Part 1 Exotic Floral Elegance & How childless,unmarried 49 year old changed her love life using flowers for her self care.

Beloved Flower Lover,

Giving way to the change in season with our Floral Autumn Elegance, we began to wonder what we were really giving thanks for. We got softer, softer and softer in our hearts and this led us to come up with what we feel about the autumn collection. They reflect what we call ‘Peace as the New Skill. The infinite skill to uplift anything. Home life, Relationships, health and more.

You know we are Whole Life, Whole Heart florists and write about that. One day we were out and about after coming back from our suppliers. We found ourselves talking to a lady, as we do, about our planned Autumn Exotics and the conversation changed unexpectedly.

Suddenly she began to talk about how she consciously used flowers as a way to stop being so prickly.  To stop going on about having suffered a deep spiritual wound long ago, in her first love. To change they way she had felt about feeling abandoned by her man. How this had led to a deep scar on her soul and psyche. Phew, she just opened up and described how she was using flowers in whatever way to focus on beauty,opportunities and clearing sabotage and fear of abandonment feelings once more.

“ok, this lady is keeping it real”, was our thought bubble.

She knew on an emotional level, it was she who was putting out prickles to keep people away. Interestingly, set she said she was grateful to that part of herself.

She knew she tended to be quite isolated and unable to resolve a hurt, wrong or injustice which she had felt very deeply. She felt gratitude to that part of herself. She knew that this impacted on her attitude to those around them and made her suspicious of people’s motives. She felt gratitude for herself. She recognised and forgave her self judgement.  She said she had felt no rest until she did.  She went onto to say she was often on guard against people hurting her again, so she protected herself by saying hurtful things to others. Again, she infused into all of this thanks for that part of herself, like a child, who could only do what it had learnt to do. She relaxed, knowing that was not its nature and loved that part up even more.

She knew that what she said to those around  her did not always reflect how she really felt. It is merely a way of keeping people at a safe distance. She knew her mouth often ran off and came out with harsh statements. Strong criticism, or meddling corrections. Yet she gave thanks for it all. It taught her that she was the one choosing to focus on this.So she could move on.

She said she loved what we were doing because it was in keeping with her process of  gently inviting herself, as she was now, today, to keep herself aligned with the energy of peace.

We were all ears, curious, intrigued.

It was being grateful for all the events in her past romantic life as far back as it did, that interested us.

We love the way flowers help to peel back the so called contradictions of romance. We know this because of the comments we receive about the courage just coming from reading our posts.We love it.

She said that was the way to stop fighting.

She was 49,unmarried and had no children.

She said she had been giving infinite love and gratitude for all of that and all the events in her heart that had led to that. But said it was not always so easy. That yes, she had been a jealous, hard, bitter,tense worrywort, yet after a few changes in her life, her heart’s calling began to unfold.

She said the only thing she really began to explore was the idea that her nature was peace.Why?  Because she could see she was just existing, inflaming her body, watching TV,working long, long, long hours in central London,eating TV dinners and hardly making the music she loved. She saw a life a head which was more of the same. inflamed. She said she was looking for the difference that makes ‘a’ difference.

She had an acquaintance who was going through lots of health issues, who had decided to open herself to infinite possibilities by simplifying things in her own life. Even on the dawn of going into hospital, she decided that she could imagine seeing the illness as a conversation of peace. To go into the peaceful feelings in her heart that is always there rather than fight it, was her approach, her respite.

Since peace is natural. It’s not mystical or strange. It’s not something to acquire, it’s something to remember as already being part of our everyday self. It’s normal even in stress points. It’s for the times where we have settled for the set point. The ceiling points where we say we cannot express peace in a given experience. Our true peaceful nature takes us beyond that set point just by intending it. We don’t take it for granted,we intermingle with peace, even if it’s the size of a pin prick.

We, us, the team had a thought bubble. What did she do tomorrow with all of that energy?

She said, this woman would use her regularly bought flowers only to consciously remind herself that we can choose to respond to life from this beautiful place.

She was very conscious about shifting her attitude, to give up fighting and instead to welcome a process ,acknowledging the part of her that had forgotten how to feel peace, in each and every life circumstance. That she was ok with this part that had not learnt to feel peaceful. That had not felt safe or supported. This part that reacted to shut up and be quiet. And she had gratitude for it. And now that part had come out in the form of her sickness because it knew she had the resources to heal it now. So she felt love for that part.

