Appreciation for Chinese New Year

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This is inspired by  James lawley, and his inspiration from an article by Wray Herbert in Scientific American Mind. Herbert describes several pieces of research that demonstrate “the George Bailey effect after the protagonist in the classic film It’s a Wonderful Life who finds renewed appreciation for his life after seeing how past events would have played differently had he not been born.” These experiments had people consider “near losses”, how they might not now have something they value if life had been a little different. Strangely, the researchers found that by considering how what we cherish might never have happened we increase our appreciation of it. Researchers said that ‘poignancy’ – the bittersweet mix of happy and sad emotions – reinforces our appreciation of what we have.

The activity: Get some flowers or use a picture from our gallery and then think of someone or something you’d like to appreciate more or to be more grateful for. It could be a spouse/partner, parent, child, a friend,the Creator –   yourself. Or maybe you’d like to feel greater feelings of appreciation and gratitude for your health, a relationship, your home, or your job,your Creator.

Whatever it is, use the person or situation as a context for the following ‘thought flower experiment’.

Using a spouse/partner as an example, take some time to consider how amazing it is that you ever met. How many events, places and people had to be just right for you two to become involved? Imagine how easy it would have been for you to to have never met. Imagine how if just a few things had been different you wouldn’t be in the relationship you’re in today. How might your life be different?

You can do this on your own and it can be a fun activity to do with your partner. That way you can share in the poignancy and celebrate the gift that is your relationship.

As another example, consider your life. Imagine the thousands of events that had to take place for you to be born. Consider how if just one or two of these had been different you wouldn’t be here today. What if your parents had never met? Were there times when if it wasn’t for someone or some circumstances you might not have survived? What if those ‘close shaves’ had turned out differently?

If your parents are alive you could even ask them to describe just how many ‘coincidences’ had to occur for them to meet, for you to be born, and for you to survive childhood.

Now you’ve got the idea, you can apply the same kind of thinking to whatever you would like to appreciate more.

Remember, the aim of this activity is to invoke and strengthen feelings of appreciation and gratitude. The thought  flower experiment is the window, the doorway, the means to the ends. Once you start feeling the feelings stay with whatever has evoked them, notice where you feel them. Bathe in the vibe  and let your emotions do their job – to move you.

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These thought  flower experiments do not require you to consider or answer “why things turned out the way they did”. Just to note that they did – and how miraculous that is. Whether you believe the ‘miracle’ was due to The Creator,  angel, destiny, fate, individual choice or random chance is not relevant to the activity.

Take responsibility for your own well-being. We believe most people will gain from this activity. However, if you find it is not working for you, then stop doing it and think of something else.

The Team

The London Flower Lover

“The Midnight Ride Effect” Wray Herbert. Scientific American Mind Jan/Feb 2011, pp 66-67.

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Welcome to The London Flower Lover. We are florists who create floral collections to tell your real life story. With colour and texture, we take floristry into an entirely new direction based on the challenges and joys of your life. Offering what we call 'heart based floristry' we use style, fashion, and life situations and merge them with heart based lifestyle support. This inspiring blend creates so much more for those who love flowers. Using flowers in the traditional way of course, but always using flowers to open up a floralicious conversation about relationships of all kinds. We are a sort of work in progress of compassionately confirming how we are already on the inside, the love we want to see out in the world. That is mission of The London Flower Lover. So saying yes to recognising that is at the heart of this blog and using flowers to honour that inner world is how we use the beauty of giving and receiving flowers. This blog is your blog. It's as much about cultivating your heart, as it is about enjoying the physical beauty of flowers. It offers story, poems and video to reflect the life you actually live whilst showing beautifully inspiring collections of flower designs. Hand-tied bouquets, arrangements and more. All this with sought after tips from well established experts on how to keep a happy heart. This is what makes The London Flower Lover unique and magical. Yes, and that's how we make the difference that we do. When life looks, feels, or sounds challenging, we offer a sanctuary that you may dip into. A well of refreshment and strength that you may draw from. Sharing what others have found to be successful ways of being happy in the face of challenges, whilst letting flowers do the talking when we have no other way to interpret what is going on. Use flowers to help you re-discover, reveal and remember how you can still be despite challenges. Use flowers to celebrate and to embody the possibility of your heart felt desire, fulfilled. Use flowers in your life, to remind you of the beauty of your life. Use The London Flower Lover today. We invite you to stay curious in this floral universe as you explore the love in the heart. This is a floralicious world.
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3 Responses to Appreciation for Chinese New Year

  1. Isabelle Gordon says:

    My guy is so getting the benefit of all of this…..I use your posts to uplift myself and get all sexy for a friday night!


    • Thanks this has been a wonderful journey and our intention is to continue to express love and evolve with ease.
      We enjoy looking inside and creating designs that allow to move forward.Infinite love and gratitide.All is well

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