Dear Flower Lover
Someone in the team was reading the work of Topher Morrision because she was getting ready to speak to a client about a contract. She wanted to create a win-win.
It read like this:
For those of you who hate the idea of selling, or negotiating, or striking a deal with anyone, you need to……
…..she stopped, looked up at us and giggled
We looked back and said, “Pardon, you cannot tease us like that…leave that for the one you want to tantalise and excite” we all beamed our eyes twinkled because of course we love it, but we wanted to focus it’s nice work!
When we asked her to sum up what she was reading it seemed like he (Topher-not her lover) was saying.
Let go of being desperate by knowing that if its not to be ,someone else will appreciate and you do not have to forcefully prove that. that what you have is precious. You are in good company. That you are making a request not a demand so be open to no’s. It is ok. Practice being ok with No. Give to yourself. Do not make your entire esteem be based on what others feel about you. If you do, review your past brilliance so you energetically are coming from a place of strength. This is a great opportunity to use either good or bad to enjoy yourself. Take Neither gain or loss to heart!
Seemed like a good set of tips
She read us another section of his work aloud
….its ok………she has a lovely soothing voice so we were ok with just sitting back and listening.
And as we turned into that quiet place within to listen nicely to whatever came up, each one of us noticed where it struck us the most. Where it rested easily and comfortably and what it brought up for us in the sweetest way. The piece went like this.
“Have you ever met someone who brags about how spiritual they are? I’ve always wondered if Gandhi ran around telling people how spiritual he was, or if Mother Theresa did the same? My guess is they never once had to tell someone who they were spiritual because it was so obvious in their behaviour that kind of announcement would have seem unnecessary.
Why is it in business then that when people are trying to negotiate a deal they always try to talk about a “win win” scenario? I’m just as guilty of this as the next person, but I got to thinking today, if I really am creating a “win win” then it should be obvious to the person I’m negotiating with. When negotiating, make sure the “win win” is so obvious you won’t have to mention it.
The team now ask her to read the bits she loves from Topher Morrision before she goes out on a mission. She is a brilliant sharer, and hey, we all get to enjoy more!
Wonder what you think?
Did she get us the floral contract? Well that’s for a later post!
The London Flower Lover
P.S. Oh yeah, he also also-“If the thought of negotiating with anyone for anything makes your skin crawl, there’s something there you really need to know.”
Contact us to design your flower arrangements –we can take the No!