Part 1 Exotic Floral Elegance & How childless,unmarried 49 year old changed her love life using flowers for her self care.

Beloved Flower Lover,

Giving way to the change in season with our Floral Autumn Elegance, we began to wonder what we were really giving thanks for. We got softer, softer and softer in our hearts and this led us to come up with what we feel about the autumn collection. They reflect what we call ‘Peace as the New Skill. The infinite skill to uplift anything. Home life, Relationships, health and more.

You know we are Whole Life, Whole Heart florists and write about that. One day we were out and about after coming back from our suppliers. We found ourselves talking to a lady, as we do, about our planned Autumn Exotics and the conversation changed unexpectedly.

Suddenly she began to talk about how she consciously used flowers as a way to stop being so prickly.  To stop going on about having suffered a deep spiritual wound long ago, in her first love. To change they way she had felt about feeling abandoned by her man. How this had led to a deep scar on her soul and psyche. Phew, she just opened up and described how she was using flowers in whatever way to focus on beauty,opportunities and clearing sabotage and fear of abandonment feelings once more.

“ok, this lady is keeping it real”, was our thought bubble.

She knew on an emotional level, it was she who was putting out prickles to keep people away. Interestingly, set she said she was grateful to that part of herself.

She knew she tended to be quite isolated and unable to resolve a hurt, wrong or injustice which she had felt very deeply. She felt gratitude to that part of herself. She knew that this impacted on her attitude to those around them and made her suspicious of people’s motives. She felt gratitude for herself. She recognised and forgave her self judgement.  She said she had felt no rest until she did.  She went onto to say she was often on guard against people hurting her again, so she protected herself by saying hurtful things to others. Again, she infused into all of this thanks for that part of herself, like a child, who could only do what it had learnt to do. She relaxed, knowing that was not its nature and loved that part up even more.

She knew that what she said to those around  her did not always reflect how she really felt. It is merely a way of keeping people at a safe distance. She knew her mouth often ran off and came out with harsh statements. Strong criticism, or meddling corrections. Yet she gave thanks for it all. It taught her that she was the one choosing to focus on this.So she could move on.

She said she loved what we were doing because it was in keeping with her process of  gently inviting herself, as she was now, today, to keep herself aligned with the energy of peace.

We were all ears, curious, intrigued.

It was being grateful for all the events in her past romantic life as far back as it did, that interested us.

We love the way flowers help to peel back the so called contradictions of romance. We know this because of the comments we receive about the courage just coming from reading our posts.We love it.

She said that was the way to stop fighting.

She was 49,unmarried and had no children.

She said she had been giving infinite love and gratitude for all of that and all the events in her heart that had led to that. But said it was not always so easy. That yes, she had been a jealous, hard, bitter,tense worrywort, yet after a few changes in her life, her heart’s calling began to unfold.

She said the only thing she really began to explore was the idea that her nature was peace.Why?  Because she could see she was just existing, inflaming her body, watching TV,working long, long, long hours in central London,eating TV dinners and hardly making the music she loved. She saw a life a head which was more of the same. inflamed. She said she was looking for the difference that makes ‘a’ difference.

She had an acquaintance who was going through lots of health issues, who had decided to open herself to infinite possibilities by simplifying things in her own life. Even on the dawn of going into hospital, she decided that she could imagine seeing the illness as a conversation of peace. To go into the peaceful feelings in her heart that is always there rather than fight it, was her approach, her respite.

Since peace is natural. It’s not mystical or strange. It’s not something to acquire, it’s something to remember as already being part of our everyday self. It’s normal even in stress points. It’s for the times where we have settled for the set point. The ceiling points where we say we cannot express peace in a given experience. Our true peaceful nature takes us beyond that set point just by intending it. We don’t take it for granted,we intermingle with peace, even if it’s the size of a pin prick.

We, us, the team had a thought bubble. What did she do tomorrow with all of that energy?

She said, this woman would use her regularly bought flowers only to consciously remind herself that we can choose to respond to life from this beautiful place.

She was very conscious about shifting her attitude, to give up fighting and instead to welcome a process ,acknowledging the part of her that had forgotten how to feel peace, in each and every life circumstance. That she was ok with this part that had not learnt to feel peaceful. That had not felt safe or supported. This part that reacted to shut up and be quiet. And she had gratitude for it. And now that part had come out in the form of her sickness because it knew she had the resources to heal it now. So she felt love for that part.

She painted this picture of self forgiveness. She painted a picture of learning from this part. and in this picture, this part used the vibrations of flowers. To know peace is already here, happening emotionally right now. So everything is fine as it is.

She talked about how flowers were her evidence of peace and that’s why she gave praise to them, for them.  She gave thanks for being more involved with what’s right than what’s wrong. Hence actively enjoying them for being stylish whilst being comfortably natural.

She talked about how she would feel the stillness, calmness, tranquillity  naturally carried by looking at the flowers into visions of her situation. This daydreaming was her healing.

She talked about how they inspired her, reminded her, focused her inner ‘she’ about her possibility of gracefulness, even in the midst of stress or perceived rejection.

We trembled, a good tremble, the one that invites an application of this message?

