How to stop feeling rejected?

The London Flower Lover

 

Beloved Flower Lover,

Ever felt a drop of your energy when you don’t accomplish or achieve the results you wanted?  Particularly when you make your move with a man or woman and they shut you down cold? Some of the people we have talked to, who have experienced this say it, gets to the point where they can almost see the future – they can perceive or predict rejection before it even happens. OMG!

Now does past rejection give us the ability to see the future?  Not really.

What happens is you want to move forward, but you also want to be totally certain before you take a step. Since these two things are not logically possible you have two conflicting desires knock up against one another. They are at odds with each other. They are energies that are taking you in differing directions. They are attitudes that let you perceive things as a contradiction rather than as any harmony. So that’s what is really going on with this rejection thing. Those feelings in you are competing for your attention. Sometimes the feelings just wants to right wrongs and is not the place to be coming from if you to deal with rejection.

The resulting “friction” is what causes the  distress, agony, and torment. And the perception of “perceiving rejection”. That creates a ‘cling on’, feeling.

We sometimes do not feel very safe about relationships, starting new ones, or dealing with the existing one and so instead get defensive. Yet, defenses do not work. The more safe we play, the more scared we become. Sometimes we even get into using an’ old hurt’ to control our relationships and this just reduces the experiences of intimacy. The relationship becomes boring, ‘safe’ and not very alive. And who wants that.

The solution is to let go and release your requirement, your need, you’re wanting things to be certain and then to feel the natural and basic physical sensations of uncertainty without the internal chit chat we have in our heads or the internal movie maker in our imaginations. Just follow, the path of the natural sensations in your body, noticing every ten seconds out loud if they are “Same” or “Changing”

Once you have the natural physical feeling separated from the internal movie and internal chit chat, it no longer feeds the limiting ideas in the imagination and internal chit chat – there is no more energy to encourage or to power the engine of your ongoing “story” that has kept you limited, so the imagery and dialog just tend to drop without you having to attempt to drop them.

Sometimes the so called rejection is providing you with opportunities to love yourself. To embrace yourself despite whatever happens externally.  It really helps you let go of old hurts, of hurts you brought to the situation and now you have the chance to release them and instead of demanding that things behave in just the way you want. Instead you can be love independent of situation. Be really clear. This is not the end of your love story; your best chance for love is still right here, still here for you, at the present.

The Team

The London flower Lover

p.s. you are in the right place at the right time for love

p.p.s: flowers can be some of the easiest ways to remind yourself that you are worth loving now. Give yourself flowers today

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Welcome to The London Flower Lover. We are florists who create floral collections to tell your real life story. With colour and texture, we take floristry into an entirely new direction based on the challenges and joys of your life. Offering what we call 'heart based floristry' we use style, fashion, and life situations and merge them with heart based lifestyle support. This inspiring blend creates so much more for those who love flowers. Using flowers in the traditional way of course, but always using flowers to open up a floralicious conversation about relationships of all kinds. We are a sort of work in progress of compassionately confirming how we are already on the inside, the love we want to see out in the world. That is mission of The London Flower Lover. So saying yes to recognising that is at the heart of this blog and using flowers to honour that inner world is how we use the beauty of giving and receiving flowers. This blog is your blog. It's as much about cultivating your heart, as it is about enjoying the physical beauty of flowers. It offers story, poems and video to reflect the life you actually live whilst showing beautifully inspiring collections of flower designs. Hand-tied bouquets, arrangements and more. All this with sought after tips from well established experts on how to keep a happy heart. This is what makes The London Flower Lover unique and magical. Yes, and that's how we make the difference that we do. When life looks, feels, or sounds challenging, we offer a sanctuary that you may dip into. A well of refreshment and strength that you may draw from. Sharing what others have found to be successful ways of being happy in the face of challenges, whilst letting flowers do the talking when we have no other way to interpret what is going on. Use flowers to help you re-discover, reveal and remember how you can still be despite challenges. Use flowers to celebrate and to embody the possibility of your heart felt desire, fulfilled. Use flowers in your life, to remind you of the beauty of your life. Use The London Flower Lover today. We invite you to stay curious in this floral universe as you explore the love in the heart. This is a floralicious world.
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