She painted this picture of self forgiveness. She painted a picture of learning from this part. and in this picture, this part used the vibrations of flowers. To know peace is already here, happening emotionally right now. So everything is fine as it is.

She talked about how flowers were her evidence of peace and that’s why she gave praise to them, for them.  She gave thanks for being more involved with what’s right than what’s wrong. Hence actively enjoying them for being stylish whilst being comfortably natural.

She talked about how she would feel the stillness, calmness, tranquillity  naturally carried by looking at the flowers into visions of her situation. This daydreaming was her healing.

She talked about how they inspired her, reminded her, focused her inner ‘she’ about her possibility of gracefulness, even in the midst of stress or perceived rejection.

We trembled, a good tremble, the one that invites an application of this message?

Flowers can help us keep a focal concentration on a skill, the skill of transforming and mastering romance, peacefully.

This new skill means that you must work through the emotional quality, the emotional picture of fears and doubts. Do you fear being alone forever? Do you picture yourself doubting that you are even lovable? What is the real picture of loss you are experiencing? What is the lonely future you are seeing?

If you are panicking and that is quite understandable, what could you picture differently? If you hurt and you can’t stop the tears. What could you do next easily?

How can you possibly use the presence of flowers to enter a beautiful picture, a new dynamic where you see the very best for yourself and others.

It’s by opening up to using the truth of the well designed you that you recognise your natural desires as normal and to forgive yourself and others for being the best that they could be. This is how you open yourself up to your amazing inner elegance. The one that blossoms from the truth.

We know that you have to begin a process within yourself. Your own interior. It starts for you with some  of what we have talked about, some from other processes. It start’s with feeling your feelings. Feeling the hurt, the sadness, the loneliness. It takes the time, it takes to soothe that hurt and change it’s picture. As you feel the pictures you feel, the hurt, sadness, loneliness passes and the peace and happiness  returns.

We all have that simple elegance inside us, and can all choose to enjoy something beautiful to remind us of our true nature.

The Team

The London Flower Lover


About Thelondonflowerlover

Welcome to The London Flower Lover. We are florists who create floral collections to tell your real life story. With colour and texture, we take floristry into an entirely new direction based on the challenges and joys of your life. Offering what we call 'heart based floristry' we use style, fashion, and life situations and merge them with heart based lifestyle support. This inspiring blend creates so much more for those who love flowers. Using flowers in the traditional way of course, but always using flowers to open up a floralicious conversation about relationships of all kinds. We are a sort of work in progress of compassionately confirming how we are already on the inside, the love we want to see out in the world. That is mission of The London Flower Lover. So saying yes to recognising that is at the heart of this blog and using flowers to honour that inner world is how we use the beauty of giving and receiving flowers. This blog is your blog. It's as much about cultivating your heart, as it is about enjoying the physical beauty of flowers. It offers story, poems and video to reflect the life you actually live whilst showing beautifully inspiring collections of flower designs. Hand-tied bouquets, arrangements and more. All this with sought after tips from well established experts on how to keep a happy heart. This is what makes The London Flower Lover unique and magical. Yes, and that's how we make the difference that we do. When life looks, feels, or sounds challenging, we offer a sanctuary that you may dip into. A well of refreshment and strength that you may draw from. Sharing what others have found to be successful ways of being happy in the face of challenges, whilst letting flowers do the talking when we have no other way to interpret what is going on. Use flowers to help you re-discover, reveal and remember how you can still be despite challenges. Use flowers to celebrate and to embody the possibility of your heart felt desire, fulfilled. Use flowers in your life, to remind you of the beauty of your life. Use The London Flower Lover today. We invite you to stay curious in this floral universe as you explore the love in the heart. This is a floralicious world.
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2 Responses to Part 1 Exotic Floral Elegance & How childless,unmarried 49 year old changed her love life using flowers for her self care.

  1. catnipoflife says:

    This is a wonderful post. . .thank you for sharing. My thoughts have also been roses this day. Been updating catnip ( if you have not already read this one. Be sure to click the rose!


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