Beloved Flower Lover
No we have not abandoned the flowers, its just that its hot dating time , a week before Valentines and we have just learnt of the 5:1 love ratio. If you learn about it and do it, it will strengthen and reinforce your life completely.
Ok, one of our favourite love gurus Dr Diana Kirschner has something important to say about the 5:1 love ratio.
The Five to One Process
Read over this exercise with your partner. Or do it with yourself if you are solo
For the next hour or so when you are talking or hanging out together, or with yourself try to act the way you usually do. But take two notebooks and each one of you write down the number of positive or negative words/gestures you yourself are making toward your partner. Take another hour and deliberately double the positives.
After this, discuss the experience together.
Its ok if it takes a bit of time, or that may find yourself/selves rolling with laughter. This is good! Not taking things so seriously will set you both free of your negative patterns. It’s really ok.
On your own, track the number of positive word/gestures you put out to your partner, or to yourself- Now, double the amount. Now triple it, and watch what happens. If you keep it up, eventually you will get positives coming back to you. Practice giving and receiving them!
It is very easy to create care-full communication with your partner and yourself Attention to and practice of this skill will go a long way to creating a lasting love relationship. Otherwise you risk losing it all. So definitely practice doing it for yourself, whatever is going on in the relationship so you come from a place of strength.
As Diana says, we are happy and honored to be on this journey with you. We are excited to say that we have created new and fresh floral designs for relationship as a result of the many requests received. Dr Diana herself has also launched a whole new website with funny videos and articles filled with dating tips and relationship advice! Go visit her at www.dating-advice.tv
The London Flower Lover