Flowers can help us keep a focal concentration on a skill, the skill of transforming and mastering romance, peacefully.

This new skill means that you must work through the emotional quality, the emotional picture of fears and doubts. Do you fear being alone forever? Do you picture yourself doubting that you are even lovable? What is the real picture of loss you are experiencing? What is the lonely future you are seeing?

If you are panicking and that is quite understandable, what could you picture differently? If you hurt and you can’t stop the tears. What could you do next easily?

How can you possibly use the presence of flowers to enter a beautiful picture, a new dynamic where you see the very best for yourself and others.

It’s by opening up to using the truth of the well designed you that you recognise your natural desires as normal and to forgive yourself and others for being the best that they could be. This is how you open yourself up to your amazing inner elegance. The one that blossoms from the truth.

We know that you have to begin a process within yourself. Your own interior. It starts for you with some  of what we have talked about, some from other processes. It start’s with feeling your feelings. Feeling the hurt, the sadness, the loneliness. It takes the time, it takes to soothe that hurt and change it’s picture. As you feel the pictures you feel, the hurt, sadness, loneliness passes and the peace and happiness  returns.

We all have that simple elegance inside us, and can all choose to enjoy something beautiful to remind us of our true nature.

The Team

The London Flower Lover

About Thelondonflowerlover

Most busy people struggle with knowing how to really give themselves the time they deserve for genuine self caring. They can get so lost in their daily responsibilities that they lose themselves. They can get sick, tired, or just lose their way. We provide self caring and self loving packages that make use of the natural relaxing abilities of tools like flowers, and so much more, all designed to give a reliable, regular, rebalancing booster, to recharge their inner batteries so that they can enjoy life again. So welcome to this Floralicious universe, where you are the hero. Yes, that's right. We know that you have one clear desire. To be happy. We also know that something is stopping you from getting it. That is where we step in.a Things get done because you allow them to. We are your guide florists who provide you with answers for that stress. We do this using baby steps, providing you with relaxing and beautiful flowers to help you connect with your wellness. In our baby step plans we combine flowers, with a holistic appreciation of what it takes for you to be free of your challenge. In our opinion you are a hero, not a helpless victim. It is our belief that no one needs to struggle with stress if they are guided properly. We gently guide those who are stressed at work, at home or anywhere in between. We guide those who have declared that its time to stop dabbling with what they desire. And using those baby steps, we carefully guide those who are ready to experience a transformation. We would never deny the fact that flowers for your birthday, holidays and special occasions are amazing to send and receive. Those florist that specifically specialise in that line of floristry are fantastic. Yet what we are doing here points you in another direction. It's deeper. It points your attention inwards. To self. To boost yourself up on a REGULAR basis. That's a part of how we guide you through to become free of your stress. We invite you to see how life is breathing you and how you are part of life's nature. So what you uncover is really you discovering your own awesomeness. You learn how that is natural and not an exception. From that point of view , we are inviting you to let go of dabbling around . This process that aligns you with the truth of your nature,puts asleep those doubts that interfere with your desires.Putting asleep the elephant in the room and inviting you to discover your own process of moving from feeling stressed to calm, from feeling uncertainty to being confident, from feeling lonely to being in gratitude for the connections with others. We recognise what you want. We know. We have been there ourselves. We know how it feels and that all you need is a guide, to give you a plan to help you win the day. So we invite you to take the next baby step. If we don't call you to take action, then we are not helping you and life will only stay the same. It will reflect an unexplored set of feelings about your self that could harm your future. Lets put those to sleep and be focused on what is awake within you. We invite you to go forward and take the first tinniest baby step now. THE FLORALICIOUS PLAN Step 1 Sign up to The London Flower Lover blog. Open up your Floralicious conversation about relaxation, perception and flowers of all kinds. Step 2 Sign up for the empowerment plan that will work for you. At this stage are really ready to commit to your self caring. So choose your plan carefully. Each plan makes you available to the mechanics of your personal wholeness because you allow yourself to. No one is forcing you. Each plan gives you a reliable schedule of activity to bring your attention back to yourself. These plans use a mixture of techniques to awaken you . Repeatedly offered through story, gratitude journaling and more as you reflect the life you desire to breathe life into. By using flowers, you experience the boost of beautifully inspiring collections of flower designs. All you need to do is to align with that feeling. This is what makes this package a personal attunement to your natural aliveness and abundance! Step 3 You are now ready to use very specific flowers and self gifting to help you express yourself. You are ready to give yourself a licence to express yourself like never before. No longer intimidated by stress, you use flowers and self gifting to express the life that is breathing you. Your awesomeness is re-discovered, revealed and remembered. We invite you into your own Floralicious universe as you unwind, relax and enjoy happiness beyond stress.
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2 Responses to Part 1 Exotic Floral Elegance & How childless,unmarried 49 year old changed her love life using flowers for her self care.

  1. catnipoflife says:

    This is a wonderful post. . .thank you for sharing. My thoughts have also been roses this day. Been updating catnip (http://catnipoflife.wordpress.com/echoes-of-love/) if you have not already read this one. Be sure to click the rose!

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