s that love is free, unconditional and death brings up a window of opportunity, a time to see that life loves us. To appreciate our relationship at a time of extreme. A new normal. It’s a time to immerse ourselves in the kiss of life the breathes the truth that we live in an unending circle of life. Just like a seed. The seed honours the evidence of love in a circle that includes death and renewal through inward nourishment.

      Kathryn, you know, sometimes some of us consider that death reminds us about a love gone. A love where we might not be able to share or get our needs met. Sometimes death opens up that lovely exploration. That journey. By giving ourselves attention on this helps, we get to get an intimately gorgeous view on love after death.

      What really happens if we think that love is only about giving and receiving? What happens when that person is inevitably gone? Through death, or because the relationship has changed somehow. What opportunity has our love been given to experience love again, after the suffering? What if we embrace the turning points to thrive. Not fighting it, but building a new way that works better.

      We think about this because we know the pain of the loss of the form. That grief. A time where the ‘form’ changes all the time.When friends and family die. Or as our children are not as small and cute as they used to be, or the office or funding for our job changes, or some other change, loss, or death. We honour find some way of honouring that place first. Its not denying it. It offers a space to find a way to love even thought things keep changing.

      Some of don’t admit that we only will love if it won’t change. Some of us wont admit that we feel the emotions and do not know what to do with them. Where to go next. Some of us don’t trust wht we can do with those emotions next. So we don’t want the burden, the reminder, or the invitation that there is always love around because we never want to expereince the emotions that we do not understand.Yet in many ways they provide us with a chance to digest them. To sort and reorganise them within ourselves. And that’s what makes love in the face of death so satisfying.

      Yes, there is grief when the form changes. And as well allow it to come into our heart with loving attention we change. We feel the respite. As we just entertain the possibility of love and inspiration at hand as we experience the help of seen and unseen hands that support us. Our power is knowing we can choose what we focus on.

      Thank you for sharing your wonderful love. Thank you , thank you.

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