Flowers for tearful breakdown babes’:Winter Solstice Preparations.

Beloved Flower Lover,

After talking in the team it was decided to share with you what could be considered controversial. Even scary.


Well because we always have a smile and always ready to help to talk about tears may not suit TheLondonflowerlover ‘image’. The image of peace may be shattered.

Yet we decided to share anyway. This and the next few Winter Solstice preparation posts will explain why.

We are in the arena of sharing wholehearted love and offer our gift of flowers in the process.  Giving and receiving. We are in the bright and breezy business and are known for that. We are not in the let’s make you ‘uncomfortable’ business.

Yet sometimes when we do everything right, doing it all and never letting anyone see us sweat and nothing goes right.Mostly we let go of any wrestling within, any inner fight but we  also do forget to feel the peace and feel the pain instead. A pain that leaves us unable to experience peace. If only temporarily, because we forgot our nature.

Well a month ago we got angry and it showed. Underneath that anger was fear. And it left us immobile.  Then with our faces smarting with shame for having this anger publically wash over, like multiple tidal waves we felt the shame again. “Never good enough” or “who do you think you are” where the inner and external dialogue in the studio. We just had it. We kicked off and fell into a vulnerable heap.

Worsened by not getting the affectionate hugs expected from close one’s we felt ‘hysterical’ hurt again.

Yet it’s been the many friends from all around the world who stand by us in our struggle. It’s those who have helped us to come back to a sense of peace and find our way back to our heart. Back to each other. We thank you.

Wrestling  and fighting about whether we are being perfect and bullet proof has not worked. Vulnerability and compassion have become our path. What we learnt this last two months is that going to face your challenges means facing shame and embracing vulnerability without wrestling with it. Yes shame and embracing vulnerability instead of running from it. Being willing to embrace both from a place of peace. That place that in stillness can embrace it all. No fight. Even if things on the outside do not seem to yield to your best efforts. Especially then.

We smiled

….a little

During this journey we came across a courageous ‘breakdown babe’ called Brene Brown.  A darling sister, she speaks most compellingly about how ‘we’ all benefit from embracing our vulnerability as we experience emotional breakdowns.

So where are we now? In a different place. A very specific place of re-contemplation of peace as we invite you to share with us. After watching this short video you may like to consider bringing in beauty into your solstice time. Flowers of course are our gift, our focal point guiding us back into the deepest ocean of tranquil rejuvenation. You choose what to be your guide.

If you love and respect yourself  as a  ‘breakdown babe’ or support, encourage and admire ‘breakdown babes’, let us know in anyway you like. Whatever you do, these flowers are for you.

Peace is our nature.

The Team

The London Flower lover

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About Thelondonflowerlover

Welcome to The London Flower Lover. We are florists who create floral collections to tell your real life story. With colour and texture, we take floristry into an entirely new direction based on the challenges and joys of your life. Offering what we call 'heart based floristry' we use style, fashion, and life situations and merge them with heart based lifestyle support. This inspiring blend creates so much more for those who love flowers. Using flowers in the traditional way of course, but always using flowers to open up a floralicious conversation about relationships of all kinds. We are a sort of work in progress of compassionately confirming how we are already on the inside, the love we want to see out in the world. That is mission of The London Flower Lover. So saying yes to recognising that is at the heart of this blog and using flowers to honour that inner world is how we use the beauty of giving and receiving flowers. This blog is your blog. It's as much about cultivating your heart, as it is about enjoying the physical beauty of flowers. It offers story, poems and video to reflect the life you actually live whilst showing beautifully inspiring collections of flower designs. Hand-tied bouquets, arrangements and more. All this with sought after tips from well established experts on how to keep a happy heart. This is what makes The London Flower Lover unique and magical. Yes, and that's how we make the difference that we do. When life looks, feels, or sounds challenging, we offer a sanctuary that you may dip into. A well of refreshment and strength that you may draw from. Sharing what others have found to be successful ways of being happy in the face of challenges, whilst letting flowers do the talking when we have no other way to interpret what is going on. Use flowers to help you re-discover, reveal and remember how you can still be despite challenges. Use flowers to celebrate and to embody the possibility of your heart felt desire, fulfilled. Use flowers in your life, to remind you of the beauty of your life. Use The London Flower Lover today. We invite you to stay curious in this floral universe as you explore the love in the heart. This is a floralicious world.
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14 Responses to Flowers for tearful breakdown babes’:Winter Solstice Preparations.

  1. This month, I was in the same place you were… I send you that hug you didn’t get! Beautiful post x


  2. catnipoflife says:

    Christmas present…in fact, more than one Christmas present…

    catnipoflife is bestowing two awards upon you today…The Very Inspiring Blog Award and my favorite the Don’t Do a Damn Thing Award. I Just Like Your Blog. Here is the badge for the latter:

    I am presently working on the Inspiring award so check back later today for its posting and grab the badge.

    BTW Did you capture your STAR from Awakenings?

    Merry Christmas!
    Sharla aka Catnip


  3. BeWithUs says:

    Hi, we would like to take this opportunity to thank you for the follow and wishing you all the best in this festive season. Cheer~ 😀


  4. piracetam says:

    About Brené Brown Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past ten years studying vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame. She spent the first five years of her decade-long study focusing on shame and empathy, and is now using that work to explore a concept that she calls Wholeheartedness. She poses the questions: How do we learn to embrace our vulnerabilities and imperfections so that we can engage in our lives from a place of authenticity and worthiness? How do we cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection that we need to recognize that we are enough – that we are worthy of love, belonging, and joy?


  5. dranilj1 says:

    Peace is its own reward.


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