Beloved Flower Lover,
We love, admire and celebrate you. It’s as simple as that. And we love the way that flowers can celebrate you and send you that message in such a natural way.
Yes we are beaming at you!
When we look at the definition of Independence, we read that it is a condition of a nation, country, or state in which it’s residents and population, or some portion thereof, exercise self-government, and usually sovereignty, over the territory. The opposite of independence is a dependent territory.
Well as you know its summer in the northern hemisphere and London is hotting up. It’s summer and that means a change in clothing. One of our gorgeous ladies in our team came in this morning a little cranky. Her attention was all over the place. She was not smiling and well, we just waited for her to update us.
We took a few deep breaths for her….
When she was ready she began to let her words flow, flow flow. She told us about how her new husband who had taken her out the night before had told her that she had ‘ love handles’ around her waist and how that had made her squirm. she said she just listened to his words and was blinking away the tears.
She breathed more deeply, eye cast down, then breathed out some more. She talked a little bit more and explained that he had commented on her having a bad hair day the week before she had not been very domesticated at home.
Now, now, now…
We could all have temporarily joined the ranks of the temporarily insane and un-adorable at that moment as it seemed like fighting talk. Yet we looked round and breathed. We knew he too was undergoing stress and there was always more to anyone picture.
We could have joined in, talked about him, and agreed that he needed a little …but hey we said, this is a powerful opportunity here to increase your pleasure in her own self. In our selves too. Since what goes around comes around.
She was still glum.
She had talked about the fact that since it was summer that she was thinking of putting on one of her ‘gypsy fat dresses’ and to not bother with following through with one of quirky floral designs and instead go for a tamer look. We had just been commissioned to complete some designs for a retail promotion in the park using wood, sparkly jewels on leaves and more based. And all of this was based on her enthusiasm for all things glittery so alarm bells rang. Loudly.
We all talked.
She needed pleasure boot camp. Remembering to be feeling the pleasure in herself first so she could make decision about how she could choose to feel about herself. It seemed like ‘pleasure bootcamp’ had begun as each of us in turn did something pleasurable for ourselves and shared it with her.
After all of that we huddled together and reminded her that she had a job that she loved with us and that challenged her as well as a lively group of friends. That she took great care of herself, and that she always looked beautiful, even on those so called bad hair days and her elder parents and siblings always got looked after amongst her other domestic responsibilities. That as well as how she had got her life together after a divorce and was really appreciating her new husband who she met during a period of making pleasure her priority. Not making him wrong and her right. or vice versa.
We reminded her of how she had made playfulness rather than domination, scolding, hectoring or submission her unfolding. And that the delicious surrendering to her pleasuring and having fun where ever she was at, was her independent decision. She was about independently owning her beauty, flirting, loving her own inner irritations and inviting abundance into her life by giving thanks for all that existed in her now.
She had taken the opportunity to be herself and start her life over. We repeated that she had not achieved this through a paradigm of aggression but instead seducing herself by surrendering to her pleasures. We loved her for her and that energy she brought to the team.
“We love the way you chose to be the Queen in your world. We love the way you adore yourself, enjoy yourself and you have a trail of men after you. You have shown us that there is no aphrodisiac sweeter than a woman who finds herself to be irresistible. So what you gonna do about hubby now?”
Her eyes softened
“me thinks no more crankiness”
She lost her bristles,
She forgot his sarcasm,
She began to regain her composure.
She chose to breathe it out and find the pleasure in it.
We admired that independence to choose to be happy. We admired the choice to even think about being happy.
We are not sure where we got these figures, but apparently half of all marriages end in divorce within the first five years. So investing in one’s own happiness may mean that you will not be behaving in the same ways that our parents and grandparents did marriage. That we will adapt it to suit our current times. We may do if for very different reason today.
So aware of the interdependence between each other. Her deciding to not make him the problem or her focus was doing her marriage differently.
Just hearing that in the team today reminded us that even though we are independent, we are still part of a whole and impact each other. She could have done what she had done with other men. Slowly withdraw from then, instead of feeling fabulous, disqualifying herself and her man as she had fallen out of love with herself. But it was as much of a choice to love ourselves rather than doubt ourselves. To look in the mirror and smile at ourselves as we consider what flowers we may give to ourself today.
The ones that we love the most!
Today we loved the monochromatic floral design which can reflect where you want to place your attention serenely and in peace.
Today she walked in smiling. He had given her a kiss and something more…she would not tell us what, but we all had a good laugh . We all agreed that it was the best thing she had ever decided to do was to put herself on a large diet of self pleasure which was her way of reflecting her modern independence.
The London Flower Lover
having fun in London this summer….