No sex, No woman- Buy Her flowers? No, Take a Cold Shower

Beloved Flower Lover,

We’ve found when people are stuck, their natural tendency is to push harder within the system they are using. That seldom works.

When we talk to people about how they actually change,  we  look for leverage,  the point where it will be different and it is almost never obvious to the person seeking help.

So gentlemen, if you are pushing for her,  check this out.

Think of  this,  a “cold shower loop” and just cool down first, keeping them on ice:

Feels lousy about failures with women…is entangled up with…natural healthy desire for love, sex, fun, companionship, touch…leads to running bad feelings and failure memories in mind…leads to bring entangled, painful emotion, limiting sense of possibility along with legit desires, into interactions with women…leads to freezing or little or limited actions/interactions with unsatisfying result…Feels lousy about failures with women.

And on and on the arrows go…

So our first thought is, if you’re caught in this loop, stop thinking of it as an inferiority “complex”.

Instead, look at the PROCESS, a PATTERN you continue to run. If I took that process/pattern and dropped it into the head, body and energetic field of anyone, they’d be hurt  badly within a few months, even if they previously would be doing really well.

 Most likely there are physiological things going on; when you don’t feel good about your life or significant portions of it, chances are you don’t take proper care of your diet, exercise, sleep etc and then your body feels even worse. A body with poor or limited energy etc is likely to lead to a mind that searches for reasons why you feel bad, when it fact, you may feel bad because your body is tired, undernourished, etc!

So into that loop I would probably put because one feels bad about this area of life, one doesn’t take proper care of physical health  which predisposes mind to put negative interpretations on events to match the bad feelings in body

So, stop looking at yourself as having a “complex” and instead look at the process.

This is our first step, because it shows you how to start finding leverage to feel better physically and emotionally OUTSIDE of your interactions with women.

We are not saying to shift your focus permanently off getting good skills with women. We are saying, temporarily, put a lot more focus in other areas that might be tripping you up and holding you back.

This gets you leverage over the loop, however, there is also a gap: the effects may not show up for a few weeks or months.

But given that, all the more reason to get on it and decide that making a change is something you will do, starting right now.

The Team

The London Flower Lover

p.s. give flowers to yourself

The London Flower Lover

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About Thelondonflowerlover

Welcome to The London Flower Lover. We are florists who create floral collections to tell your real life story. With colour and texture, we take floristry into an entirely new direction based on the challenges and joys of your life. Offering what we call 'heart based floristry' we use style, fashion, and life situations and merge them with heart based lifestyle support. This inspiring blend creates so much more for those who love flowers. Using flowers in the traditional way of course, but always using flowers to open up a floralicious conversation about relationships of all kinds. We are a sort of work in progress of compassionately confirming how we are already on the inside, the love we want to see out in the world. That is mission of The London Flower Lover. So saying yes to recognising that is at the heart of this blog and using flowers to honour that inner world is how we use the beauty of giving and receiving flowers. This blog is your blog. It's as much about cultivating your heart, as it is about enjoying the physical beauty of flowers. It offers story, poems and video to reflect the life you actually live whilst showing beautifully inspiring collections of flower designs. Hand-tied bouquets, arrangements and more. All this with sought after tips from well established experts on how to keep a happy heart. This is what makes The London Flower Lover unique and magical. Yes, and that's how we make the difference that we do. When life looks, feels, or sounds challenging, we offer a sanctuary that you may dip into. A well of refreshment and strength that you may draw from. Sharing what others have found to be successful ways of being happy in the face of challenges, whilst letting flowers do the talking when we have no other way to interpret what is going on. Use flowers to help you re-discover, reveal and remember how you can still be despite challenges. Use flowers to celebrate and to embody the possibility of your heart felt desire, fulfilled. Use flowers in your life, to remind you of the beauty of your life. Use The London Flower Lover today. We invite you to stay curious in this floral universe as you explore the love in the heart. This is a floralicious world.
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