Beloved Flower Lover,
Wearing a glorious mix of pale pink, rose quatz around her neck and gorgeous baby pink nail paint from Marks and Sparks, she wandered over to us looking ‘girlfriend hot’ just after picking up her eight year old daughter from her Private Blackheath Village school today. She looked stunning and exuded a soft beauty we wanted to be near to. What’s up, the last we knew she was sorting out divorce papers!
It was still raining and we were dreaming of the rainbows we had been witnessing all around London over the last few showery days.
Dreaming and beaming our attention was gently turned to her.
It was so easy to see she was happy, as we just beamed and listened to her story. She twinkled as she began talking about the man she was now giving serious considered time to. The man that led her ‘to choose’ to let her dating life stop , delete telephone numbers and just become comfortable with getting to know herself again. Warts and all .
Perfect ingredients for a love story,with flowers in the backdrop we thought.
We were enchanted from the beginning. Was it going to be a story of passion spinning out of control when the cortisol in the brain kicked in, causing the stress hormones linked to past unresolved fear, angers, sadness, grief or worry to be triggered. Was the combined lack of sleep, money, child support, diet, going to add to the weight of negative stories shared by men and women about the possible ways that a woman or man can respond to intimacy after past failures.
Was she going to turn her attention to the same ole soap opera or, or, or was there space for another possibility being created in the imagination, her imagination. His imagination. Our imagination. The Universal imagination that we all share in.
Was it going to be a different story?
A different story told through the lens of beauty, yellow, pink, and gentle greens. A story appreciating how appreciation of beauty, any beauty switches on the dance of creativity. A story told through the eyes of experienced men and women, now relaxed as mothers and fathers, open to experience intimacy again. Open to accommodate their story through a different accepting point of view about the value of having a ‘lap dance with adversity’.
We were really compelled to listen to this love story. The gift of seeing how to sincerely create loving compassionate feelings from the inside out after experiencing genuine difficulties. The gift of being able to see possibilities again through a different self image. Divine, gorgeous, and naturally ours.
Having had experiences of loss, betrayal, domestic violence, self neglect, frenemies. Male financial embarrassment. Embarrassed at not having enough to feed another mouth let alone wine and dine! Female forgiveness journeys, where they now where open to finding the soft kind gentle gift sitting within the past heart hardening hostility they had once felt towards a man. To the man they had thought had got away with all the ‘treasure’ that they had they given from their hearts to create.
Epic forgiveness journeys. Golden self forgiveness stories, often shared at on the phone, in the kitchen, coffee shop, at late night card games, or mixed saunas. stories of men and women creating and re-appraising the value of the treasure they received from standing back and re-evaluating the belief that they alone had been the one responsible for turning a someone from homeless to a business success. Re-appraising if they had really been left worst of, a poor victim, holding the baby and nothing else of value to create from.
Compelled by the sweet optimistic joyfulness of it all , we affectionately and quietly smiled as we mused. What a mix of great stories all expressed through their receptiveness to the beauty of flowers.
With all this calm joy combined with her life experience where did the story go?
The London Flower Lover
Coming to london May 13th Frank McComb coming to share his love songs at the jazz cafe. Frank McComb may not be a household name, but people who know their music know him. Session musician in demand by the likes of Prince, his songs are beautiful, the musical genius and lyrics that can take you on an adult love journey with his outstanding voice.