Beloved Flower Lovers
Many people enjoy flowers to remind themselves of their true expression particulary after they are having a difficult time of it. We wondered a lot about victim hood and just played with it
Lets bring love to the world. ‘A victim’ is a perspective on a situation which can develop into a perspective on life. The question is, do we also have the choice to be other-than-a-victim?
We don’t mean to diminish the terrible things that happen to some people, rather we are aiming to highlight that how we perceive ourselves as a victim is a relationship between one’s self and the world.
This begs the question: how would we like to relate to the world?
We also wonder, is it possible for someone to completely ‘give up’ their capacity to be a victim? We doubt it since the capacity to feel victimised is within us all ,yet we know someone will give us a viewpoint on this.We so welcome it, so please share.
Our guess is that this fear may not so much be about being a victim, but more about the consequences of not being a victim. If we stop considering ourselves as a victim, what then would we have to do? And what would we have to not do anymore? What are we actually giving up?
When a fear is strong enough then just attempting to consider what we would like can be a challenge. However, that’s not a reason to not ask the question – quite the opposite.
As anside, one of the main reasons we put so much emphasis on seeking a desired outcome from a client about their floral designs is because this provokes reactions from those aspects of their system that would rather stay the same. As these manifest the client, the client can consider something different.To recieve light on the ideas.
But what if stating a clear desired outcome is not yet within our capacity? When we recognise that our victim is a perception of a relationship, that knowing can be embodied and we can then set an intention to relate to the world in some other way – even if we don’t yet know what that is. If we set an intention, the contradictions in maintaining a victim position are likely to become more and more apparent. But maintain it we will – if it serves us enough.
What we notice is that you may only be able to take a horse to water, but the more times you do the stronger the message gets. Until, the horse realises drinking is in its own long-term interest.
Who would we be if we changed?
How can we know the answer until we are that person? Again there is a choice: We can either continue being who they are for many years to come (which presumably is unsatisfying), or we can evolve into the unknown. Only at that point will we be able to decide whether our new identity is satisfying enough, and if not, the process will need to continue.
We have found that, paradoxically, before a person can evolve their identity they often have to acknowledge who they are – warts and all. We are referring to a deep acceptance of ‘what is’. When we accept in this way, change is relatively easy. We are not suggesting acceptance is a precondition for identity change (whatever that is), We are saying this is what we have observed happening in a numerous cases.
The bottom line is, do we really want to change? Of course not. We all have a wish that our problems would just go away. However, when that doesn’t happen, sometimes we are prepared to do what it takes. Then we can start doing little things that are aligned with our preferred identity. Mahatma Gandhi wasn’t messing when he said “Be the change”.
If we are unsure what our preferred identity is then we can make a best guess, try it out and get some feedback from the world. Make up a story of what we best want. Then we’ll know whether we want more of that, or to try something else instead. This may be difficult and painful, but no one ever said that change had to be easy, simple and painless. Sometimes it is and sometimes it isn’t. Again no one can know until after they have attempted to make the changes.
Gosh, all of this on the eve of the Chinese New Year.
Use flowers to remind you to your highest expression. Use flowers to remind you to stay with change as you move into a new life. Use flowers to stretch your understanding of yourself so you can move into the change you want. Use flowers, we have tons of ideas for designs for you. Its exciting. The time for change is still here. Why do you care?
We can really help create designs that just reflect what you most want.
Love you all
The London Flower Lover