Topher Morrision gave us some advice about how best to use flowers in business deals

Dear Flower Lover

Someone in the team was reading the work of Topher Morrision because she was getting ready to speak to a client about a contract. She wanted to create a win-win.

It read like this:

For those of you who hate the idea of selling, or negotiating, or striking a deal with anyone, you need to……

…..she stopped, looked up at us and giggled

We looked back and said, “Pardon, you cannot tease us like that…leave that for the one you want to tantalise and excite” we all beamed our  eyes twinkled  because of course we love it, but we wanted to focus  it’s nice work!

She laughed……..

When we asked her to sum up what she was reading it seemed like he (Topher-not her lover) was saying.

Let go of being desperate by knowing that if its not to be ,someone else  will appreciate and you do not have to forcefully prove that. that what you have is precious. You are in good company. That you are making a request not a demand so be open to no’s. It is ok. Practice being ok with No. Give to yourself. Do not make your entire esteem be based on what others feel about you. If you do, review your past brilliance so you energetically are coming from a place of strength. This is a great opportunity to use either good or bad to enjoy yourself. Take Neither gain or loss to heart!

Seemed like a good set of tips

She read us another section of his work aloud

….its ok………she has a lovely soothing voice so we were ok with just sitting back and listening.

And as we turned into that quiet place within to listen  nicely to whatever came up, each one of us noticed where it struck us the most. Where it rested easily and comfortably and what it brought up for us in the sweetest way. The piece went like this.

“Have you ever met someone who brags about how spiritual they are?  I’ve always wondered if Gandhi ran around telling people how spiritual he was, or if Mother Theresa did the same?  My guess is they never once had to tell someone who they were spiritual because it was so obvious in their behaviour that kind of announcement would have seem unnecessary.

Why is it in business then that when people are trying to negotiate a deal they always try to talk about a “win win” scenario?  I’m just as guilty of this as the next person, but I got to thinking today, if I really am creating a “win win” then it should be obvious to the person I’m negotiating with. When negotiating, make sure the “win win” is so obvious you won’t have to mention it.

The team now ask her to read the bits she loves from Topher Morrision before she goes out on a mission. She is a brilliant sharer, and hey, we all get to enjoy more!

Wonder what you think?

Did she get us the floral contract? Well that’s for a later post!

The Team

The London Flower Lover

P.S. Oh yeah, he also also-“If the thought of negotiating with anyone for anything makes your skin crawl, there’s something there you really need to know.”

Contact us to design your flower arrangements –we can take the No!

The London Flower Lover


About Thelondonflowerlover

Welcome to The London Flower Lover. We are florists who create floral collections to tell your real life story. With colour and texture, we take floristry into an entirely new direction based on the challenges and joys of your life. Offering what we call 'heart based floristry' we use style, fashion, and life situations and merge them with heart based lifestyle support. This inspiring blend creates so much more for those who love flowers. Using flowers in the traditional way of course, but always using flowers to open up a floralicious conversation about relationships of all kinds. We are a sort of work in progress of compassionately confirming how we are already on the inside, the love we want to see out in the world. That is mission of The London Flower Lover. So saying yes to recognising that is at the heart of this blog and using flowers to honour that inner world is how we use the beauty of giving and receiving flowers. This blog is your blog. It's as much about cultivating your heart, as it is about enjoying the physical beauty of flowers. It offers story, poems and video to reflect the life you actually live whilst showing beautifully inspiring collections of flower designs. Hand-tied bouquets, arrangements and more. All this with sought after tips from well established experts on how to keep a happy heart. This is what makes The London Flower Lover unique and magical. Yes, and that's how we make the difference that we do. When life looks, feels, or sounds challenging, we offer a sanctuary that you may dip into. A well of refreshment and strength that you may draw from. Sharing what others have found to be successful ways of being happy in the face of challenges, whilst letting flowers do the talking when we have no other way to interpret what is going on. Use flowers to help you re-discover, reveal and remember how you can still be despite challenges. Use flowers to celebrate and to embody the possibility of your heart felt desire, fulfilled. Use flowers in your life, to remind you of the beauty of your life. Use The London Flower Lover today. We invite you to stay curious in this floral universe as you explore the love in the heart. This is a floralicious world.
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