Beloved Flower Lover,
Some interesting research suggests men sometimes give flowers out of guilt. That may or may not be true. And yes, in our work, we often have to be discreet about what to deliver, to who, on what specific day. Be it Mothers day, birthdays, or major holidays.Yet, there is so much more to this experiencing of cheating!
The main thing we learn from all of the people we talk to about this is that, sooner or later, there is a point when a man considers the seeds he has planted.
He may suppress it with drink or other stuff, yet sooner or later at some point, the ‘man thing’, inside a man kicks in. It rings loudly and asks him to measure up.
He begins to counts his results and checks himself against his own standards of integrity. He counts his achievements. He measures his accomplishments. He checks if he had a brave heart. Did he risk? could he have said sorry when he was ‘wrong’ or did he choose to blame the situation, the person, himself?
Having spoken to men in London involved in family life, we have been told that , “A man’s man can actually forgive himself for his mistakes once he begins a warrior path. A path to know who he really is.”
Its not airy fairy, its based on the real practical ways of life.
That it requires of him a sort of cutting with his identity, maybe old friends, old ways of doing things, old ways of seeing things and simply separating from mistakes. This can help a man bring justice into a situation. Being able to be ‘hot’ enough to ‘blaze’, through any attacks and measure a situation from the point of truth.
Peacefully great teachers, show us that, if cheaters are looking for upgrades in their life, that the inner ‘warrior’ of a man invites him to measure his true ‘super powers’. The knowledge of self. How, what he is measuring in his life will produce the results he is looking. And in fact where the upgrade he is looking for really comes from.
One thing the research did not show up in its interpretation was what we see all the time. Men, do and can put aside their excuses.
They can do that.
There are many we see and talk to, who have taken themselves into hand. A kind of journey. They have decided to act in a way that they can measure. With integrity and male strength.They are warriors and often not talked about. They look after their families and walk a whole different path to those who cheat themselves.
They brighten our day.
We know they are alive, strong and growing in number.
What do you think?
If he cheats, who does he really end up cheating we wonder?
The London Flower Lover
p.s and they love to give flowers!